- Heya Playa, is there something that you want to pursue,
but you're afraid that the kids at your school
are gonna make fun of you for it?
Whether it's being a rapper, or a YouTuber,
or anything else that you wanna pursue,
and you just don't know how to go about it,
without people mocking you?
Don't worry, in this video I'm gonna tell you
exactly how to approach those situations.
How to deal with people laughing at your dreams, and goals.
And how to succeed, regardless of what people think.
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Now, the cold, hard truth about pursuing your dreams
is that, there are always gonna be people
who don't believe in you.
People who mock you, people who doubt you,
people who don't wanna see you succeed.
And what is that all about?
How does your succuss effect their life, in any way?
Well there's a bit of psychology to it, you see,
when a person sees another person succeeding,
and overcoming obstacles to achieve what they want.
It makes them self reflective,
it makes them look at their own behavior, and ask
the question, am I doing that,
am I making the attempt to succeed?
And if that person is jealous, and insecure,
that answer is no.
They don't want to see other people succeed,
because it means they're gonna have to step up
and do something for themselves.
People don't really wanna do that sometimes.
So, they end up projecting their insecurities on you.
They might tell you things like,
the thing you're doing is stupid,
you're never gonna do it,
you're not talented enough, you're not good enough,
you're not smart enough.
They'll launch all these different attacks,
because they don't wanna see you succeed.
I've experienced this tons of times in the past,
it's usually the kids who aren't really pursuing anything,
or don't really have a clear vision, or goal,
that have the loudest voice.
That criticize the most,
and the kids that actually are pursuing things,
that are working towards their goals, and their dreams.
Wanna actually see you succeed.
Because your succuss means it's possible, that someone
like them can actually succeed too.
Now it is important to remember that you are foilable,
you can make mistakes,
you might not always make the right decision
in pursuit of your goals.
So, you have to also be open to feedback.
And recognize the difference between feedback,
and criticism, when it happens.
If you wanna know if someones actually giving you feedback,
look for these three specific things.
One, they understand your goal and your vision.
They know what you wanna do,
they can see your path going forward,
and how you want to achieve it.
Two, they have some type of relevant experience,
that they can share.
Maybe they've done something similar to you,
and they can talk about either how it's worked out for them,
or it hasn't.
And three, they recognize the challenges that you point out,
not challenges that they've made up,
or they've conjured up themselves.
They see what your sticking points are,
and they're willing to help you work through them.
Criticism is kind of the opposite of that.
For one, they don't really understand or care
about what your actual goal is,
they're not asking you questions
as to what you want to achieve.
Two, they have no experience in it,
they've never done anything similar
to what you're talking about.
So, when they're talking,
they're just kind of talking out of their own butts.
And three, they actually don't care
what your challenges are.
They're just presenting things that they think
are challenges, without actually seeing
what your stumbling points are,
and trying to help you get there.
Criticism only comes from a place of insecurity,
and jealousy.
Not from a place of wanting to actually help you.
But let's keep it real here, some of you will succeed,
and some of you won't.
Some of you will become famous YouTubers, or musicians,
or artists, and then others, are just gonna run into a wall
and realize, this is not the path you should be on.
So, for all the people out there who are hating,
who are telling you, you're not gonna make it.
Remember, just dust them off, they don't matter.
If the hater is already predicting your failure before
you've even put yourself out there, or try new things,
or seek mentors, or learn through experience.
Then they're not really adding anything to your journey.
They're just trying to take away from it.
So, dust off those haters.
Realize they're not a part of your experience,
and your story, they're not adding anything to it.
In fact, the best thing that you can do, is to succeed.
Because the best way to prove someone wrong,
is to actually go after the things that you want.
Yes, it may not work out for you,
and it might not be the path that you stick with forever.
But, you're showing them that you have the confidence,
and the courage, to go after the things that matter to you.
Something that they need to work on a little bit more.
Putting all them haters aside though,
if you're really serious about pursuing your goals here,
check out the video over here on the side.
Where I talk about the three questions
you need to ask yourself, to discover your path,
and your purpose.
That video is gonna be super helpful for you guys,
so you need to check it out.
On that note guys, I'll check ya next time.
As always, love and peace.