we are not born with a natural ability to do everything it's up to us to learn things which
means at some point we are a beginner and flirting is no exception we might be able to pick up on a
body language cue from another person or know how to make a joke but that does not make us flirting
experts it's actually a skill that we have to learn how to do and we have to practice a lot
so in today's video we are going right back to the beginning and focusing on how you can flirt with
your crush successfully and once you understand the fundamentals of flirting your skills will get
better over time even if you consider yourself a seasoned flirting professional it's always
handy to refresh your memory and sharpen your skills so keep on watching like and subscribe
okay first refresher is you need to make eye contact making eye contact with someone can
sound very scary because well it's obvious you put yourself out there and you have to remain
confident because once you catch someone's eye you are showing them indefinitely that you are
interested if you never make eye contact with someone they won't ever know that you really are
interested in them in that way making eye contact with someone can encourage them to walk over
and start a conversation it's a very powerful tool and one that you need to use even when
you are just starting out draw attention to your lips let's set the record straight lips are sexy
both men and the women are attracted to lips and they can be a very powerful tool in flirting
you can draw attention to your lips by biting them licking them slightly or just putting your
hands near them it does need to look somewhat natural and it's not something that needs
to be done over and over again and if you do it once while the other person is looking
it will make a very very good impact the next time you are flirting with someone or on a date
watch them and see if they do anything to draw attention to their own lips
this one can take some practice so be easy on yourself in the beginning practice good posture
no one finds someone who slouches attractive especially when they are on a date with them
it's fine if you are at home on the couch that's a completely different ball game but if you are in
a restaurant or at a bar with your crush you need to look your best you want to be looking your best
sitting up straight putting those shoulders back and lifting that neck very high do not forget to
smile when you first start flirting you might be nervous and do some things wrong and this is okay
but don't forget to smile smiling shows the person that you are flirting with that you are friendly
approachable and very kind and they will feel closer to you and more connected with
you straight away don't smile the whole time you might come across as a little bit unhinged
but if you smile at them when they say something well they will be eating out the palm of your hand
you can introduce touch only because you are just beginning to flirt does not mean that you need to
stay away from touch you can keep it pg because well you want to avoid coming across like a creep
so keep this to short touches touching their arm or shoulder maybe even a leg
don't move things along too quickly with touch but definitely introduce it to show them that you are
interested and this is going to help you to avoid the dreaded friend zone along the lines of touch
let's talk about standing close to someone don't stand too close to someone unless you already have
a connection if you have just met the person then standing too close to them could come across as
intimidating people do not like their personal space invaded and this can create a bad first
impression you need to give them some space so that they feel comfortable and able to get to
know you and once you have that connection well it means you guys can both get a little bit closer
keep the conversation light nothing is less sexy than talking about politics or some other
form of boring topics you want to stay away from these topics of conversation when you are first
flirting with someone keeping it light is the key here so discussing sexier topics is the way to go
these lighter topics will come to you in the moment as that conversation naturally flows mirror
their actions this is a great hack when we mimic or mirror someone's actions we are showing them
that we are interested in them this is something we often do subconsciously but it could also
be something you make an effort to do it can be as simple as picking up your cup at the same time
that they pick up theirs you can choose to mirror the way they talk as well or pick up on some of
their unique emoji language try to avoid the sex jokes when you start to master flirting you
might be able to slot some subtle sex jokes into the conversation when you are just starting out
please avoid them if used in an unsuitable manner the jokes can come across very creepy and it can
make it look like you only want this lady for sex and this is going to turn her off completely
smell nice pick a scent that suits you and wear it when you are out meeting your crush
wear something that reflects your personality and suits your skin now you can change how you
smell depending on the season or if you have a signature scent make sure you wear it when
you are around someone that you were trying to flirt with and try to also maintain a great level
of hygiene as well so that well you are always ready if things get a little bit more physical
position your body towards that this type of body language shows the other person that you
are interested in them and it shows them that you are fully tuned in to everything they have to say
and it allows them to fully look at you too turn to face them if you guys are sitting down
sit opposite them so that they can really see you the wink this one is a classic flirting technique
winking is fun and typically flirty so why not add a wink into a conversation when you pay your
crush a compliment or make a non-sexual joke put on your sexy voice are you wondering what
your sexy voice sounds like well try this lower your voice and speak in a softer tone so that
your crush has to really lean in to listen speak a little bit slower than you normally would as well
to add an air of mystery to your conversation give them the come on over look look over your shoulder
at your crush and flash them the come over here look tighten your eyes and give them a slight
smile they will be over starting a conversation with you in no time wear red we are more attracted
to people who wear red it's the colour of love passion and romance so it makes sense to wear
it when you are flirting with your crush always dress to impress whenever you are going to flirt
with someone you should dress to impress you want to look the best that you can when you see
them and dress appropriately for any occasion if you are going hiking dress in nice clean hiking
gear if you are going out for dinner then wear nice trousers and a shirt always remember that
people look at their feet first so wear some good shoes too be confident confidence is key and it's
seriously sexy the more confident you can be when it comes to flirting the more luck you will have
practice makes perfect the more practice you have the better you will become at flirting
you might not be great at the very beginning but over time you are going to get better
don't try to be someone else they don't want to flirt with someone else they want to flirt with
you so when you flirt don't be someone else just be you that way they get to know the real you and
they will like you just for you ask them on a date sometimes it's fun to flirt and just to keep it as
flirting other times you want it to go somewhere that is why you are doing it and if you have both
been flirting all night why not ask them on a date if they say no walk away remember to respect other
people's boundaries if they say no they look like they are not enjoying the flirting then walk away
you will find someone else to flirt with who could be the person that you are supposed to be with
and there you go we've reached the end of the video let me know down in the comments
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