Hey, conscious lovers! This video is for you
if you find yourself stuck in your head when you make a love and you desire to be
more connected with your body because you know that that's where more pleasure is, isn't it?
I'm Elisa Caro, a Sex Coach specializing in female pleasure and orgasms. You are in the right place
if you want to reclaim more pleasure, be more connected with your body,
and enjoy sex more. In this video, I'm going to share with you three steps, easy steps, that
you can do right now to change your sex life and to be more connected with your body during sex!
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I hear from my clients over and over again that they find themselves in their head
planning tomorrow, worrying about if they're doing the right things, feeling self-conscious about the
way they look, worrying if their partner is having a good time as they make love, so they are like
in their mind doing the to-do list or what's next, what I'm going to cook for dinner after.
So they're in their mind instead of being in their bodies. Step number one: Train the puppy!
So over and over again, when your mind wonder, bring it back. Prioritize your
pleasure. Don't indulge in those thoughts. Anytime you realize that you're wandering,
simply bring the mind back. It's like a puppy. Imagine if you're training a puppy,
you're not gonna be too upset or judgmental. You just simply guide the puppy back, guide the puppy
back if they're doing something naughty. So the same with your mind. Anytime you wander, bring it
back. When you do this over and over again, you're going to strengthen that muscle of the brain and
it's going to become easier and easier to be in the moment. How simple is that? Step number two:
Use your body, breath, sounds, and movement. I know it sounds so basic, so simple,
yet over and over again with my clients and in all my online course and training,
I need to remind people to use their body to be proactively using their breath
using sounds moving their body in ways that feels good. Don't try to sound like the last porn videos
you've seen. You know, maybe your sound, it sounds like it and that's fine but don't try to
imitate anything. What's your specific sound? Like my sounds are much more like...
They're much more down rather than for instance like the high pitch
from the mainstream porn which would be like
"Oh yeah!" That's not like me and it might be you and that's fine but don't try to imitate that and
I remember in the past trying to make that sound because I thought that what would be expected from
me or how pleasure looked like and now sometimes I'm really literally, literally like ahhhh
I can even do that and that feels great and I'm gonna do it, I'm not gonna hold back!
So what's your sex sound? What are your sex sounds? Because I'm sure you have more than one.
And use your breath like often we're going to shallow breathing, get a bit rigidn... No,
no, no, no. Loosen up, loosen up your body, move the body as you feel pleasure moving through you
and breathe. That's a very important part in to inhabit your body more. If you do that,
you're going to find yourself being more in the body because you're actually
using it rather than using your mind wandering. Be in your body. Use your body. Be authentic.
It's what you want in sex because it really help you, doesn't it? It really helps you to be
in your body more, be more connected so that you can reclaim the pleasure that
you deserve because remember, you are capable of feeling the pleasure you want! If you're
really enjoying this video and you want to maybe learn a little bit more how to surrender in sex
which actually supports you get out of your head and more in your body, check out my video here:
How to Surrender During Sex. It's pretty amazing as well. Step 3: Be Open to Feel. Are you avoiding
to feel something? Are you holding back? Is there something that you might be escaping?
I know sometimes it's a bit of an uncomfortable question, isn't it? But what's happened is that
sometimes we are trying to avoid certain type of feeling, unpleasant emotion such as frustration,
sadness, anger, and when we are trying to not feel those emotions,
we are also preventing ourselves from feeling pleasure because there's not such a thing as "I'm
picking that feeling and that one please, sadness, no thanks." When you open up the door
of feelings, anything that is there will come and so when we decide to numb sadness,
we are also numbing pleasure and if that's what you want please go ahead and do it. But I know
that a lot of you don't want that. You want to feel the pleasure don't you? So you might
need to sign up as well for some uncomfortable emotion. Sometimes, not every time but sometimes,
they might be there and so if you find yourself in your head. Ask yourself this question:
"Is there anything am I avoiding to feel?" In my case, I know that sometimes when there is some
build up feeling that I'm pushing down, maybe like some sadness or anger, frustration or overwhelm,
what's happening is that when I start to make love, I find myself in my head
and then when I ask myself that question, I'm slowly coming back and sometimes some
tears come and sometimes some frustration of anger come and I might even express it ah
but shortly after, PLEASURE comes, ECSTACY comes, BLISS comes and maybe I'm trading in a couple of
tears I was really trying to avoid for so much pleasure and orgasm and for me that is a no brain.
Of course, I'm choosing feeling. And so if you decide to be so courageous and brave because I
know it takes a lot of courage, ask yourself that question and lean into the feelings that
might be coming up. I know that you want even more pleasure, don't you? This is just a little bite
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