- Now if you find yourself jumping
from one relationship to another,
kind of like a frog jumping from one lily pad to another,
except it seems like every lily pad you jump on,
sinks like a rock.
And it always seems like that perfect guy
who you told all of your friends was the one,
ended up ghosting you on the third date.
No, I'll wait, he'll be here in a minute.
Where the (bleep) are you?
I thought you loved me!
Getting ghosted sucks, and now you've got to start
all over with the wonderful 21st century dating scene.
If you are just sick of this short-term relationship
pattern, jumping one thing to another,
watch this video, because we're gonna talk about
how to finally attract a long-term, healthy relationship.
Keep watching.
Hey there, Adam Lodolce from sexyconfidence.com,
where I help you create your love story.
And I'm gonna teach you a principle
that has really been the cornerstone
of everything I've been teaching for the past 10 years
about dating and relationships.
If you are ready for a long-term relationship, follow this.
Find love by searching for principles,
rather than by chasing pheromones.
Let me explain.
Principles are things that everyone has in life,
and people will follow principles in order
to make decisions in life.
We all have principles based on our family life,
what kind of family we want to have,
how much time we want to spend with our family,
do we want to have our own family?
Or principles about religion,
are we religious or not, and which religion that is.
Or even things like politics,
or things like our environment.
Do we care about the environment
or do we not believe in global warming
'cause we're crazy wack-jobs?
Sorry, had to say it.
You get my point, and everyone has principles like these.
And they're developed from not only our childhood,
but also our life experience
and even just from our own inherited personality.
These are the things you wanna look for
when you're looking for a partner.
On the other hand, pheromones in the most literal sense,
are just released to attract the opposite sex.
But in the broader sense, for the sake of this video,
I'm really talking about pheromones
as just chasing physical attraction.
This is the thing that draws you to a person.
Have you ever met someone that you just can't get away from,
but you know it just (bleep) terrible for you?
But man, maybe it's just the hair, maybe it's the smell,
maybe it's the cologne, maybe for you ladies,
the way he talks, whatever it is,
there's something about him that you just
are absolutely drawn to.
It's just addictive.
Only chasing that feeling and only thinking
about that feeling is simply chasing pheromones.
So listen carefully.
You will constantly jump from relationship
to relationship if you only chase pheromones.
Who you are attracted to has actually very little
correlation with your future happiness
in that relationship, and worse off,
as that relationship kind of develops,
the intensity of that attraction,
that initial attraction, it will diminish.
And then all you're left with is just
a big pile of nothing, aka, a sinking lily pad.
And here's why you should really focus your energy
on understanding a man's principles.
Principles, whatever they are,
tend to stay pretty consistent and steady throughout life.
And when you find a healthy relationship,
even better, they end up growing together.
So if he's a family man now,
it's likely he'll always be a family man.
If he's spiritual now, it's likely he's gonna
be spiritual in the future.
If he believes in helping other people
and giving value to the world,
chances are, he'll wanna do that as well.
On the other hand, if he's a selfish prick,
who drinks too much and hates children,
you know where this is going in 10 years.
Shut up all you stupid children.
Obvious, yet important statement.
This is not good if you want children.
So rather than chasing pheromones,
I want you to start searching for principles.
You can do this.
It just requires a little bit of discipline moving forward.
And if you'd like a little bit of help
being able to attract the one and get a man to pursue you,
and only you, come join me at a free webinar,
you can click the link in the description
anywhere on this page, or in my profile
and I'm gonna walk you through the three ways
to get the right man to pursue you.
And make sure you comment below this video
saying, "I am ready for a healthy relationship."
Thank you so much for watching,
I'll speak to you next week, you sexy, single lady.
Bye-bye.