Hey there, Adam LoDolce from SexyConfidence.com where I help the 21st century woman create
a love life that she absolutely loves.
And in this video right now I'm going to be answering the question is he lying to you,
and showing you the 7 steps to spotting a liar.
Keep watching.
So let's say you're in a situation where you're not really sure if the guy that you're with
is actually lying to you.
Well, I'm going to be walking you through a series of steps that are outlined in this
video to help you decipher whether or not he's actually lying.
1.
So step number one is to self evaluate.
Do you have ongoing trust issues?
Listen, I get it.
You've been burned in the past.
You've dated a guy in the past who has lied to you and was super sketchy.
But you know what?
If you're with a new guy and he hasn't done anything to break that trust and he's actually
been earning your trust over time, then you know what?
You've got to give him that trust.
Lose the baggage and give him that leeway and that trust to know that he's not lying
to you.
2.
Now, let's say you've decided that it's not because of old baggage and you still think
he might be lying to you.
Step number two is to ask him.
You know, as part of the Sexy Confidence community, I get hundreds of questions every single day
and for most of those questions that I get asked, I usually just want to say the best
person to get an answer of that question is with the guy that you're in a relationship
with.
Usually if you can just sit down, have an honest, open conversation with someone and
ask someone, then usually you'll get a good answer.
3.
Now, step number three is when you do ask him it's time to also read his body language.
If someone wants to lie to you, they might be able to lie to you with the words that
they're saying but their body language is a little tougher to be able to lie.
So, for example, if he starts blushing, maybe he has a lot of anxiety.
Anxiety can sometimes cause someone to blush.
If he can't make eye contact with you and he's looking everywhere else, then, you know
what?
He might be lying.
Really look at the cues and how he's expressing himself rather than focusing on the words
that are coming out of his mouth.
4.
Step number four, read his reaction.
If he's immediately getting so furious that you're asking about the situation and it's
the first time you've actually asked him if he was lying about something and he reacts
like, "What the f***?!" then his defense mechanism is definitely kicking in.
But just a little caveat to this, if you keep asking the same question over and over and
over, even a guy who's innocent might get annoyed because you're not trusting him.
5.
Step number five is think about is his answer actually logical?
Why was your phone off yesterday?
Well, first I had to bring my mom to the doctors, then afterwards she wasn't feeling good so
we decided to go to the movies so, of course, I shut it off.
Why was your phone off yesterday?
Well, it's a funny story.
You see, I was walking down the street and suddenly a giraffe starts fighting the monkey
and they're battling for the phone and the monkey kills the giraffe and then runs away
with the phone.
6.
Step number six, is his answer uncharacteristic of his normal behavior?
7.
And finally, step number seven.
You want to ask yourself, how difficult is the question you're actually asking him?
If it's a simple answer, such as who did you hang out with last night?
If it's that easy of a question, he should be able to look at you with eye contact and
confidence.
However, if it's a deep and very complex question such as what is your greatest fear in life,
then he's probably going look a little bit sketchy because that's a really intense question.
So let me ask you, have you ever thought a guy was lying to you?
I want hear your story right there below.
If you want more tips like this that are going help you get from where you are today to confidently
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