so what is people-pleasing is that
sticking to my egos rights or a win-win
situation here so that's that's
difficult to see well should I do
whatever my brother asks me to do yes
the Penta to talking about from the text
he does he does qualify it about 100
pages later by just saying as long as it
doesn't bring harm to you or to anyone
else so when people would bring things
up like you know what if someone asked
me to rob a bank with them or you know
you know should I just say okay do it no
because I you know I don't want to say
no Jesus told me what he's really
talking about these outrageous requests
are all those typical things that that
are that are like ego whims that are
based on ego needs so if somebody wants
a certain temperature in the room
they'll say you know could you please
shut that window or could you please
open that window work you know there's
hundreds of these ego whims based on ego
needs that that go on over for the human
being throughout the day and and he's
just basically saying that pisses don't
don't make a point of disagreement
around these things that they're so
minor they're really based on ego needs
because there can be a request that will
come from a brother that is truly a call
for love a miraculous request and if you
say no to all of them no I'm not gonna
open the window can you move your feet
no can you take your shoes off when you
come to the house no you know when you
use the toothpaste in the sink
would you please like Hank take the
droppings of toothpaste out of the sink
no you know if you say no everything
some of you might have seen that
yes ma'am with Jim Carrey where he's in
such an O mode that he absolutely says
no to everything but any request is made
in him so that passage is in the course
basically saying that you don't want to
miss a genuine call for love the genuine
call for help the one that can change
somebody's day their whole day by you
saying yes and so it's I also think it's
for the for more for those that are
starting the beginning work with the
course I told some stories to about how
when my mind training advanced into
higher and higher and higher realms
where I came closer to what the Bible
calls let your gay be a unless you're
Naveen a you know where I would really
let the holy spirit make all my
decisions for me but actually when you
get to the higher realms you're letting
your mind be used by Jesus and the Holy
Spirit for the whole universe and and
your yeses and noes that passage that we
just talked about doesn't really apply
at that point that's more of a basic
entry level into starting to get open to
the miracle when you get really high you
know there I'm sure with Jesus the
Apostles just learned he was in such a
state of prayer and communion with the
Holy Spirit that they weren't going up
hey Jesus can you give me a drink of
water and you know can you throw a
saddle on that mule over there for me
and isn't this no muscles after they
hung around it for a while they were
like okay the master they could would
call a master instead of rabboni or they
would call the Lord not asking the Lord
for a drink of water you know it got
better better things know I'm praying
with the Holy Spirit now get your own
water go he didn't even have to say that
because it was apparent you know that he
was
devoted so I think that is a good one
and the people please thing I'm talking
about
is is based on these self concepts of
who you believe you are in the world and
just kind of blindly going along and
acting and reacting out of those self
concepts that's God did not create and
that ultimately these self concepts have
to be questioned because who we are is
the Christ and these ego invented self
concepts and these automatic behaviors
that seem to come from these self
concepts or have become so familiar and
so ingrained and so you might say
conditioned it's just so deeply
conditioned that the mine finds itself
tired weary bored worn out and burned
out from living out of these false
concepts that don't really bring any
sense of joy so so there is still such a
thing as courtesy I would say there is
still such a thing as spirit inspired
courtesy Helen Schucman
Jesus spent a whole day with Helen
saying to her first of all I love you
when Jesus starts off with I love you in
the morning you've gotta watch what s
coming next because he say I'm blanket I
love you and I'm going for one day in
your life I'm going to point out every
opportunity where you had an opportunity
to choose a miracle and you didn't and
he did that with Helen one day you know
you could have offered this guy a cab
ride because you were going in the same
direction as him he was pointing out all
the simple miraculous little courtesies
that inspire and bless and we'll take
you into a state of joy and yet what
most people are accustomed to is their
their holding on to this image the
self-concept and there's a group of
people along with their own seeming
personality there's a group of people or
fitting around that person personality
that are part that are tightly wound
into the self-concept
so mom ask you to do something and in
your heart you go I don't really feel
that at all an ego goes that's your
mother that's your mother can't say no
to mother and so you just do it and you
feel kind of depressed and chalk that
one up again but didn't really enjoy
that but but you know that this
personality and this constellation
around there is what the self-concept is
and it's beyond that it's it's the whole
society that you perceive yourself in
whether it's in Sweden or the global
society of humankind and it's the stars
as the planets and everything that you
perceive in the entire linear time-space
cosmos is part of that make-believe
self-concept so it doesn't just stop
with mom and dad or children it goes all
the way out to the stars and the
galaxies and the black holes it's all a
giant projection but the ones that
you're most aware of are those close
constellations
you know the personality self and the
children the parents the neighbors the
community that's the one where you know
maybe my neighbor asked me to do this
and I don't really feel to do it but but
it's a neighbor I have to do it I should
do it that's part of that constellation
that just saps you of your mind energy
because you're making decisions really
for the whole universe because you are
the Christ but you've forgotten that
context everything I think say and do
Jesus says in the workbook teaches all
the universe you've forgotten that
you're making a decision for the whole
universe you've forgotten that huge
context that is all one mind and that
everything you're deciding everyday is
for the entire universe you know you
want a sandwich in the morning for
breakfast the whole universe wants
in the morning for breakfast why because
you're the whole universe what it
doesn't seem that way from the personal
construct but but actually everything
you think and say and do is poor is
teaching the whole universe what it is
if you're a mother or a daughter or a
father or a son if you are a
construction worker or a teacher or a a
physician or a a nail polish expert it
doesn't matter that's what you're
teaching the whole universe that it is
you know if you if you're into hair
extensions the whole universe is the
hair extension because because your mind
is the universe and no matter how small
you want to play it doesn't change who
created you God gave you a very powerful
mind and you're teaching the whole
universe what it is by based on what you
are and if you are teaching your
brothers and sisters at their bodies and
you're reinforcing that you're a body
yourself then you're that's what you're
teaching the universe you know there's a
limitation to bodies this whole stuff
about one mind one soul one love one
heart that's the kind of stuff that
belongs in the romantic songs or the
esoteric metaphysical songs but as long
as you keep identifying with the
thoughts that are tiny you're teaching
the universe that the universe is tiny
because the universe is you and you are
the universe of course Krishnamurti is
to say I am the world the world is me
very profound there's not a separate
world outside of mind it's all one line
so so this is where it comes into we
have to begin to question the
people-pleasing that's not beautiful
spirit inspired courtesy but that it's
based on the past you're trying to be
I'm trying to be sweet for trying to be
polite they're trying to be polite based
on past learning when really the past is
where the guilt is and you can't be both
polite and free in that sense
you can be spared inspired in terms of
that kindness and so forth but but you
can't hold on to the past and expect
yourself to be infinite and free