if you're a person that's always angry
then it's likely that you're going to
just be dismissed as hot tempered
and issues that actually require
seriousness and
anger aren't going to be taken seriously
from you anymore because people are just
used to you being angry all the time
but when you're cheerful in nature then
your anger is significant because people
know that you're not angry over petty
things and that's why they have the
saying in the arabic language
fear the anger of the one who's
typically forbearing because that's when
you know that you've crossed a serious
line
because that's not a person that
typically gets mad
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one of the signs of the hypocrite that
the prophet saws mentioned is
that when they get into an argument they
become belligerent they always
transgress
in the midst of an argument and the
prophet salallahu said that the worst
of people are those who people don't
even advise anymore
because they don't want to deal with
their first they don't want to deal with
their nastiness right when someone is so
hot tempered and it's expected that
anything is going to set them off then
eventually people
see them go into a fit of rage and it's
like you know what i'm just gonna let
that person finish
and we're not gonna even try correcting
them anymore no one give that person
they'll say anymore no one give that
person advice no one try to challenge
them anymore no one try to rectify them
and so in the process they make
everything around them unpleasant
and they hurt themselves because they
become less self-aware because no one's
even making them aware anymore
of the way that they're behaving and
that's why
i know he has a powerful saying he says
about he says about anger he says
that the beginning of it is craziness
and the end of it is regret
people that go into these fits of anger
may allah
help all of those that are sincerely
trying to overcome a hot temper but
people go into fits of anger
they start off crazy and they end off
regretful so we look at the prophet
sallallahu alaihi wasallam
he was never fahish he was never foul
and he was never angry over worldly
things he was never one that would
denigrate other people
he was never one that would become nasty
in the midst of his anger instead we see
that the prophet saws
his anger was composed and it was for
the right reasons
because if you're angry for allah you
can't have the manners of shaytaan for a
righteous cause
right if you're angry for allah then
your anger has to abide by
the principles that are pleasing to
allah subhanahu ta'ala as well
and this is the way of the prophets
right you look at musa
salaam when he found his people
worshiping the calf you look at
isaiah salaam jesus peace be upon him
with the money changers in the temple
and the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wasallam used to say very beautifully
allah
i ask you for the ability to speak a
word of truth
in times of pleasure and in times of
anger
why because sometimes when you get into
anger you're no longer driving your own
personality
but instead you're letting someone else
take over you and the prophet salla
salaam is saying get back to the truth
get back to the haqq because that's what
it's supposed to be about
in the first place and that's how the
prophet saws grounded himself
so what did it look like when the
prophet saw some got anger woman
and there are other sahaba as well that
narrate this he never
got angry for himself
except that the prohibitions of allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala
were violated were undertaken so once
you cross the boundaries
of
the prophet allah would get angry for
allah
and that can be very hard to see from
the prophet salla islam because again it
wasn't his norm
of new zealand who was so beloved to the
prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam
he says that when i killed a man in
battle and that man said la ilaha
right before i killed him and i thought
to myself that he probably just said
just to escape death when i told the
prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam about
that
he was so upset with me saying to me did
you check his heart o usama
he said he was so upset with me that i
had wished i hadn't become muslim before
that day meaning
i wish that i could just take shahada
that day and do away with everything
before that you have the story of the
young man that came to the house of the
prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam
to ask about his habits and when they
found that the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wasallam
sleeps at night sometimes that the
prophet saws is intimate with his
spouses that the prophet salallahu
eats food he doesn't fast all day these
three young men they walked away and
they said well he's the prophet of god
we have to do more than him so they took
these oats on themselves
that i'm going to fast and not break my
fast that i'm going to stay awake the
entire night
and pray that i'm going to not get
married because intimacy is somehow a
mark it's a taint
and when the prophet saw someone heard
about this the prophet saws was upset
he said who are these people and he said
to them in anger sallallahu alaihi
wasallam
that look i am the prophet of allah no
one is going to exceed me in religiosity
but i observe prayer and then i sleep
i observe fasting and then i break my
fast and i am intimate with my spouses
and whoever turns away from my sunnah
is not from me so that's when the
prophet saws would become upset when
people would exceed
the boundaries of allah and risk
corrupting or polluting the religion in
the first place now the prophet salisa
also would not tolerate people
belittling others because that's also
the sanctity of allah subhanahu ta'ala
because allah has sanctified
the dignity and the honor of your
brothers and sisters and so
when the prophet salallahu wasallam sees
the companions
and they make fun of the legs of
abdullah and
because of how skinny they were the
prophet's son becomes extremely upset
in defending ibn mesut and saying you're
laughing at those two legs
and i've seen each one of them the size
of uhud on the day of judgment
those are legs of power those are legs
of honor in the sight of allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala
or the famous story of abu dhabi saying
yep
saying you son of a black woman and the
prophet salallahu you insult him using
his mom did you insult him using his mom
and you are a person that still has some
of the days of ignorance inside of you
some of jahiliyyah
inside of you so that's also the prophet
sallallahu alaihi wasallam
seeing that the sacred boundaries of
allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
have been crossed but subhanallah it's
really interesting that
is narrates the time that the prophet
saws got
really really really upset she says that
it was in regards to hadith
and the prophet salallahu alaihi
wasallam used to always mention khadija
as if there was no one else in the world
but khadija
and she had already passed away and i
never even met her but
he loved her so much that any time
khadija radi allahu ta'ala
was brought up any time he saw some of
her friends he sent
gifts to them anytime the prophet
salallahu salaam heard the voice of hala
her sister the prophet saws
so she says that one day i
said to the prophet saws as he was
mentioning
i said to the prophet sallallahu alaihi
why are you caught up
on an old toothless woman from quraish
that allah subhanahu ta'ala has given
you better than her
and she knew that she crossed the line
she said that the prophet saws stood up
his face became red adi his salat was
that vein that would come out from his
forehead salallahu salaam came out when
he was angry
and it looked like his hair stood up
sallallahu alaihi wasallam because of
how upset he was
at what she had said about khadijah and
the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam
says i swear that allah has not given me
better than her
and he started to say sallallahu alaihi
wasallam
she believed in me when others
disbelieved in me she considered me
truthful when others called me a liar
she spent on me when others deprived me
and allah gave me children through her
and allah subhanahu ta'ala has not given
me children through anyone else
allah has not given me better than her
and is
forgive me and i will never talk about
khadijah again
and the prophet saws forgave her. and
subhanallah you note here
that this was the angriest that she had
seen the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wasallam
and he could have denigrated her he
could have put her down instead what did
the prophet saw is undo
he extolled instead of mentioning the
inferiority of
isha he focused on the superiority of
khadijah because this was not about the
prophet saws and this was not about
putting someone down
but instead this was upholding that
which allah subhanahu wa ta'ala had
honored and that's why the prophet
sallallahu alaihi wasallam would get
upset
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