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Alright.
So how do narcissist distract you from
focusing on their destruction
while they do it in a number of different ways.
Not to mention the fact that they've been
love bombing you from the beginning.
Right?
I mean, they start off that way
charming and personable
and warm and perfect and,
like, they were the most amazing
human that ever came along
and made you feel like you were the most
amazing human on planet in the beginning,
didn't they?
But beyond that,
one of the things that they do is they use this method,
this whole divide and conquer
and one of the reasons why they do that is
they don't want people to be aligned.
You know, this is why they make
sure to line up the flying monkeys.
They don't like it when people
are friends with each other.
That's why they have this whole
triangulation thing going on.
And I noticed this in,
you know, even within our own family.
You know, they don't like everybody to be all together,
not within my side of the family
but you know, in other parts of our family,
I noticed this because they don't want people to be aligned.
They don't like it, which is why they do that.
They like people to be divided.
You know, you see this with dictators.
In history, you've seen this with
people who've been cult leaders.
They don't want that.
They use this whole divide and conquer method.
These are tactics that they use.
They want you to be conflicted between
other people and this you isolation method.
Nobody else likes you.
I'm the only one who does.
Your family hates you.
That's one of the ways that they serve as distractions
and I do have a whole video on
Narcissists' favorite phrases
and you can definitely check that out.
That's number one.
Number two is they get you
to question your decisions.
That's another distraction method that they use.
You know, so that you start wondering,
did I make the right choice?
You know, they degrade you.
They devalue you.
They debased you.
Oh, that's a stupid move.
Oh, who would do that?
Why would you do that?
You know, when you start go well, I don't know.
I thought that was a good choice.
Meanwhile, they are cutting you down.
They're they're trying to get control roll over you.
That's a method of distracting you
from their own path of destruction.
It's gaslighting is really what it is.
And so I have a whole video on
how to spot the hidden signs of gaslighting,
which you can definitely check out
and similarly, they also get you to
second guess your thoughts,
your feelings,
your emotions.
You know, when you're they're making fun of you.
You know, you shouldn't feel that way.
“Oh, I was only kidding.”
“You're over sensitive”
things like that.
That's all gaslighting.
By the way, It's all gaslighting.
Again, it's to distract you from
focusing on their destruction
because they are trying to take control over you.
That's what they're trying to do.
They're trying to get you to be destabilized.
If you hurt it with your ears.
If you saw it with your eyes it happened.
I want you to put it in the comments right now.
“JUST STOP!”
So you can just start to remind yourself.
This needs to be shutdown because it does
And this is how you're gonna start to pivot this.
This is how you're gonna start to turn
this around and stop this conditioning.
You're gonna turn it around
and you're gonna start walking towards.
So that you can start speaking
up so that you can start negotiating
with them and communicating with
them in a way that is powerful.
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The next thing that they do is they make you
think that your positive attributes our weaknesses.
You know, all the things that they
loved about you at the beginning,
your empathy,
your kindness,
your compassion,
your big heart.
All those wonderful things about you,
they make you think that those are weaknesses.
And by the way, they loved all
that about you at the beginning,
and now they try to make you think
that is something bad about you
and they make fun of you or whatever it is.
Don't listen to it.
You gotta close your ears.
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And you know, these are the
ways that narcissist just distract you
from focusing on their own destruction.
They're out there for themselves.
That's what this is about
and so remember that today's a great
day to start negotiating on your best life.
This is for you and
I will see all of you in the next video.