any true relationship between friends or
significant others should be one between
equals
you give and take equally one person's
needs aren't met over another's friends
and partners are supposed to give you
energy lift you up when you're down and
want the best for you but sometimes we
get into relationships that drain energy
from us these are toxic relationships
and they can negatively affect all
aspects of our lives on this week's
well-cast
we're going to show you how you can tell
if you're even in the toxic relationship
and then we're going to help you
extricate yourself from that unhealthy
situation paronto selfie one diagnose
the relationship how do you know if a
friend or partner is bringing you down
well in much the same way that you know
that you're coming down with a cold
toxic relationships come with symptoms
when you're around this person how do
you feel here are a few other questions
you should ask yourself if you're
thinking you might be in a toxic
situation does my friend put me down all
the time are they jealous when I spend
time with others they constantly bring
up parts of me that they want to change
do they take more than they give am I
only doing the things that they want to
do
selphie to recognize your role in the
relationship as Eleanor Roosevelt said
nobody can make you feel inferior
without your consent
alright look we know we got that from
Princess Diaries obviously moving on
listen you have autonomy in every
relationship in your life if your friend
or partner is stealing your sunshine you
need to figure out what you're doing to
allow them to do this are you being a
doormat are you putting this person's
emotional needs ahead of your own health
self III start to build boundaries for
this relationship does your friend
invite themselves over at all hours of
the night are they constantly bossing
you around are they always borrowing
money from you alright once you know the
boundary that you want to set stick to
it draw your line in the sand selfie for
recognize you can't change other people
but you can stop being a doormat if
you've determined that a friendship or
relationship is toxic you know that you
have to change the nature of that
relationship start by spending less time
with that person and do your best to
detach yourself emotionally hopefully
setting boundaries will help you begin
to phase this relationship out
selphie 5 get a second opinion
especially if you're emotionally
vulnerable the best thing you can do is
surround yourself with people who love
you and who want you to be happy and
healthy use them as a lifeline during
this time selfie six above all else look
out for yourself studies have shown that
people with low self-esteem are far more
likely to find themselves in toxic
relationships you will never be treated
with love and respect unless you
absolutely believe that you deserve
these things remember you teach people
how to treat you so do yourself the
favor of loving yourself that's the
first step to any relationship to recap
if you have diagnosed yourself as being
in a toxic relationship the first step
is recognizing this then recognizing
your role in the relationship once you
do this you can start to set boundaries
for this relationship and change the way
you interact with this person to help
surround yourself with people who love
you and above all else look out for
yourself
well that's all for me today well
casters would you do me a kindness
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