At first she came onto me quite strong. Once we started dating however...
She wouldn't talk to me anymore.
Turns out she was a boy. - What?
Hey guys and girls on Ask Japanese this is Cathy Cat.
We went to the streets of Tokyo to ask Japanese boys from their experience
If they actually noticed that Japanese girls will CHANGE
once you actually start dating them. Let's find out what happens
Let's go and ask Japanese boys.
What we are asking every boy today...
Before dating she was like this. Once you dated she was like that...
Have you perceived her being different prior and during dating her?
I have met my girlfriend at my part time job.
Once we dated, I could say different aspects of her than I saw at our job.
And that made me realize again why I like her.
What has changed?
Before and After?
At the job she looked always really serious and a bit stiff even.
But once we started going out, she let me take care of her, I saw different aspects
And I thought that was really cute.
She can let her guard down. - Yes.
So you prefer her being less serious.
Yeah but I mean I started liking her, seeing her serious side first.
When we went out drinking we got along more and more.
And that's why I started liking her. Her hard and soft sides.
When did she let her guard down with you recently?
We boys are planning to go out drinking now. And she said "Please don't go out drinking."
She says that now.
I think it's the fact that she wants me to be near her now. It's cute.
Will you still go out drinking? - I already made this promise, so I have to go.
But I told her I will come home early.
You're nice.
Do you have a girl now? - I do...
She has not changed. - Where did you meet her?
I met her at our university club. It's like a good friend became my girlfriend.
People say that's the best way!
What did you start liking about her?
She isn't bothered when I am silent. When I want to talk, she wants to talk too. We're the same.
Who confessed their feelings first? - That was me.
How was it with you? - It wasn't like that. Before we realized it we were both in love and started going out.
You are both giving off such a happy vibe. Let me have some too!
How have girls changed before and after dating them? Let's start here.
She became annoying.
What do you mean?
Before dating she was holding back and didn't complain but once we dated...
she would pick a fuss. She would complain a lot.
She used to hold back ... - And then she would really lash out on me.
With me it was the other way around.
She first used to come onto me really heavily.
Once we started dating, she wouldn't talk to me anymore.
She would talk happily with other boys. But when talking with me she'd look down and such.
She was being shy? - Maybe it was that.
She held back her character at the start. When we started going out though...
she stopped holding back and kept complaining a lot.
Does that mean she said a little too much? - She really did. She also started using dirty words.
You wished she wouldn't use foul language? - Yeah.
How did your girlfriend change?
Before dating, she talked more freely about anything with me.
After dating, many Japanese girls go quiet. Do you have an idea why?
WE wish we knew that.
You wish you knew!
When was the point when she stopped holding her real personality back?
When she started eating a lot of food.
Before she just ordered salad? - Not that bad but...
She used to only order smaller portions.
She then started eating normal sizes.
She started eating properly.
I must say I like that. I prefer girls who can eat a great meal, right?
Yeah you're right.
When did your girlfriend stop holding back?
Before she must have worried keeping me up at night and didn't call.
But once we started dating, we would talk on the phone until 4 am.
She started saying what was on her mind.
Also in case of a fight? - In fights but also when we went out on dates...
she used to leave it all up to me before.
But once she was more relaxed she would tell me "I wanna go here, here and there."
Are you seeing anyone right now? - I have no girlfriend right now. - Me neither.
But you have had one before. - I have. - Not for a long time.
Did your girlfriend change before and after you started going out?
Her text message replies got late!
I get that. - What do you mean. - We would hang out.
And after going on that date... I must have done something wrong.
She stopped replying to my messages.
We call it "Ghosting" in English. She has read it, and you can see she read it...
but she won't reply ever.
Yes!
That's tough. Did she NEVER get back to you. - Yeah.
She ignored me.
Well .... - You should tell her
She was a girl before... but then it was a boy. - What?
She acted all girly beforehand, and after dating she got all manly?
No she was a girl at the start. But then she turned out to be a man.
He fell for a trap.
He thought they were a girl. Turns out they were a boy.
Really? Are you lying to me?
It happened. - He is not.
And? - That became a trauma for me.
Did they not tell you beforehand?
No. I wish they had told me before getting undressed.
So you say "New Half" in Japan. - We do.
And then it ended like that.
You wish they had told you earlier? - I think so.
That was all. Thank you!
Look Carlos is here today too.
How did your girlfriends change before and after dating?
There are girls who change and those who do not.
You made a lot of experiences in that area. - What do you mean by that?!
Hehehe.
Anyways, what are the common changes?
The most common is girls voices. Before going out, they will speak in a higher voice...
You hear girls do it on the phone too in a high voice. "Hello it's Tanaka"
And when the go home they say "So tired" all in a deep voice.
You see those changes with dating some girls in Japan.
So first they were all high like "Hey Carlos how are you?" later they talk low like "Oi Carlos"
"So tired and bored AF"
Not just the voice but also the character changed?
We all have a side we show to the public and one that we hide.
You do the thing with the voice too Cathy. - I do?
What do you mean?
When you speak Japanese and when you speak English your voice is lower.
That's true, I sound different when I do that.
When I speak German my voice is super low.
And Japanese you talk higher like "Hihihi"
What that's supposed to be me?
You might do that sometimes.
I'm so sorry.
Another thing about Japanese girls... is money related issues.
Before dating boys will try and take them to fancy restaurants, buy girls expensive things and such...
Once you start going out officially, some girls will say...
That they don't need to be taken to expensive places like that
or "we can go to a cheaper place, it's ok"
The girls will say that? - Yes.
"We don't need to go to fancy restaurants!"
There are girls who let the boys relax more, and then some others.
So girls who are not like that. - Some are not like that.
Any other thing that changes when going out...
Before and after dating one thing that changes... In Japan we say we put on a facade...
Girls and boys do that in society.
Outside they act all like they are super hyper, when you go home they are super quiet.
So when it's just the two of you, she stops being all excited?
They stop being all hyper at all.
Outside they try their best to be energetic, when they go home they didn't want to go that far
More like hanging around.
But when girls do that, means they let their guard down, right?
Yes they are showing a side that others can't see.
You can see it then. It might be good or bad depending on the person and yourself.
Some might go "What?" - Some might get shocked.
But at the same time you know they let you into their hearts. - That too.
They let me in... depending on the situation. - And the person...
What was the most shocking thing you experienced?
Many Japanese girls are very modest and quiet before you date them.
The calm and senpai admiring type? - I don't know about that part...
But once you start going out... they can can come onto you quite strong.
Their habits and such get stronger. Instead of a little slap, there comes a punch.
Oh that's what you mean?
The words they use can also become more violent.
That type of attack! Like slapping and hitting?
Those are still fun but there are other attacks too...
Straight out punches? - Yes those.
Okay I got it. Did you guys learn something new?
Did you? - Did you? - You didn't learn something. I might get killed by partner...
This is turning scary.
Well on that note guys...
Those were a couple of things that might change when you date a Japanese girl
watch out for those. I hope you enjoyed this video.
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