Mat Boggs: Hey, this is Mat Boggs.
I'm sure you know Valentine's Day is right around the corner.
This is an interesting holiday, isn't it?
It can bring a whole lot to the whole dating scene.
Perhaps you're in this experience where Valentine's Day can bring up a whole wave of emotions
where if our love life isn't where we think it should be around Valentine's Day, or we
don't have that special one in our life, or we're not dating, but we want to have that
person, it can bring up a whole wave of discouragement, if you're not careful.
Or, if you are dating somebody here we have this huge day that's all about love.
You're going to be going out, and there are all of these other lovebirds, hanging out,
pouring love onto another.
If you're in a brand new relationship it can be awkward to go on that date, or if it's
brand new date, a first date, it can be even more awkward.
Do you hang out on Valentine's Day or not?
I wanted to give you a video and give you three strategies for if you are going to go
out on Valentine's Day, how to have the very best date possible and set yourself up for
success.
The first strategy is this especially if you're going to go out with somebody that you really
like.
Remember that you are the prize.
You are the one who is worthy.
You are worthy of love, you are worthy of this amazing love life.
Your job is not to get him to like you or to get him to approve of you.
So often when we're going out with someone that we think they're totally good-looking
and successful, they're the one that we imagine ourselves with on paper, whatever experience
you've had with them so far.
It can be seductive to try to act in a way that's seeking their approval rather than
owning your worth, owning your confidence and knowing that no, you're not seeking their
approval.
You're actually the prize itself.
They're trying to win your heart.
Come into this date from that perspective knowing that you're there to pour into the
experience, to make it a great experience, but they've got to prove themselves to you,
not the other way around.
Strategy number two is this.
If you feel yourself getting really excited, calm that energy down.
Instead, shift into gratitude for the present moment and the experience you're having.
Here's why.
I talk a lot about this.
Excitement is actually a feeling tone or a vibration that's in harmony with scarcity
because when we're excited about something it means that we're wanting something we don't
currently have in our life, and like attracts like.
Wanting attracts more wanting.
In other words, not having attracts more not having in your life.
Gratitude naturally rises up in us when we're grateful for what we do have in our life.
Gratitude is a I have this vibration.
When you're grateful for the experience you're having, you're grateful for the love that
does exist in your life, that attracts more love into your life, so shift out.
Manage the excitement that's coming up with you.
I know we're human.
We're going to get excited about a great date that's about to happen.
I know that's going to happen, but manage it.
Consciously shift and transform that excitement into gratitude.
The third strategy is to know this.
It is really hard to screw up the right thing.
It's hard to screw up the right thing, and I hope that that concept gives you confidence
and puts you at ease.
You can relax and rest easy knowing that you don't have to be perfect.
You don't have to say everything perfectly.
You can have spinach in your teeth.
You can trip over the sidewalk.
You can have things go wrong, and the relationship can still go right when it's the right relationship.
Great relationships are born not out of being perfect with one another but out of revealing
our imperfections to one another and loving what it is that we're experiencing and seeing.
The right guy is going to love you for who you are just like you're going to love him
for who he is.
If it's not the right guy, you're going to let him go because the universe is going to
clear the way for the right guy coming into your life.
There you have it, three strategies for how to make this a great Valentine's Day for you.
I would love to hear from you.
What strategies do you use to put yourself in a state of being or a mindset to have an
amazing date?
Go ahead and post those strategies in the comment section below and share this video
with someone that you know is going out on a date because it can really serve them in
making that date a great experience.
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Thanks so much for watching.
I'll see you soon.