What’s up everyone, this is Brad Browning... in this video, I’m going to explain what
you should do when your ex calls or texts you.
If your goal is to reverse the breakup and get a second chance with your ex, then you
definitely need to be prepared and know how to handle things when he or she inevitably
reaches out to you.
In case you’re wondering who I am, I’m a relationship coach, and I specialize in
breakups and helping couples fix their broken relationships…
you may have heard of The Ex Factor Guide, which is a best-selling program I’ve developed
to help men and women around the world re-unite with an ex.
If you want more info on this comprehensive system, visit my website, www.BreakupBrad.com,
after you watch this video.
Now, moving on...
I need to begin by clarifying something: this video is only going to offer you general advice
and tips on how to respond to your ex’s calls or texts.
I can’t possibly tell you how to respond to every single conceivable scenario you’ll
face when your ex contacts you.
For instance, if you and your ex still live together, then not all the tips I’m going
to share in this video will be directly applicable for you.
If you are facing some unique circumstances like this, and you want my help developing
a plan to win back your ex, I do offer 1-on-1 personal coaching to a select number of clients…
you can learn more about working with me at BreakupBrad.com/coaching.
If you’ve got a quick question, please feel free to share it in the comments section below
the video as well.
OK, let’s move on to another important piece of advice.
Since you’re watching this video, I’m assuming you’re set on rekindling things
with your ex… and that means you’re also probably checking your phone every 15 seconds,
anxiously hoping that he or she will have called or sent a text.
That’s perfectly natural… and it’s what your ex will be expecting you to be doing.
But sitting around staring at your phone waiting for your ex to send you a message also reeks
of desperation… and, if you want your ex back, the last thing you need is for them
to think you’re a desperate loser sitting at home waiting for their call.
As a result, I actually advise the majority of my clients to ignore any calls or texts
from their ex in the first few weeks after a breakup.
Even a month or more after the initial breakup, you need to make sure your ex understands
that you’re not sitting around waiting for their call… you want them to think you’re
out living life to the fullest, having fun, dating new people, and so on… and one way
to clearly give that impression is to miss your ex’s calls and texts.
Sometimes, your ex may have called or sent you a text for some reasonably important purpose…
maybe they want to ask if you’ve paid the phone bill, or see if they can stop by to
pick up some clothes from your house.
In this case, it would be rude to completely ignore your ex’s attempts to contact you,
and you don’t want to make him or her angry or cause any resentment...
so, the best solution is to wait a while -- at least a few hours, preferably a full day -- before
you return their call or message them back.
Not only does this give off the impression that you’ve been busy and you’re not sitting
around waiting to hear from them, but it also gives you time to think rationally about how
you’re going to respond.
I’m not going to cover how to reply and what to say to your ex when you do call or
text them back, because it’s complicated enough that I’ve dedicated an entire section
of my Ex Factor program to this topic… but, suffice to say that any conversations need
to be brief, friendly, upbeat, and give off the impression that you’re happy to speak
with them and your life has been great since the breakup.
How does this play out in the real world?
Let’s say, for example, that your ex sends you a text message at 10am on Saturday asking
if he or she can pick up the some clothes that they left at your house.
Instead of quickly responding to this text, you wait until 8pm that night, and then you
respond by saying something like:
“Hey, sorry for the slow reply, I was out hiking with a friend all day…
I’ve got plans tonight and I’ll be at work most of the day tomorrow, so maybe you
can swing by to pick them up on Monday or Tuesday.
Call me Monday and we can figure it out.
Anyway hope all is well with you, bye for now!”
By saying this, you’re still responding to your ex’s initial question, and you’ve
been polite and friendly… but you’ve also hinted that you’re super busy, you’ve
left things a bit mysterious by mentioning you were hiking “with a friend” and that
you’ll be “out late tonight”... even if this isn’t 100% truthful, you don’t
have to lie to your ex, you can simply be ambiguous and leave out the details so their
imagination can fill in the blanks.
Trust me, you’d be amazed at how well this technique works to get your ex interested
in you again.
Now, this sort of delayed response to your ex’s message or call is only necessary if
he or she actually has something to say to you… if their voicemail or text message
is essentially meaningless… if they’re simply saying hi and asking what you’re
up to, or commenting on something unimportant… then you don’t need to both responding at
all.
This is really difficult for a lot of people, but ignoring messages or calls from your ex
is extremely powerful because it can really open their eyes to the fact that you’re
no longer a part of their life and you won’t be around any time they want to chat.
You may have heard about this before in my other videos, and in a broader context it’s
usually called the “No Contact” phase.
The goal is to shock your ex into missing you, generate some nostalgia and revive some
of your ex’s happy memories of the time you spent together, and demonstrate how quickly
you’ll be able to replace your ex should he or she fail to smarten up and take you
back.
I know you may be wondering how the hell you can possibly apply this technique to your
situation, especially if things are complicated and you can’t simply cut your ex out of
your life completely…
I’ve covered all of this stuff in my Ex Factor program, and you can also learn more
about how to adapt this strategy to your unique scenario by watching the free video on my
website, BreakupBrad.com.
That’s www.BreakupBrad.com.
So, in summary: don’t be too quick to respond when your ex calls or texts you.
If you truly want to get them back into your arms and start fresh with this person, then
you need to control your emotions and wait a while before you respond… or, if it’s
possible to do so without causing any anger or hard feelings, simply don’t respond at
all to their message or call.
Thanks for watching, guys…
I look forward to hearing your feedback, so please do leave a comment below if you’ve
got a question or another tip I didn’t mention in the video.
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That’s all for now… thanks for watching and I’ll talk to you again soon!