The challenge this week that Tommy gave us was to invite
our ex to sit down and talk with our number ones.
-Lizzie! -Hi!
-You all right? -Clarence is a guy that just spot BS and takes no mess.
We dated but we saw that we were better off friends and so he's almost like a big brother
I'm happy that you came because I wanna talk to you about this guy.
-And so-- -Okay.
Me and David, we just clicked when it comes to really spiritual things
but I do have some concerns.
Hm.
I actually got a chance to meet his friends the other day.
The day and everything was fine,
but off camera he kinda swished up on me.
-Really? -Yeah.
What really hurt me and what really shocked me was
off camera David asked me what I did that day,
in front of his friends.
And I told him, you know, I got a chance to meet Jason's friends
and he looked at me, he was like, "Oh, did you kiss Jason again?"
In front of his friends.
I was embarrassed, because I'm sitting up here like,
"why would you do me like that?"
-Hm. -I shared that in confidence. So to me that's a red flag.
I want a man that I can feel safe with and be vulnerable around and share things with.
That when I share something intimate with you, you gonna protect that.
That's why I really wanted you here because I need to see like what you feel.
I don't like that already.
What's up everybody? Hey, how is it going?
-How is it going? David man, good to meet you. -Clarence.
Hey, how you doing?
[David] I walk in, I see the gentleman on the other side of this table.
Uh, so...
What is going on?
So, this is Clarence. Me and Clarence dated in the past.
And he has become one of my good friends.
-[laughs] -This is a very interesting place, right?
Bro, it ain't like every day you can say you get to meet your interest's ex.
Well, it's a pleasure meeting you, but at the same time...
-I have some questions. -Okay.
So then it's not a pleasure anymore or?
I like to get to the bottom of things.
For sure.
I was a little taken back by this ex.
My man came out the gate swinging.
I got a question just to set the tone and understanding the relationship.
Last time that there was any love or intimacy with y'all.
Honestly, I think we kissed one time.
And that was I can't even tell you how many years ago.
[laughs] It was, yeah.
Gotcha, gotcha.
I connected the fact that him bringing up the kiss
with Jason in front of his friends and then meeting my ex, bringing up
when was the last time you guys kissed and been intimate that that was a issue for him.
That tells me that when he told me, "Oh, it's not a big deal, I understand, we're good
we're good," that he wasn't truthful about that because obviously that bothered him.
How important is communication to you?
Probably the most important thing in a relationship.
I love a woman that's a safe place, no matter what I tell her.
So do you feel like you're a safe place for her?
Yes, I think I would be a safe place.
Okay, because prior to your arrival she shared with me,
-she told you something in confidence-- -Okay.
Kiss with somebody else. And she felt betrayed
-that you mentioned it in front of your friends. -Mm-hmm.
-How do you feel explaining you being a safe place-- -Yeah.
-After doing that. -So, this is more so to Liz.
If you told me, Dave, just going forward I don't feel comfortable
with certain things you may share
that I have to learn from you.
Did you notice what her gestures
-suggested in the moment? -No.
-No. -Did it matter?
It's not that it didn't matter. Knowing how I see you,
knowing how I value you, and the platform that I put you on...
You are solid to me, I mean that, like... ain't no other layers.
It feels like at this moment he was not being honest and when he was called out on it
he was trying to fix the situation by showering me with compliments.
That made me very uncomfortable and very uneasy.
I'll be honest, I have felt a disconnect with you
and it really solidified that day.
This whole conversation and you being here and her being here,
I wanna like,
just kind of bring down... the strength in the room right now.
-Okay. The strength-- -Yeah, yeah, yeah.
I'm a alpha, I don't know how to be weak.
-I just have a lot to process. -Yeah.
I'mma go ahead and roll, I'mma let y'all catch up.
I ain't like that, we grown.
And I wanna make sure that grown people have a chance
to speak to each other one on one, without a third party getting involved.
I don't think the dinner or this whole thing went off well.
We grown.
Oh, man.
-Good?
-That was intense.
He's a smooth talker. You know what I'm saying?
It's almost like you want a seesaw of emotions.
He ain't know what to say to make you feel some type of way.
-[groans] -This is my thing though.
If you're gonna be one way with me in private and someone totally different in public
then how do I know who the real you is?
[beep] Yeah.
-Cheers to another date. -Yeah, cheers.