Sensitive to criticisms and perfectionistic, it can be fair to say that INFJs aren’t exactly keen
on being told when and where they went wrong. It’s fair to say that nobody particularly enjoys
being corrected in their actions, however INFJs have a few unique reasons as to why
they have a problem with it, especially because they’re usually quite open to outer opinions.
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Number 1: The one-size-fits-all corrections
The INFJ personality type can easily see multiple angles of every situation. Yes, they have their
own opinions, but they rarely judge others for the opinions they hold because they understand
that not everyone has had the same experiences and lessons in life. Even when they strongly disagree
with someone, the INFJ always tries to understand why the person thinks the way they do rather than
automatically resorting to explaining why they think they’re wrong. So, when someone attempts to
correct an INFJ for their beliefs, they can’t help but to question how they can’t see this factor.
When the person correcting an INFJ hasn’t taken the time to see the other side of the story,
or the root to their understanding, it can really urk this empathetic type.
And still an INFJ will try to consider their opinion rather than start a discussion.
Number 2: When philosophical understandings aren’t taken into account
One interesting thing about the INFJ is that they’re considered to be both feelers
and logical thinkers. So, rather than relying heavily on either their dream world or their
rational way of thinking, INFJs are able to combine the two in their decision making
process. However, some people don’t have this so-called yin and yang way of thinking. Some
personality types actually can’t fathom using intuitive feelings and philosophical beliefs
as means of guidance through life. While others use creativity as their basis,
lacking the more sensibile role that allows them to bring their creative thoughts into fruition.
And so, when the INFJ is being corrected on their rather theoretical or meta-physical viewpoints
they can’t help but to think that some people are really missing out on the bigger picture.
While they may take that opportunity to patiently enlighten the individual,
most times they take note not to share their perceived woo-woo beliefs with that person again.
Number 3: Jumping to quickly to conclusions
Like we mentioned, INFJs are not only able to see things from multiple perspectives,
but they actually use this mental trait to conclude their thoughts and feelings.
They use observed experiences of others, pros and cons, and intuition to see how certain outcomes
will come about, including each and every aspect of their belief system. And so, when someone
comes to tell the INFJ that what they think or want to do in life is ‘wrong’ through judgment
rather than knowledge, it can have the INFJ questioning their relationship with that
person all together. For example, if an INFJ were to be thinking about moving abroad on their own,
they would certainly consider their loved one’s opinions on the matter, but if someone were to
conclude that it’s extremely irresponsible and shouldn’t be done with no basis or reasoning,
you can be sure the INFJ won’t let them in any further on their decision. Not to mention,
they’d probably use that negative opinion as fuel to quietly prove them wrong in the future.
Number 4: Hypocritical opinions
With laser vision into people’s characters, INFJs can see right through hidden agendas
and even buried insecurities. And so, when it comes to being corrected,
they’ll be able to see if in fact it’s just a personal problem that an individual has;
something that they’re possibly avoiding facing in their own lives.
Sometimes people resort to nit-picking other’s perceived flaws and shortcomings in avoidance
of their own much larger problems. And these larger issues rarely go unnoticed for the INFJ.
Plus, being such a perfectionistic and at times self-critical type, the INFJ sees
the true power in focusing on yourself rather than using your energy for criticizing others.
And because of that, they rarely challenge the other person to do exactly that. Instead,
they usually recognize the underlying hypocrisy of the correction or suggestion, have a little
inner chuckle and go on doing exactly what they were doing without skipping a beat.
Number 5: They rather not be perceived as less than
Speaking of being self critical, INFJs know first hand not only the power in self-awareness
but also when the criticisms get the best of their mental well-being. As a matter of fact,
as introspective the INFJ is known to be, they are still one of the main types that tend to struggle
with feelings of not being adequate enough in certain aspects of life. And so, they’re
known for being one of the more sensitive types when it comes to criticisms from other people.
Luckily, they’re quite open to hearing other opinions because if they are wrong, they’re
certainly willing to correct themselves, however it all comes down to the delivery of information.
INFJs despise being talked down to or perceived as inefficient because no matter how much other
people struggle, they would do whatever it takes to avoid making them feel less than.
On the flipside, if their opinions and beliefs are taken into account
and the criticisms are constructive rather than being felt like an order or the but of the joke,
INFJs will be seriously grateful for the respect and courage it took to correct them.
Number 6: They have their own ways of doing things
Untraditional and constantly thinking outside of the box, INFJs usually end up finding easier or
more time-efficient ways of doing things. With a fine mix of procrastination and perfectionism
at the forefront of their work ethic, they’re always thinking of ways to get things done
at record speed yet of the highest quality without cutting any corners.
In some instances, this is favorable and admired, however, when it comes to traditional,
rule-abiding environments, these qualities are not taken very lightly and can sometimes be perceived
as rooted in a rebellious nature..rebellious nature that needs to be corrected.
And so, when an INFJ doesn’t see the logic in maintaining the traditional ways of doing
things and are encouraged to accept the fact that ‘that’s the way it’s always been done’, they can
end up feeling super frustrated. An example of this would be counting the cash register
every hour for documentation, even when there hasn’t been any customers in the last 2 hours.
Or having to attend mandatory weekly meetings when there’s absolutely nothing new to discuss.
When efficiency and logic aren’t a part of the correction, INFJs will probably check out.
Number 7: They can’t rationalize being corrected on pointless matters
Mindlessly maintaining tradition is one pointless matter that INFJs can’t quite
wrap their heads around, however, at least there's some type of reasoning behind it. Yet,
when it comes to things like correcting people on a minor misuse of words when you knew exactly what
they were trying to get across, they can’t help but to think “seriously?” Being so analytical,
INFJs almost never miss an observation of other people’s hiccups in language, punctuation or
embarrassing gestures, but they would never point it out. They’re there for the bigger picture,
the information that’s contained within the minor human-errors. And since they’re also there to get
the rapidly pooling information out of their own minds in the least confusing way possible,
they’re bound to make their own mistakes as well. Having these pointed out when it really doesn’t
help the situation in the slightest only makes the INFJ think of the other person as small-minded.
Number 8: Unsolicited advice from someone with no experience
Everyone has something to say and advice to be given, because in the end, us humans often
think we’re right. And because INFJs are known for being the advocates and the advice givers,
some may say they have a good understanding of what is said to be good and bad advice. One thing
that INFJs pride their advice-giving skills on is that they don’t give matter of fact suggestions
for people to do with their lives, instead they strive to open their minds creating new
perspectives and possible ‘ah-ha’ moments for them to ride on. Another thing INFJs will always ensure
is that the other person is confiding in them for advice rather than feeling chased down and judged
by their empathetic guidance. This is because as good of advice INFJs can give, they know in
the back of their minds that they have no clue how that person is actually feeling in the situation,
and it would be foolish to assume so. And so, if someone has a strong opinion about how an INFJ
is managing a particular personal struggle without having been in the exact situation themselves, the
INFJ can’t take it seriously.. Especially if they didn’t ask for their opinion in the first place.
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