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- Hey guys!
It's Brooklyn and Bailey and guess what y'all?
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we are doing new covers,
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- [Bailey] I, like literally y'all, I'm so excited.
- We've done rehearsals, I mean,
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so definitely buy those tickets and now, on to the video.
- Um, I feel like in this video.
So I know the intro seems like, really happy
and excited but, this video,
I'm just gonna film by myself
and it's super casual, as you can see,
I'm just sitting in bed but, I'm just gonna kind of
address this very serious topic
that I know many of y'all
probably already know what it is
but there have been rumors
and messages and you know, DMs and groups
and Instagrams and tweets and everything all over
asking what happened to Parklyn
because I did remove Parker's name from my bio.
Parker and I are not together anymore
and I just want to let y'all know that
about a week ago, Parker dumped me
and uh, it sucked.
It still sucks.
And um, God, I don't wanna cry.
You know, there are, I'm sure to a lot of you
our relationship came off as perfect.
You know Instagram pictures can only tell you so much
and our relationship, we were happy
and we were generally perfect and we had our ups and downs
and we had our issues, but we were happy
and you know, the past month or so,
we've been going through some, some different issues
with just communication and understanding
what the other one wants.
I thought that we were working through it.
And I was super invested in the relationship
and, you know we sat down last Wednesday
and we talked it out and we felt really good
and then at the end of the conversation,
Parker just decided to dump me
and it kind of blindsided me a little bit.
It kind of came out of nowhere.
I knew that we were having issues
but they were issues a lot of couples go through
and issues that seemed very minor to me
and something we could get through
and Parker, I think had a different mindset about it
and he made a decision that was right for him
but wasn't necessarily right for me
and it sucked.
And he decided, you know
when he broke up with me
I remember my heart just stopping.
He's been my best friend for four years
and my boyfriend for two of those
and this, I just am literally in the moment
I couldn't even fathom that it was happening
I never thought it would happen to me.
I never thought I'd have to experience this.
I never thought that I'd have to not him there
and my heart literally stopped
and I just sobbed, like I sobbed and that's
all I did was cry.
And, you know and I got home
and I thought I was gonna be okay
and then I just cried some more
and it was really, really hard
and I had a really hard time with it.
The first day after the break-up,
I woke up to go to Bible study
and I didn't wanna get out of bed.
And I didn't want to brush my teeth
and I didn't want to look at myself in the mirror
and I didn't wanna eat
and I didn't want to do anything
because all I could think about was how sad I was
and what I lost and it was hard
and I totally understand it
if, you know total, it makes sense that I was so sad
and the only reason I ended up doing anything was
because Bailey forced me to get out of bed
and Bailey forced me to brush my teeth
and forced me to eat something
and, you know, I went to Bible study
and I sat there, and I didn't talk to anybody
and I went to Majestics practice
and I sat there and I didn't talk to anybody
and I laid on the floor in the locker room and I cried.
And I cried and I cried and I cried and I cried.
And then Bailey got me up and got me dressed
and I went to school and then I came home
and I cried and I cried and I cried
and I didn't even want to be awake that first day
because I, my mind was so focused on,
you know, what I'd lost.
And it got better, day by day
and you know, filming this video now
it's been one week since I got dumped
and I am still hurting a lot.
A lot, a lot.
And um, just so you know, I'm looking at a paper here
I wrote down some notes cause, I'm so scatter-brained
but, I just wanna let y'all know that
Parker is a really good guy
and he deserves happiness in every way possible
even if that's not with me
and I don't regret our relationship in any way,
shape or form.
I was so happy and I will forever remember our relationship
with a happy mindset
and I just wanna let y'all know that
he's still a very very very wonderful person
and I don't want y'all to think
that he's this big bad guy because he dumped me
and I don't want y'all to go and hate on him.
I'm sure he's had his own struggles with this breakup
and I, nobody needs to make that worse for him.
You know, he did breakup with me and in the end
that decision was probably something he thought about
for a while and you know, he'd come to the conclusion
that that was better for him
and that doesn't necessarily mean that it was better for me.
It was not mutual.
I can tell you that.
I, in no way shape or form, wanted to break up
and it still happened.
There's nothing I could've done about it
There's nothing I could've done to stop it.
There's nothing I could've done to changed or done better
to make it not happen.
It just, was supposed to happen
and all I'm left with is, you know the decision
on whether or not I'm going to move on
and be happy, or whether I'm going to focus on that sadness.
It took me about three days before I finally realized
that I had two choices, I could either
wallow in my misery and be sad
and focus on all of those things I no longer had
or I could try to change my mindset
and think about all of the things
that I was gaining and all of the things
that I gained out of our relationship
and the positives of what was happening
and trying to let myself move on
and not wallow in misery because in my head
it just made sense that I tried to be happy
instead of make myself sad
because I'm not gonna get anything out of sadness
and I think it's a teenagers mindset to kind of
like I know a lot of people, including myself
sometimes feel, like we just feel alone
and that's not true, it's not.
And those first three days
I felt horribly, completely, utterly alone
and abandoned and sad and I didn't wanna do anything
and get up, eat, drink, nothing.
I didn't want that
and, you know after the third day
I think it kind of occurred to me
that I wasn't alone and that was mostly due to
I had huge, huge help from my family and my friends
and I, I can't even begin to tell you how grateful
and wonderful these people are
and I, you know I, that first day that he broke up with me
had probably 20 people bring me ice-cream
bringing me gifts, facemask, bath bombs.
Anything and everything that possibly could,
letters, notes, you know I had over 60 people message me,
DM me, send me a letter.
Something telling me that they were feeling for me,
if I needed anything I could talk to them
and I may have lost one person
but in the end, I gained all of these people
and I recognized them as my friends and my family
and I see how much they're supporting me
I think a mistake I made
and a mistake a lot of people make
is in the relationship, I focus all my energy
and my attention and my love on one person
and that was Parker
and I never ventured outside of that little bubble of Parker
and I just assumed he was always gonna be there
and when he wasn't, I had no idea what to do.
I didn't, I hadn't developed relationships with, you know
really close friends and I hadn't confided in anybody else
and when he left, I felt so alone
and I cannot be more grateful for the friends
that did step up and fill that role
and are coming to my aid even though
I didn't spend time with them
and didn't invest myself in them
in the relationship and I think that's something that
you know, I would advise a lot of people to make sure
that you're doing in a relationship is
You'll have that one person
that you love with all your heart
but always make sure
that you're giving a part of your time
and attention to all the other people
who love and care about you
because you can never rely on one person
to always be there.
Things happen and life isn't fair
and sometimes those people leave
and you have to rely on everybody else
and having that relationship, I think is super important.
One of the things that I did as soon
as Parker broke up with me was
I gave him all of his stuff back
and I replaced the things
that I knew were going to make me sad
like Parker bought me a necklace
for one of our anniversaries that I wore
since the day he got it for me
and I took that off and I put on another necklace
This one and I've worn it since in replace
because this one is a necklace that has a positive memory
that is attached to it and now I can look at this necklace
and reach up and feel this necklace
like I used to Parker's and instead of being sad
and thinking about Parker,
instead I'm reminded of the happy memory
that this necklace brings me
or for example, Parker gave me one of his jackets
a long time ago and I took that thing everywhere with me.
I slept with it every night
I dragged it through school, class, travel, work
anything and everything and you know,
when he broke up with me
that jacket just made me want to be miserable
and sad and reminded me all over again
of what I lost and what hurts and so, I gave it back
and Bailey and Asa immediately took me to Target
and we went and got another jacket
one that was my own.
That nobody could take away from me
and I could too attached to as much as I wanted
and it's always going to be there
and that helped me a lot
because I had a replacement
and I replace all of these things that meant so much to me
with other objects that brought me happiness
instead of a reminder of my sadness.
If you truly do wanna move on
and be happy, you can't have those
constant reminders of what you lost
and you know, what you have.
And, you know I still have pictures of me and Parker.
I downloaded them to my computer
and they're not on my phone
but I know that when I'm older,
I am going to want to look back
and remember this part of my life
and remember our relationship
and you know, tell my kids about what happened
and I think it's important that I focus on the fact
that he was a part of my life
and that I can't just throw it all away.
I think it's important that in the moment,
we don't make rash decisions.
I remember I came home and I just started crying to my mom
and the first thing she did was, she took my phone.
She didn't really tell me why but I just let her have it
because I didn't want it
and I was just gonna be sad
and I think it was so so so smart
and I'm so grateful that she did that
because if I had my phone
in all likelihood, I probably would've texted Parker
and I probably would've called him and you know,
all of these things
all of these decisions that I make in the moment,
the rash decisions I make in the moment
and I think that it's important
that we don't do that.
And it's important that I didn't do that
in the moment because sometimes you'll do things you regret
or you hurt them in a way you didn't mean
or you say things that you truly don't actually feel
you're just angry or upset or sad
and I think it's important that we
we focus on not doing those things
because making rash decisions in the moment
never end up good
I think in the end I
am a better person for what happened
and there are lessons I learned
and things that I now that I didn't know before
and the thing that's helped me the most through this
is the idea that
you know, there's this whole plan
and my life is happening the way
that it's supposed to happen.
I had a really good friend of mine
give me a really great piece of advice
and he said, "Every relationship will end in hurt
"except for the one that doesn't."
And every relationship you go through
is just one more stepping stone towards the person
that's going to be the one that does make you happy
for the rest of your life
and isn't going to leave you.
And, I think that one piece of advice
has really helped me keep a positive outlook on this.
In the end, I did learn a lot of good lessons.
I learned a lot of communication
a lot of how to, you know, be with someone
how to, just a lot of great lessons
that are key and the next time I meet a guy,
I have all of these things that I now know
from Parker and I'm grateful
that I was able to experience these things
and you know, be able to understand them and learn them
and be in the moment and, even through the breakup,
I've learned things about myself and about other people
and about life that I would've never known
if I hadn't had this experience.
There are a lot of people who go through stuff like this
and there are a lot of girls like you
who are gonna go through stuff like this
and if you haven't already, you will
and if you have, it's possible that it will happen again
and it doesn't make it any easier
and I just wanna let everyone know that
I understand and my life isn't perfect
and I make mistakes and stuff like this happens to me
and happens to you and I wanna let y'all know
that I understand and I sympathize
and you know, life isn't perfect and life isn't fair
and you can do everything right
and sometimes it just doesn't work out
and it doesn't work out the way you want it to
and the only thing we can do
is make it the best of the situation we have
and we can't focus on the things we lost
or the things we don't have
or we're just gonna make ourselves miserable
and nobody wants to be miserable.
I think that you just have to keep this mindset of
what is there coming up for me that's better
and what can I do
and how can I make myself happy so that
until that moment, I'm not miserable
and you know, that kind of mindset.
This was my first heartbreak and it's really hard
and it's been really hard
and I've had a lot of people tell me
that I'm handling this breakup really well
but that doesn't necessarily mean
that it doesn't still hurt.
It still hurts and I still had all of these things happen
and I still had those emotions in the beginning
and I still have those emotions.
I've just taken on a mindset that I am going to
take this experience and learn and grow from it
and become a better person from it
instead of wallowing in my misery
and being sad and hurting other people
and all of these other things that I could do
and I just think that there are a lot of y'all
that are probably in the same boat
and will experience the same thing
and if anything, you can listen to this rant of mine
and learn something or you know, empathize
and try to take that mindset too.
But yeah, I just think that in the end,
I'm so grateful for all the people who were there for me
and I'm grateful for the experiences and lessons
and learning and growing that I have done because of this
and I'm excited for what's to come in the future
and I think Parker is a wonderful person
and I think that there will always be a part of me
that loves him and even when I'm married,
I'm gonna think back to, you know,
my first love, which is Parker and,
you know I'll think of it in a fond memory
but I'll also still have a little bit of hurt
and I think that that's normal and you know,
it's just something that we have to learn
and get through and I hope
that this video helps someone out there
who's experiencing something similar
and that y'all can decide
to learn and grow from your experiences as well.
But moving on from all of that sadness y'all,
we are going on tour so soon!
And, you guys are going to miss out if you're not there
I am going to be talking a little bit more
about my break-up on tour
and just relating to all of you
and there's gonna be tonnes of other fun stuff.
We are performing two brand new covers
and we're performing our three original songs,
going to 16 different cities
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