can't see a way out of porn then watch this video with me dr trish leigh i'm going to show you how i
just got an email from a new friend from scotland saying that you can't see the way out of porn and
that he understands that it's a destructive force in his life and that he's been consuming porn and
has had the habit for so long that it's shaped his entire life it's shaped the way he interacts with
people and his relationships and what he's saying but he doesn't know yet is that a big change is
necessary now that big change doesn't have to be earth-shattering it just is transformational now
let me share something with you if you can't see your way out it's because you don't
know how to get to the destination it doesn't mean that it can't be done people ask me all the time i
actually just got a few emails this weekend saying have you seen very addicted people recover and
actually leave porn behind and actually have happy healthy lives and the answer is absolutely yes
yes indeed so if i wanted to go to san diego california i live in chapel hill north carolina
but if i want to go to san diego california on the completely other side of the country
i don't know how to get there so just because i don't know how to get to san diego does that mean
that i can never go and that i can never get there absolutely not what it means is i'm not prepared
and there's gaps in my knowledge and there's gaps in my tools and what i need to get there
so to get to the destination you need three things number one you need gps old school map or better
yet a guide so if you don't know how to get to the destination a trained guide can help you get there
if you can't afford or you don't want to get a trained guide then you can get gps and plug it in
or you can get a map but you need to know how to get to the destination because if you don't know
how to get there you're never gonna get there and you might need someone to help you often when it
comes to porn addiction recovery people need help and it's a tricky journey i would say it's more
difficult than getting to san diego but i've never been so i don't know number two is you need a plan
so if you get the guide the guide has the plan and they walk you through the plan that they've
designed based upon what they know which is more than you know because remember there's gaps in
your knowledge base on how to get to san diego so you need the plan it includes an itinerary
it includes a packing list it might include packing things that you didn't even know
exist or that you needed so i've never been to san diego so if i get to san diego i might be
completely blown away by the things that i need to exist there and to be well there because i've
never been there so i don't know what i need my guide would know or if i purchased the map
specifically to san diego i would most likely know how to get there and what i needed i need
the itinerary i need the packing list i need a plan number three is you need the right supplies
so like i already told you i might not know what to pack when it comes to porn addiction recovery
there's techniques there's tools there's strategies there's things in your life that you
don't even know that need to be explored for you to be able to get out from underneath that this
thing i'm going to share them with you in just a minute but you need some plan on getting there you
need gps or a guide to help you get there and you need the proper supplies let me tell you a quick
story first is i want to take my family i have six beautiful children and now they're all teenagers
or uh getting there or a little bit older so i want to take everybody to ireland my husband grew
up in ireland my family's irish and he's never been back since he moved here and i've never been
so a couple years ago i looked it up and i'm like i'm going to take all of us to ireland and i
i got very overwhelmed pretty quickly and someone said to me don't take your family to ireland
without a guided tour because it will be exhausting and you will not enjoy any moment of it
so what i looked up i never did i didn't do it yet i'm still planning on going but i looked it up and
there is company they were super nice too uh there is a company that does a guided tour and someone
drives you across the country of ireland and basically you drive for half a day and you spend
a day and a night and half the next day in the little towns across ireland and you get to hit all
of the historical places plus you get to see the culture across the country so so amazing right and
what my friend said was do not take your family to a country that you don't know the culture
to drive in a car on the wrong side of the car on the wrong side of the road while you're hitting
pubs i'm like you're making a very good point right now and so when i found this guided tour
they set up the hotels or the airbnbs they set up all the accommodations across the entire trip
and and actually what they recommended is i wait till my kids get a little bit older so that we
can have more fun together and i thought that was a great suggestion which is why i'm holding off
but the point is if i would have done it myself i might have exhausted myself i'm going to stress
myself out it might have been a nightmare of a trip instead of the fantastic trip it's going
to be when i finally do this with this company because they know how to get me where i want to go
they make all the plans for me and then they take me through it and that way i have everything
that i need to succeed on this trip and yes the investment is more than if i do it myself which
i still can do if i want to so of course when it comes to porn addiction recovery what i'm talking
about here is there's things you don't know and it's the things you don't know that take you out
and what i want for you is a plan support and the tools and techniques and the right strategies so
that you can succeed as quickly as possible with the least amount of pain and anguish
that's how you rock out your best life that is what science supports
so the programs that i've put together are built on a neuro bio psychosocial approach
that is proven by science to be successful for addiction recovery and what that means is
we work on unwiring rewiring and hardwiring your brain so that we get rid of the pattern that is
pushing you back into the screen as it pulls you in we're mostly rewiring your brain in the present
using neurofeedback brain training using the met the muse headband and i offer
premier neurofeedback so using brain training technology that you probably haven't used before
and we're using a lot of cognitive behavioral strategies that are very specific and nuanced for
what needs to be done to stay out of the screen and then simultaneously we have our sights on
the future purpose when you got on purpose in your life there won't be a need for porn there'll be no
need to go into the screen because your brain will be getting all the dopamine serotonin and oxytocin
the neurotransmitters that it craves they'll your brain will be getting those neurotransmitters
from your life you won't need to get it from the screen so it's unwire rewire hardwire
at the same time the past needs to be explored past trauma dysfunction
programming you didn't program yourself you were programmed by your parents you were programmed
by your community you were programmed by your religion you were programmed by your culture
you have to explore your programming because some of it might need to be updated the software
might need to be updated you'll also explore the present how you're living your life stress
is the number one thing that pushes people into the screen secondarily is boredom we know that
a porn habit is about mood regulation it's about self-soothing it's not even about sex it's about
making you feel good so that you feel better about the difficult existence that you have
accidentally set yourself up with we all do it but we all have the opportunity to look at our habits
our lifestyle our job our relationship the way that we're living our life to improve it
in the present and when we do that we also look into the future and we set goals and they're not
just goals for achievement their goals that get to the life that you want to live that
feel so authentic and true to you that when you feel so good there's no need to escape
your daily life because it's awesome here you feel calm you feel focused you feel connected
to your people you feel on purpose in your work you're having so much fun in your hobbies
that at night you lay your head down and you get a great night's sleep and you're eager to get up
for the next day to go at it again not to escape into the screen to get a dump of dopamine
to make your brain feel good to offset the deficit that it is unfortunately creating in your life
so you need the guide let me be your yoda let me help you move out of this
thing there is a way you need a plan you need supplies you need strategies you need tools
you need to find someone to help you and if it's not me find somebody that you connect with that's
the most important thing that you find someone to guide you through this thing because it's tricky
so find someone who knows how to navigate the road so you don't keep tripping up okay
i hope that helps you out but there is a way out and it's easy to see it might not be that easy
to do but it's easy to see once you know the pieces that need to be explored and resolved
just like getting to san diego if someone shows me how to get there then i'll know how to get there
doesn't mean my journey will be without its ups and downs but it means now i know what i'm doing
so if it feels good reach out to me dr trishly.com i have small medium and large programs
to be able to fit your resources your time your money and your energy right now and if you get
into a smaller program there's a coupon code to be able to move up after that the 90-day program
is kind of the bar in recovery and it has all the tools and techniques strategies and the
support that you need all right it's time to kick porn to the curb so you can live your best life
at your full potential okay until next time control your brain or it'll control you