Hey Dan here I've been getting a lot of responses from you guys on the ENFP
video about friends and why you should be picky and first of all thanks for
your comment thanks for all the awesome support and presumably sharing on the
video just based on how quick the views have grown here but the biggest question
that came up is how do I actually make those friends you know how do I change
my peer group meet those people and first thing I would say is there's an
ENFP you got nothing to complain about making
friends meeting new people that's going to be easy for you so as ways to make a
change in your life this is probably one of the easiest things that that you can
do now when it comes to actually where do you find those people first thing I
would ask myself is where would those people be like okay imagine it something
simpler like you want to become a dancer alright so you want to become a dancer
where would you go to meet friends who would support you in that quest probably
just to you know think about it probably like a dance school maybe might be a
good place to start maybe want to get in physical shape you might go to a gym so
think about it if you if you want to become an entrepreneur go to meetups go
to events you know I don't want to be promoting my own stuff here too much but
when I started as an entrepreneur the places that I met the best entrepreneurs
were paid events I went out to conferences to workshops sometimes they
were a thousands of dollars but that's where I met people who were also really
invested like I was and we're very serious about their own their own
personal development here show you the castle back here in Prague terrible
place to be to be hanging out on a Monday so think about going to events
and just where those people would be again could even be online I don't do a
lot of like Facebook groups and that personally I just think it's a lot
better to make friends you know either with like video chat or actually in the
flesh or whatever but a lot of people have luck with that as well and the
biggest thing I though I want to add is you got to make room for new friendships
and that means saying no and say no is not an easy thing for us enfps
saying no to people cutting people out of our lives saying no to plans you know
by default we want to say yes if someone asks us to hang out we want to say yes
but the thing is you got to start to say no to make room for those new friends we
all have a need to spend time with people to be social to have friendships
and if you already have a decent group of friends decent but not good and
you're already filling up your weekend spending time with them you're already
calling them we need someone to talk to you probably don't have a lot of room
for those new friendships and you might actually get a lot out of it by first
ending some time socks ending some relationships that don't really serve
you maybe getting rid of some other activities you do whether it's people or
activities things that is wasting your time and make room for those new
relationships and what you'll probably find is when you have room for the new
relationships it will become a lot easier to meet those people because
you're gonna be driven so you don't end up just hanging out alone all the time I
wanted to add don't be afraid to reach out to people most people are not as
happy with their social life as they would like to be especially I found a
lot of entrepreneurs you know we're so focused in our business we don't make
the time to spend as much time with friends so don't be afraid to be the one
who reaches out who you know you meet someone who's interesting at an event
and reach out to them and just say hey why don't we get together grab a beer or
go play golf I don't know whatever is people do
and the other thing that I really recommend doing is bringing people
bringing people to gather so throw parties in a few days my fourth or fifth
annual Halloween parties happening here in Prague that event has generated
hundreds of thousands of dollars a business for people who've been there
who've met each other for connections that have formed and it's also a way for
me to get to know people better people that I otherwise what might know
casually I can invite them out so really recommend that as well think of
something you can do if you're in a smaller town and there's not like a cool
meetup in your area for entrepreneurs and make a meet-up for entrepreneurs be
the leader and that will be the absolute quickest way to to make those
relationships ultimately you know it's up to you and you've got to put in time
the cool thing is is that changing up your peer group meeting those friends is
such a great way to make a change and it is so important as I said in the last
video it just takes a little effort but your ROI your return on that effort is
going to be fantastic so find ways to do it look for where
people will be who are like you who have similar interests you know not
necessarily clones of yourself but people who want to do the same kind of
things you do go out meet them make plans after bring people together become
that organizer and the rewards will be awesome thanks for watching hope you
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