what stops you from creating the change that you want stay tuned hey this is
Damon Cart from NLP gym bringing you cutting-edge neural linguistic
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the first part of a three-part video series and at the end of the three-part
video series which will be released this Saturday I will be making a big
announcement stay tuned for that change is hard right and lasting change is even
harder right hmm I don't really think so I used to think that way and what I'm
gonna offer you now I think is a much better way to think about change and an
even lasting change change itself is not really that hard it's the resistance to
change that is difficult and that makes us struggle and get frustrated if you
think about it when you were a kid you adapted to change pretty easily this is
why you know kids learn quickly they adapt to change very quickly the reason
is they have not many expectations because they're lacking in life
experience the more life experience we have the more we use things like
expectation to give us some sense of security so first off think about change
as not the thing that's difficult it's just your resistance to it so if you can
lower your resistance to change it's not hard and it will last is the only thing
that stops changed from lasting is if you have inner resistance that you
haven't dealt with we call this ecology and NLP so what's the best way to create
lasting change and to stop resisting change where do you start try starting
with stop making any excuses you may call them valid reasons but they're
excuses and we're all guilty of it I'm guilty of it you're guilty of it
everybody's guilty that's the first thing we do when we
want to distract ourselves from something we want or we think we should
want and we don't have it or we're not doing anything about it we make an
excuse the two biggest excuses that most of us
make is I don't have the money and I don't have the time when I used to sell
insurance that was the two biggest hurdles I had to overcome when making
any sales to clients first of all I had to explain to them why it was worth
their tongue I had to really demonstrate this I shouldn't say explain I had to
demonstrate why it was important for them to take the time to come to the
office and meet with me and then I had to demonstrate how it was worth their
money to buy a policy which actually protected their money so these were when
it comes to cells this is what you're normally going to encounter as the two
biggest excuses nobody ever has the time and nobody ever has the money and when
it comes to everything else you want in your life
that's usually the reason that you use one of those two or both as to why you
don't have it why haven't you lost the weight or started that exercise program
or started making more money or why haven't you gone back to school start
that novel spend more time with family whatever it is it's usually the excuse
usually as I don't have the time and I don't have the money what if though
imagine this just imagine for a moment you no longer made excuses for anything
you you couldn't make excuses every time you went to make an excuse something
interrupted that process of making an excuse and you suddenly stopped and
didn't make the excuse so for some of you excuses or the reason your life is
exactly in the same place as it was one year ago and for others for the rest of
you the reason why you haven't progressed as quickly and advanced into
the life that you want to create for yourself is normally excuses now as a
coach I usually coach people with this I usually get very clear with them about
what it is they want and oftentimes this is this could be another reason why
you're making excuses it's not really what you want it's what you think you
want for example I've met couples who make
excuses about why they're not having kids when it really comes would really
comes down to is they don't really want kids and there's nothing wrong with that
if you don't want kids that's ok but they were experiencing a lot of pressure
from both sets of parents wanting them to have kids so the only thing they
could do they and they felt like they should have kids the only thing they
could do is make excuses but the truth was they just really didn't want to have
kids this is an important thing to know so if you're making excuses because it's
not something you really want this is so important to know that because you can
unburden yourself with that you might realize upon stopping making the excuse
and really getting clear about what you want that you only wanted whatever that
was because you were because of outside pressure really wasn't something you
wanted and why is that so great to know because now you can finally unburden
yourself from experiencing that pressure and and and making those excuses which
is just a distraction and a waste of time and effort so let that go for
everything else the things that you know that you want the things that you
actually want not because of outside pressure but but because you really want
them but you keep making excuses as to why you don't have it or why you you
shouldn't start working on it what would it be like to just stop just stop making
excuses I mean this is I know this sounds very simple but when you
interrupt that pattern when you stop distracting yourself from what it is you
want and you really own it you own that desire you own what it is that you want
without the other noise notice what happens give that a try
start becoming very well aware of your common excuses like I said for most
people it's time and money so you know that upfront but each one of us has our
own favorite excuses we like to use our individualized excuses that we like to
use get clear on what those are so that you can watch out for them
and as you go throughout your day and you think about doing something or you
think about wanting something or someone ask you about something that you said
that you wanted if you start to notice you're about to make an excuse stop
yourself don't try to replace it with anything else just stop yourself
interrupt that process of excuse making it interrupt that distraction and just
sit with that and notice what comes up for you
to be continued
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