when we were little children and we felt unhappy we naturally blamed other things
our people for our gloom as we grew up our IQ definitely increased but did we
grow an EQ as well EQ is the emotional intelligence quotient how to grow in
that is what we are going to discuss today on the fifth day of our happiness
challenge as we discuss the art of happiness
there was a woman who would always criticize the neighbors to her husband
look my dear husband the neighbor's house wall is so patty
they are such untidy people oh my my look at the clothes on the clothes lying
there full of stains all up they have not even cleaned their car today however
one day she woke up and she looked outside the window and said what has
happened my dear husband to our neighbours everything is cleaned today
the husband responded nothing has happened the only thing I did was at
night I cleaned our windowpane well it may seem silly but that is very often
the reality of our life our own windowpane is dirty and we are finding
faults on the outside if we have made it a habit to point fingers at things we
need to rethink and take a look whether we ourselves are at fault I am reminded
of this patient who went to meet the doctor he said Oh doctor my whole body
is paining so the doctor said let me check he took his finger and placed the
patient's finger on his tie and said is it paining the patient screamed ah so
painful the doctor said ok let's try again
he took the finger and put it on his forehead now Oh doctor I've never
experienced such misery again the doctor took his finger and put it on his arm ah
ah ah doctor so much the doctor showed him his finger
there was a splinter right there that painting finger was making it seem
as if the whole body was in pain in the same way if it seems to us that this
world is defective the government is a problem kali oak is a problem etc we
need to ponder again and see whether the problem is not within us there are two
kinds of people in the world those who are reactive and those who are proactive
the proactive ones know that their emotions are the choice that they make
for themselves the reactive ones don't realize this gap and that is why they
feel desperate because the external circumstances are not in their command
and they feel that these situations are responsible for their thoughts reactive
people make statements like I don't feel any love for my spouse any longer I
don't know what has happened so what to do now I am just waiting for the love to
come back these poor people don't realize that love is not a feeling
love is a world it's something that we do to choose loving sentiments that is
the key so let us try to be proactive in our
life whatever your situation whatever the sentiments you are experiencing is
there a higher sentiment that you can keep whatever your feelings think is
there a higher feeling that I can Harbor within myself when you start doing that
you will start growing in your emotional quotient which means mastery and
understanding of your emotions and then you will understand the import of the
words in the bhagavad-gita hood peridot Mahna Mahna Mahna Mahna Mossad head at
my V Hartman Obon Gujrat my very pure man aha
your mind can be your best friend but it can also be your worst enemy
that is why uplift yourself by the power of your mind do not degrade so the
message today on day five of this happiness challenge is to be proactive
and to look inwards and see how we can make a quantum shift upwards in our
emotions and our sentiments to take one step further in this mastery and
ascendance of the mountaintop of happiness how do we proceed further on
this journey we will discuss tomorrow on day six when we talk about inspiration
thank