Hello guys.
I am new to this.
So I just recently caught my wife being unfaithful.
She is a flight attendant for American airlines.
We have been married for 16 years and she travels almost always two weekends
out of the month or so I thought.
I caught her the first time a couple of weeks ago.
I caught her talking with a man on her phone and she told me
that it was just work related.
I didn't think anything of it at the time, but two days later I
caught her again with his number in my wife's cell phone history.
I don't usually go through my wife's phone, but that time it was
right in my face and I trusted her.
She said it was work-related and I didn't press.
She works with many different pilots from the airline.
And I didn't want to come between her and her profession.
I knew what I was signing up for, but lately our bedroom
life hasn't been the best.
Well, I caught her a third time talking to another pilot, but she was doing it
kind of secretly, which I thought was a huge red flag for me, and I started
to question everything she told me.
I caught her on a webcam talking to this pilot.
She quickly minimized it before I could see what was going on, but she is very
tech savvy and I caught up pretty quick.
So that was the last straw for me, and I started to trust my instincts.
So one day when she was scheduled to fly, I called Verizon wireless
to see if I can get a copy of the wireless bill and bounced the numbers
we both have on our contact list.
Verizon said they would send out a paper copy, but they also said
that I can go online and check, but I never set up an online account.
And, I didn't want my wife knowing I was looking at anything online.
So after talking to the Verizon representative, I made a list of all
the phone numbers I had in my contacts.
So when I get to summary of the Verizon wireless bill, I don't have
access to her phone, but her phone is on the wireless account as well.
My wife leaves for her flight, and two days later I get the
wireless bill in the mail and right away, I noticed three numbers.
She was talking to these men A BUNCH, I hesitated and thought I
don't have access to her phone.
She takes herself to the airline and leaves her car there.
I reached out to a friend of mine who is a lawyer and told him my concerns
and he asked me did I have any proof?
And what makes me think she is being unfaithful?
I told him a few instances and the fact that she is on her phone in odd
places, sounds like she is whispering and she closes down her webcam
immediately when I come into our bedroom.
My lawyer friend said that was all circumstantial and asked
me if I caught her in the act.
I told her I didn't catch her in the act, but her actions make me suspicious.
My friend said that maybe I should hire a private investigator
to see what I can uncover.
I agree with my friend's advice and looked online for a private investigator
and started the process of researching private investigators in area.
I came across a private investigator who was retired from law enforcement, EX FBI
AGENT, and this guy had raving reviews.
So I called the private investigator and we chat for a bit and I make an
appointment to go see him later that day.
When I saw him, he asks me why I think my wife is cheating and I begin
to tell them all the events that I thought her behavior was suspicious.
The private investigator agreed that the talking in the bathroom
quietly and minimizing windows on the computer when I enter can be viewed
as being suspicious, but not concrete.
I told him I had to know, I didn't want to spend another year with a
woman who was messing around on me.
I have already been with her for over 16 years.
So we talk about a few more things.
He told me the price for his service.
He also indicated that he has three other people that work with him.
A few days go by and the private investigator calls me and says, Hey,
didn't you tell me your wife went on a trip and left her car at the airport?
I said, yes, that's what she always does.
He says, well, she hasn't been honest with you.
One of my agents staked out the airport just in case, your wife came home two
days early and drove about an hour away from where you live, he then asks,
have you talked to your wife today?
I said NO.
He then says, when did she tell you she would be home?
I tell him that she wasn't supposed to be home for another three days.
I told the private investigator to get as much information as he can.
After I had that conversation, I called my lawyer friend and asked him, how much
would he charge me to file for divorce?
And how soon can he start the process?
He then ask me what happened?
I told him that I took his advice, hired a private investigator, and
they already found out that she came back two days early and hasn't
been home and hasn't called me.
I told him I will pay what I need to, but I don't need to worry any more.
The fact that my wife of 16 years has come back home and two days
early at that, and hasn't called me.
Yeah, I need to cut my losses and get out of this.
He agrees that her not contacting me and lying is definitely
a huge cause for concern.
So folks, that's it for now.
I am really heartbroken, but I will be better off.
She makes more than me, but I have some investments, including cryptocurrency,
I don't want her getting a hold of.
I plan on divorcing her as soon as I can, and I will be back with an
update to tell you what happened.
Thank you everyone for putting up with my rambling.
Well, as promised I am back with an update.
I don't think I will have another one after this.
My wife was indeed being unfaithful and she was seeing two men behind my back.
As you remember, my wife is a flight attendant that
works for American airlines.
She told me that she was coming home a certain day, but she
came home earlier than that.
The private investigator also uncovered that she was seeing two other men.
I have since consulted with my friend who is a lawyer.
And he is in the process of filing for the divorce.
Since this has all happened, I called Verizon and set up my own account
for my phone, with a new number.
The only person I have given it to was my friend.
When the private investigator told me she was indeed being unfaithful, I
was angry, but I had to do this right.
I didn't want my emotions to influence my decision and making a hasty decision.
It's been three months since this has all happened.
I haven't touched my wife once.
I used to say good morning to her, but I don't do that anymore.
I only say good morning if she initiates it.
Yes, we still live under the same roof, but not for long.
This week, she is supposed to fly to Atlanta for two days.
That's when I will move out.
Oh, I forgot to add, I did find another house, 45 minutes from where I live.
My boss gave me an opportunity for a transfer and I took
it and she doesn't know.
I made sure she would be gone before I start to move out.
Well, that day came and she does what she normally does.
Gets up real early and packs her bags.
This day, I didn't get out of bed to give her a hug and tell her I love her.
I pretended to be asleep.
When she came over to my side of the bed and gave me a kiss on my
forehead, it didn't take long for her to get out the door to head
down the road towards the airport.
She should have been there by 7:00 AM.
From what she tells me, it takes about 20 minutes from when she lands
in Atlanta to the hotel she will be staying, so after she leaves,
I start packing things and making phone calls to move to my new place.
Suddenly, I get a phone call from the private investigator saying my wife
just got to the airport and she met some guy there, they even kissed.
After talking to the private investigator, I was absolutely done.
I called my friend and asked, did he filed the divorce papers.
He said he did yesterday.
And I told him that the private investigator told me my wife went to
the airport claiming she was working.
But, she met some guy there and they even kissed, he said WOW, man, I am so sorry.
My friend then tells me the divorce hearing will be soon.
So, that meant I had to act fast and get my stuff in order.
My first order of business was to get a small moving truck.
I am only taking a few things.
I have enough money to furnish my place.
The house belongs to her.
I could care less.
She has a bunch of student loan debt still and credit card debt.
I am definitely happy to leave that behind.
Next, I had to get in touch with the landlord and get the key.
Around 9:30 AM, my wife calls me and says she has reached Atlanta.
I didn't answer, I let it go to voicemail.
Later that day, I met with the landlord and got the key.
And I started moving things into my new place.
It was only a two bedroom, but it was just me, and it was enough.
I planned to rent this house for a year before I buy my own.
I went to a furniture store.
I ordered a living room set, and a bedroom set.
I already had a TV.
So, I was set.
I was all moved in.
At about 1:30 PM, my friend calls me and tells me that my wife
will be served in about a week.
I thought to myself, PERFECT, because I will be out of the house
and she will wonder where I am.
So, a couple of days go by and I had to get some last minute things at the house.
She isn't back yet, but she is supposed to be back today.
I get what I need, on my way out of the door, a guy walks up to
me and gives me this envelope.
It's the divorce papers.
I thought to myself, perfect timing.
I go back into the house and lay the divorce papers on the counter.
And I found a piece of paper and a pen and wrote next to the envelope,
"THANK YOU FOR OPENING MY EYES".
I walked out of the house and never looked back.
My wife is scheduled to be back this evening.
Later that night, my lawyer friend calls me and tells me that my wife
is looking for me freaking out.
She has called all of my friends and my family, but remember the only person
who has my new number is my friend.
No one else has my new number.
I called the private investigator and ask him to send me what he has
and to conclude his investigation.
The next day, we meet and he gives me photos and video of
the surveillance that they have.
I thanked him and called my lawyer to meet with him to give him the evidence.
As the weeks go by, my friend tells me that he hasn't heard
anything else from my wife.
So the day of the divorce is here, and when I get there, I go in,
sit by my lawyer, and GUESS WHAT?
She didn't show.
My lawyer and I both look at each other, in shock.
We were almost sure that she would show, but she didn't.
The judge asked us was she served?
My lawyer said she was.
The judge decided to wait an additional 15 minutes before
proceeding, but she never showed.
So the judge said okay, I can't wait any longer and proceeded with the hearing.
Long story short, I am a free man.
I didn't want anything.
So, it was quick and painless.
The next day, I go to work, GUESS who is waiting for me?
My ex-wife, she wants to talk.
I told her I don't have anything to say to you.
You were unfaithful and I am no longer married to you.
You threw away 16 years, she says, please, can we talk?
I said NO and I told her if she didn't leave, I will
have security escort her out.
She looks at me and starts to cry, turns around and walks away.
That was the hardest thing I had to do to the woman I loved
unconditionally for 16 years.
But it had to be that way for my sanity.
She broke my heart and I couldn't put up with that anymore.
Thank you guys for listening to me.
I deserve better than that.