in this video you will learn the five biggest lies that men tell women so if
you're dating a man and find it difficult to fully trust and believe
what he tells you then this is a video you must watch I'm also going to tell
you how you can figure out if your man is being sincere with his feelings or if
he's manipulating you to get what he wants don't go anywhere because we're
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man tell women oh and make sure you watch the video all the way until the
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will give you specific instructions on how and what to do to win as we talked
about in other videos the most common type of lies that men tell women are
lies of omission these lies are when a person leaves out or omits an important
piece of information when they tell you something lies like when a man you're
dating just happens to forget to tell you that he has another girlfriend or
when your boyfriend tells you about a great restaurant where he's having lunch
but he leaves out the part that he's on a date with another woman yeah those are
lies of omission and are often used when a person fears the consequences of you
knowing the whole truth but today we're going to talk about bold-faced lies or
lies of commission these are lies that are created to manipulate or fool
another person for some personal gain the purpose of the lie is to cause you
to believe something that isn't true and manipulate the situation to his benefit
so a man will lie to make himself look better or lie about the way he feels to
win you over these lies are manipulative and hurtful but they are also easy to
spot so without further ado here are the five biggest lies that men tell women
number one the I've never felt like this before lie I wanted to start with this
one because it is something that happens early in a dating relationship and
usually before a couple have had sex so what is it well it's when a man comes on
to you very quickly usually during the first date and tries his best to charm
you by telling you the things that every woman wants to hear he tells you things
like I have never met anyone like you where have you been on my life he tells
you he wishes he would have met you a few years ago because then you too would
have been married by now meanwhile the man
doesn't even know you remember this is the first date and I'm not even done he
tells you things like the way we met his destiny and that he feels that you are
the woman of his dreams now why is he doing this why is he
telling you these things well he's attracted to you for sure and he
wants you to like him so he can sleep with you as soon as possible maybe even
that night but let's be real all the things he's saying are fairytales he
wants you to feel safe with him he wants to seduce you and he wants to
have sex with you and I know it's tempting to want to believe the things
he's telling you he's charming and funny and attractive and successful you want
all those things to be true but trust me he doesn't even know you so when this
happens to you take it as a compliment he's attracted to you but please be
logical and remember this if he really likes you the way he claims he does he
will like you even more tomorrow and next week and next month if you don't
sleep with him if he really feels that way he will continue to pursue and chase
you and most importantly he will get to know you
number two the I'm going through a divorce line so you just met the man of
your dreams and he seems to be everything you ever wanted in a person
and he feels the same way and as chasing you like crazy calling you and texting
you and inviting you on dates the only problem is that he's married and he has
children however he reassures you that he doesn't
love his wife anymore and is in the process of getting a divorce he's only
there because he has children he even reassures you that they sleep in
separate beds or in separate bedrooms now why is he telling you this well he
really likes you and he's attracted to you and he wants you to be his mistress
and if you fall for this lie he will promise you that one day he will divorce
his wife until then he can see you for an hour here and an hour there and
whenever he can escape from his other half meanwhile his wife and children
have no idea that you exist and divorce has never even been a topic for
conversation don't get caught up in this mess most of the time a divorce will
never happen and you will end up wasting years of your life by being his mistress
when he continues to chase and pursue you you will have to set
important boundary if he wants you he should first get divorced and start his
life over again as a single man then you can consider talking to him remember
this important rule never date a man who has not been divorced for at least a
year number three the I'm so busy lie this is a very common lie you begin
dating a man who is very career-oriented and successful his schedule is rather
packed with important things like work and colleagues and travel and friends
he's so busy but he is making time to text you and spend time with you he is
planning wonderful dates and making you a priority and it feels flattering
because he's such a great catch and he's interested in making time to get to know
you the first few weeks of dating go very
well and you feel like he's genuinely interested in you and you are really
into him and this is when the life starts just what he knows you're into
him and you really like him he becomes a master of excuses what does that mean
well when he does make plans with you he often cancels them last minute with
excuses he had to work late or forgot about a thing he had already scheduled
he insists that he wants to see you but he couldn't get out of work or family or
other obligations and then he doesn't seem to be making plans or commitments
with you like he did before instead he calls you at night and last minute and
asked to come over to see you and because you know he is truly busy you
agree because you want to see him but if you continue to allow this to happen it
will eventually become the norm and he will no longer be making you or the
relationship a priority so how do you handle this one well again here you've
got to set some boundaries and not be available for him at the drop of a head
become more scarce and only see him if he is making an effort to further
develop the relationship by investing his time and effort into you you can't
allow him to call you late at night just for sex he should be making an effort to
spend relationship time with you the next time he tries to call that same
night you've got to be strong enough to decline his offer and say no because he
should be making an effort to take you on a proper date so when he calls last
minute and asks you've got to be willing to
Perley decline and offer him an alternative that requires him to make an
investment into the relationship it goes something like this
hey what are you up to I miss you can I come over
you need to redirect him and say oh that's sweet I miss you too maybe we can
go on a date this weekend or say I miss you too let's plan an afternoon where we
do a B or C and when you do that you are setting your standards and it's up to
him to meet them if he's really into you he will step up and meet your standards
oh and I'm sure he will attempt to call you last minute more than one time so be
ready to make him put up or shut up stick to your standards if he disappears
he probably did you a favor number four the I've been hurt before lie the I've
been hurt before lie is one that men used to influence you into feeling sorry
for them because someone broke their heart and now they can't trust again
they use this liar manipulation as an excuse for not wanting a commitment
while keeping you on the sidelines feeling sorry for him think about this
as an example let's say that about a year ago you had your heart broken by
your ex-boyfriend who no longer wanted a relationship now fast forward to today
you've met an amazing man you get along so well he seems to be everything you've
ever wanted he's an amazing catch and he's showing
you all the signs that he really likes you he's investing into the relationship
and he really wants you now are you going to tell him hey I was hurt before
and I don't want to be hurt again so let's continue to date but you should
also see other women because I don't want to get hurt again
no that's crazy certainly you would be cautious with your heart and take things
slowly at the same time when you meet that one special person who turns your
world upside down you willing to do whatever it takes to keep that person in
your life so if a man won't commit to you because
he's afraid of getting hurt recognize this as a manipulation and let him know
that you're going to continue to date because after all you want a
relationship that keeps you in the driver's seat and then move on and find
the one that's afraid of losing you number five the I've been cheated on
before lie this is a common lie or manipulation that controlling people use
to justify excuse they're jealous behaviors again
they want you to feel sorry about the fact that they were cheated on and use
that as justification for why he's so possessive and jealous he wants you to
rationalize his behavior and say I understand why he sould jealous he's
been cheated on but I'm going to prove to him that he can trust me and you
think in time he will trust you and not be so jealous and worried all the time
and that's a big mistake here again you'll be overcompensating thinking that
you'll only have to do this temporarily because he will soon trust you again
your behavior is reactive and you've given up your power as I mentioned
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now like other difficult emotional experiences jealousy that is motivated
by insecurity can be a trigger for growth but that starts with an honest
conversation with yourself and with your partner discussing how jealous behavior
is hurting your relationship if you're dealing with an insecurity issue working
together on the issue can become the first step in increased self-awareness
and greater understanding of yourself and of the relationship so be wise trust
your instincts protect yourself if something doesn't sound or feel right do
what's best for you and keep yourself safe if you haven't already watched the
video on how men test women click here to check that one out now or click here
to watch the video that YouTube recommends thanks for watching I'll see
you in the next video