Hi everyone Adrienne Everheart back with you for day two of my three part video
series this one I got so many good things to share with you because I am
going to talk about the biggest most powerful game-changer you can give to
the man that you love your ex so that you can have the best chances the ABCs
the absolute best chances to get him back in your life I'm gonna share that
with you today again this is one of my top top secrets I reserved only for my
one-on-one coaching calls but this is something I'm sharing with you and this is
something I'm gonna share in my program if you're interested alright so the
other thing I'm gonna be sharing is the number one secret that your ex doesn't
want you to know yes there's a big one okay there's a big secret that he
doesn't want you to know and actually it's something that most men don't want
us to know so I'm gonna start right there if you read over my freebie my
little cheat sheet that I had that you get before your videos I talked a little
bit about how most men statistically regret the breakup within 24 hours so
most men regret their breakup within 24 hours they go home and they have a
moment of oh my goodness what did I do but if they turn back around come back
to you they're gonna look crazy and they're not gonna feel like a man at
all are they so this is why the man hides behind bravado and just really you
know not wanting to look like an idiot and he doesn't just come racing right
back okay here's the really amazing news is that this actually gets worse he'll
go through a phase and again this is according to statistics where there were
studies done and questioned men after breakup so I didn't do this research I'm
reading someone else's research that the men will go through a phase where
they're actually feeling pretty okay you know they're getting their freedom
back they have their own air to breathe depending on exactly what you were doing
in the relationship you know wherever the problems might have been in my last
video I talked about being able to provide and not compete and being able
to maintain you know and if a man feels like he can't do that well when he
finally gets on his own sometimes he's like hah
I can just sit around on my sweat pants and eat cereal off the coffee table you
know they feel like they can finally just be a man and relax so sometimes
this happens and the man finally feels free but then he again goes back to a
place where he's like I'm alone I have no one I'm here by myself or he might
have a girlfriend or two but it's really just gonna be the same set of problems a
new woman okay so one of the best things that can happen to you is your ex
immediately go back out and get into a new relationship alright because most
new relationships fail and then he's gonna miss you all the more so don't be
too traumatized if that has happened to you I know it hurts like nothing else
but it is something just keep your mind open about that it really does increase
your chances for getting him back and I move on and talk about there really this
really powerful game changer that you can do well I'd like you to talk to me
or join the program because it's really powerful and executing this one properly
is imperative to your results this is not something that you just want to go
do and I'm gonna call him up right now and I'm going to do this alright and I'm
gonna tell you why okay so listen very carefully
a man will feel very powerful when he comes to you and in the relationship
he'll feel very powerful and chances are he's having a problem with power anyway
we get back to provide complete alright so there's some sort of problem
there where he's either competing with you he's losing his power he doesn't
feel happy he's not able to provide he's not able to maintain he's not feeling
like a man all right so when he comes back to you and if for any reason
there's any type of reconnection I don't know if you've noticed it but a lot of
times a man breaks up with us and he's still texting he's still calling they'll
do this check-in where they want to say hey are you doing okay you know and
maybe they're tiptoeing through the tulips with that one and just really
trying to find an in with you but usually the woman is mad are usually the
woman lies and says I'm doing great everything's going just great and I'm
fabulous and he goes oh okay she's moved on without me
so I want you to number one know that I want you to speak from a place of
honesty so if your man is still doing the check-in and he calls then I want
you to be able to be honest with him and be able to say to him well what can I
say I I feel a little lonely most days I feel a little sad about us but I'm doing
my best I'm putting one foot in front of the other and making the most out of
every day so you see how vulnerable open and honest that is there's no fake
I'm doing great when in fact you're really not men know the difference
they'll still buy it and they'll still believe you but they really can feel the
difference when you're being honest with them all right so here is the big big
game changer and ladies I do not want you to use this just willy-nilly this is
a powerful powerful move okay so um this all starts with accepting and being okay
with where you're at you are at the corner of devastated and lonely and
heartbroken alright so you're at a terrible spot in your life
and we often want to reject that we're feeling this way we went to somehow deny
it push it down and make excuses dream up reasons try to understand why this is
happening to us why he's done this why he said these words to me just a few
weeks before how could this be happening so logical reasoning is not going to get
you anywhere with this process so forget logic this is about your heart it's not
about your brain your brain is a logical thing it's a piece of machinery that
solves problems your heart however is not much of a problem solver
it's a decider it just knows how it feels okay so if you're feeling
heartbroken and lonely you have to own it
like a rock star you just have to own it and then something really nice and
comforting about that feeling will begin to happen to you and you're just gonna
have to trust me here when you should really accept responsibility for where
you're at and it's terrible and it's lonely and you're having to start over
again and there's nothing but goofballs out there on the internet dating sites
all right you're gonna have to boldly and bravely put one foot in front of the
other and start over somewhere with your life because this is gonna make you much
more attractive to this man all right so here's the big game-changer when he does
start coming back round coming back around and coming back around and trying
to text you trying to communicate with you and stay in touch with you you have
the option to rebuild with him and this is something I talk about in my program
the ABCs to Get Him Back and keep him is that any opportunity to rebuild with him
even if he's still following you on Instagram this is an opportunity to
rebuild all right we also end up doing something I call the hail mary pass I
go into that in the program more intensely but I can't do it all right
here in this free video here's my big question for you do you really want to
have to do all the work for the man to get him to love you
do you really want to have to hunt him down chase him and convince him to get
him to love you and want to be in a relationship with you is that how you
really want this to go so the answer in most cases is no we want the man to do
it but we want to inspire the man to do it
that's the difference okay so here is the big line in the sand once you do
this you can't go back so seriously you can only try this trick once this is not
really a trick it's more of just a boundary to protect yourself so I set a
time line and I teach you this in my program about setting a timeline about
when I'm gonna let my man come back and I'm gonna keep trying until that point
but at that point I'm going to have to say the following you know it feels so
wonderful to connect with you and I've missed connecting with you yet I'm
looking for a loving long lasting relationship that leads to marriage and
I don't feel like we're on the same page so I'm gonna be moving on
most of the time the man will say oh okay I get it I get it you want to be
married I respect that I respect you now more than ever you go great I'm gonna be
moving on and then he texts you at seven o'clock at night that night you don't
answer it you don't answer the next time and you don't answer the next time you
cut him off and when he can't get to you anymore
that's when the guy sometimes goes a little crazy shows up at your door and
goes why won't you answer my texts why won't you answer my call and then that's
when you can begin phase two of reconnecting so I am yet to have a
situation where I have reconnected a woman and a man together where they go
through the first phase which is rebuilding showing him two new you your
feelings statements your boundaries your passions the new you where you're not
controlling him you're not controlling the outcome and then you have to draw
that line in the sand and you have to say I'm looking for a loving
long-lasting relationship that leads to marriage and I'm not feeling like we're
on the same page so I'm gonna be moving on and then you go to Phase two which is
the man will eventually come back around and when he does you have to reiterate
this if he comes back around he knows what the deal is he knows that you're
looking for the real thing but they will try to have it their way
and that's where you become a high quality woman in his eyes this is my
boundary this is what's gonna work for me and you have to be willing to stick
to it because you cannot renege on that all right and a lot of times you'll tell
the man I'm gonna be moving on and he goes okay cool I get it and then you're
really left moving on so before you do that I want you to
ready all right and I want you to prep that very important phase one which is
rebuilding and reconnecting to his heart so deeply that when you do go away
he misses you and realizes that his life was much much better with you in it all
right everyone that is the end of video number two I do hope you could
participate in my class the ABCs to get him back and keep him an email if you're
interested I'm at everheartcoaching@gmail.com you can just hit reply to this
video if you like but otherwise I hope to see you soon so everyone
wrapping up and thank you so much for joining me in this free video feel free
to hit reply and send me an email with any questions you might have
I look forward to speaking with you soon bye