Text messaging. How do you do it? What do you text? What should you intro and text a
guy. That's what we're talking about today. We're going to go through seven principles
to build a guys' attraction over text messages. Hey, it's Mark here from Make Him Yours. This
is really fun stuff, so make sure you stay tuned.
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Oh, hey there, this little beast here, you gotta use it all the time, and it's everything
to do with when you're meeting and flirting with guys. Today, I want to give you seven
principles on how to use it right, so that every text you get from a guy builds attraction
and builds excitement for him to see you again. Number one, text the guy substance. You want
to have something worth texting. If you text him, "What's up?" What does it say - that
you're bored and that you have nothing going on. You want to text him some substance. You
want to say something exciting that's happening? "Oh my God, the sport just finished. I'm having
so much fun. I'm out with friends." Give something of value. Give something that he can be excited
to be a part of and to get involved with. You want to tell a guy about your exciting
life and give the image that you've got stuff going on with text messages.
You don't want to text him when you're bored and have nothing happening. Number two, when
you're texting, almost invariably, it should come under one of two categories. Unless you're
sorting out something like plain logistics, like a time to meet up or when you're doing
things, text should either be flirty or happy. There's no point. No guy wants to receive
a text about how awful your day was and how bull work was and how you hate everyone. No
guy wants to be a part of that. Make it flirty. Make it happy. Send him a teasing text when
he says something smart ass like, "Haha Mister, if you play your cards right, you might even
get a second date." Or just text him something positive about your day. "Oh my God. The craziest
thing just happened to me today. You'll never guess what. I bet my day was so much better
than yours."
Whatever it is, give him a smile, make it flirty, make it happy. If your text is either
flirty or happy, whatever it says, you can pretty much guarantee that it's going to get
a good response and leave the interaction going in the right direction. Number three,
you don't want to talk for too long. You want to have short conversations. Then end them,
so often I see girls getting into big long text chats with a guy and you have this incredible
energy. When you meet in person, you have this vibe, you exchange numbers. It's so exciting
and then you started texting about what flavor ice cream you both like and how many siblings
you have and what you're doing on the weekend and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
All the energy dissipates from the interaction. Keep it short. A few short texts is great
and then say, "Look, I gotta, run love to chat later. Call me later on."
Give him a green light to call you and move the interaction forward rather than letting
it fizzle via text message. Remember your text messages want to be flirty and happy.
Give them a short burst of you, then get on with your life. He'll be attracted to you
for it, and you can chat to him on the phone later and move your interaction on. Number
four, you don't want to over text the guy. So this is a mistake I see girls make and
heaps, which kills a guy's attraction for you. So let's say you're sending a text. You
say, "Hey, we're going into this thing tonight. Do you want to come?" Most girls, maybe they
send a followup text. They say, "Hey, did you get my text?" Maybe they call him up afterwards
and say, "Hey, I don't know if you know I texted you."
Maybe they keep sending follow-up texts. "Why aren't you replying? You're an asshole. I
hate you. I didn't mean what I said. I'm sorry." Like there's no need to follow up texts. If
a guy doesn't respond, here's what you do. You ask him does he want to come for the night?
He doesn't respond. You go out with the girls and you have a great night. There's very rarely
any reason that you need to text the guy more than once. Let it go, let it sit with him.
It communicates that you're going to give him a chance, but if he doesn't take it, you're
going to move on to bigger and better things. And that's what you want to communicate to
a guy. He's really gonna respect that. And what's more, when he knows that that's how
you work, he's gonna make an effort to respond and he's going to know that you're not going
to chase him after you've shown some interest.
So number five is vary your reply times, but don't do it on purpose. So that sounds kind
of counterintuitive, but what you want to do with not text the guy back straight away
all the time. The thing is, it's kind of weird. You're doing that on purpose. If you like
sitting at home on the phone, not replying, waiting for time to go off so you can text
him again, that's fucking weird. You want to vary your reply times by just being busy
by doing things, finish what you're doing in your life and then reply to the dude. That's
pretty much the secret of it. So you'll reply straight away sometimes cause you won't be
doing anything. But other times you're out with the girls, you're at work, finish what
you're doing first and then reply to the guy - communicates that he's not your top priority,
that he has to work a bit for you and it just happens kind of as part of your lifestyle.
So you can see the more you build your lifestyle and the busier you are, the more you have
stuff going on, the more without even thinking about it, your reply times to a guy are gonna
vary. Number six, text when you're doing something. So, so often girls will text a guy and guys
do this as well. Guys make this mistake too when they're not doing anything with their
day. And so inevitably when the other person asks you what you're doing, you're kind of
like, "Well, nothing." If you want to build attraction with a guy, you want to be out
doing things right. So text him just before you're about to start something, something
exciting. Tell him about it. Tell him how excited you are and share some enthusiasm.
He's going to love it. And then you'll be out doing the thing. And so you'll be too
busy for a little while to reply.
And then you can text him again after. Perfect attraction building technique via text message.
And finally, number seven, you want to use smileys but don't overuse smileys. The problem
with text messages is that they're essentially a text only communication, right? There's
no emotions. There's none of the vocal inflections that make language and communication what
it is and smileys are your way to deal with that. Imagine for example, the text, "I hate
you so much right now." What does that look like without a smiley or with a smiley? It
goes from hateful to flirty, right? That's your communication. That's your subtext. At
the same time, imagine that text with like 14 smileys, either side and two in the middle.
It looks ridiculous, right? And you look like you're 13 so you want to use smileys, but
don't overuse them. Use them enough to communicate flirtiness but not so much that it looks like
your 12.
Girls, I hope that gives you an idea with texting. It shows you can build attraction.
There's methods that you can use to just subtly build attraction, build the energy with a
guy so that the next time you see him he's even more excited to see you and the attraction
has increased while you've been apart rather than declined. Do you agree? Do you disagree?
Let me know in the comments. I'd love to hear from you. Let's build a community. Let's build
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check it out and look. Remember with text messaging, it's only a way to get to the next
section where the guides, it's not the be all and end all, but it is a fun thing you
can do in between to build attraction. I'll see you girls all very soon.