How to consciously train your mind and body to unconsciously act
in harmony with your values and vision? In this episode, we're going to address
one of the key principles in the series that answers the question. How to prepare your children
for the future? Get ready, this is extremely powerful and a must to teach to your loved ones.
So, my name's Doug Andrew and if you have not viewed any of the other episodes in this series
on how to prepare your children for the future. Let me give you a little history. Several years ago
I was at a genius network meeting and my good friend Richard Rossi gave an incredible
10-minute talk on how to prepare children for the future and he covered eight concepts that
I'm very familiar with because we both belong to strategic coach. Well, I added four to his
eight and for years I've been teaching families and business owners how to teach these principles.
Because we have many many college graduates. They get through from college and they think the world
owes them a living but they can't find a job and then when we test them on these 12 principles
they are seriously lacking. We take the time and teach them and many times after six months of
teaching these principles that the colleges and universities failed to teach effectively. They
had job offers immediately several in excess of a hundred thousand dollars a year. This particular
one that I'm covering is number four right here on this eight and a half by eleven sheet which
I'll show you how you can get a copy of this by going to the website. I'm gonna gift you a copy
of my book entitlement abolition at the end of this episode. This is the series on how to prepare
children for the future and there's 12. This is actually principle number four that we're diving
into right now and I'm going to give a little bit of background because one of my favorite
books of all time and our children devour it when we assign it as reading for our family
vacations every few years is a book called The Majesty of Calmness by William George Jordan.
He also authored a book called the power of truth and and other books. But this book was written over 115
years ago. It's about a two-hour read it is heavy but when you read it you will think he wrote it
yesterday for our time, the majesty of calmness. Now, I'm crediting his book for this concept and
I'm paraphrasing because this is how we have adopted one of the principles in the book
in our own family. To always consciously train the mind and body
to unconsciously act in harmony with our family values and vision. So, what does this mean? See, I've
mentored a lot of troubled youth and I've helped many many not only young people but adults try
to overcome addictions with this 12-step programs and so forth. You know way back at the beginning
if they would have done this and what I'm going to show you here the chance that they would have
played around with drugs or alcohol or sexual pornography or whatever. They got them into sort
of a predicament that they were not happy with. Could have been prevented by doing an exercise
at least once a year to consciously train their mind and body to unconsciously act in harmony
with their values or vision. So, for example, when I would do this with my own sons my wife Sherry
and I we have four daughters and two sons and our sons and scouts with their fellow scouts around
the campfire. We would sit down and go around and share okay if we were sitting around this campfire
three years from today or five years from today looking back over that five years to today.
What has to have happened in your life for you to be happy with the progress you made
and once they all share their vision then we talk about what are the some of the dangers that
might pop up that would prevent them and every one of them would go, "Well, if I make some bad choices.
If I get addicted... to drugs or alcohol. If I don't graduate from school", and pretty soon they
they had in their mind and they consciously train their mind to unconsciously say, "No, that would be
stupid", if their friend said, "Hey, it's graduation night let's go up the canyon and get drunk."
They were able to go, "Why would I do that? That might bugger up my whole vision for a brighter
future." Because I remember one time four young men did not have a vision. They never came home that
night they were killed coming down the canyon and a car with intoxicated peers. You want to
help those you care about consciously train their mind and body to unconsciously
act in harmony with your family values and vision. In the three-dimensional wealth this
channel is called three-dimensional wealth. There are three dimensions of what I call authentic wealth.
We have up here which is what we call the financial dimension. We have down here the
foundational dimension. This is your family, your heritage, your beliefs, and so forth, and
over here is the intellectual dimension and this is what we learn our experiences our education and
our reputation what have you. So, when we talk about these three dimensions it's like a three-legged
stool and what I want for my loved ones is for this stool to always have balance instead of
wobbling just on the money... or things material things or sometimes I see people get so
wrapped up in just building maybe their health that they abuse their relationships. They're
poor with money or sometimes they just want to study and study and they're professional students
but this part of their life is bankrupt. you must be balanced. I like to take the wobble out
of people's life by balancing these. I often call these the three satellites in the GPS of every one
of our souls. So, what happens when you begin to get super clear about how to have a brighter future?
How to consciously train your mind and body? You always will have clarity come to your mind.
In fact, in principle number three we call it the clarity statement. Now I'm going to show you what
happens when you get clarity but the second thing that happens is you begin to get balance. You take
the wobble out of your life and so you begin to have more balance in life between those dimensions
and then you're able to focus on what matters most. With clarity balance and focus you'll have much
greater confidence in every single relationship in life and that's the greatest gift I can give to
any of my loved ones is confidence in a brighter future. Because confidence or a synonym is faith
conquers fear. If they're fearful it's a signal they don't have enough faith or confidence.
So, what does this do when you provide clarity balance focus and confidence for a brighter future?
When those you care about get super clear on their vivid vision. When they're consciously
training their mind and body to unconsciously act in harmony with their vision for a brighter future
that will give them unlimited energy. When you have clarity you get energized. I do this sometimes at
the end of a three-day retreat and people are worn out and as soon as they start writing
down these goals they get super energized as they write them down with their vision.
Because when you have clarity it gives you energy. Now, what about balance? When you have balance
like going down the highway in a car. It takes the wobble out. Which happens to
do what? It increases the velocity in which you will achieve your destination your goals.
So when you have balance in your life you'll achieve your goals quicker faster better.
It increases the velocity of achieving your goals or your vivid vision. When you have focus
on what matters most you're able to prioritize and there's another principle in this series
that teaches you how to teach your children how to do that. When you focus on what matters most
and you prioritize your life that increases the accuracy in which you will achieve those goals.
So, you got clarity energy balance increases the velocity focus increases the accuracy and with
those three what happens? You have much greater confidence and confidence attracts opportunities.
Lack of confidence repels opportunities. If you haven't figured that out yet it's time you do.
So, where does this take us? I have two work sheets or what I call tools in my library and when you go
to claim your free copy of my book entitlement abolition you'll be able to see how to download
copies of these or if you listen close you can just do this on a regular eight and a
half by eleven sheet of paper. The first one is what I call the appreciation accelerator.
So, I'm gonna go through this and explain how this works. We do this at least once a year with our
children and grandchildren it's on an eight and a half by eleven form and I'll go through it just
step by step. In order to get the proper focus and celebrate get clarity balance focus and confidence
I always have them write down at least three positive accomplishments they've had for the year.
Sometimes I do this quarterly and I'll usually have one per dimension. So as they do this
they will write down maybe under the financial that they set up what I call a laser fund for
perpetual education fund. Foundational, I captured mom's life sketch on video. Intellectual, I joined
toastmasters and began to speak. whatever it is they write down a goal or an accomplishment that
they actually did achieve. Because we want to celebrate instead of getting hung up on
"Oh, I still haven't achieved this and that and the other", we've got to take time to celebrate what
we have done. Now, the word appreciate actually has three meanings. Naturally, it means gratitude being
grateful and so there is three boxes on the bottom part of this form one talks about gratitude
the other talks about how it increases in value. See, when real estate appreciates in value it
means it goes up in value. So, appreciate means an increase in value and the third definition
is if I were to tell you about how my wife has nearly passed away three times and come back
and how we appreciate good health and how she's been in intensive care and many many times. If you
were to come up and say, "Wow Doug, my mother or my sister went through similar things. I appreciate
the way you feel. I appreciate what she went through", you're trying to fully understand or
empathize okay and so that's what these forms are about. Whenever you have an accomplishment
what you do is you write down why are you grateful for those experiences and what is
that going to allow you to do to overcome and face other challenges. When you write down how did
these experiences or appreciation okay go up in value you write down those and you write down the
further progress. Because you have to get clarity on where you've been where you're at and now where
you're going. When you write down what do you now understand better and how can you help others
understand better. Now, you have completed the three definitions of appreciation gratitude and increase
in value and fully understanding. One other powerful tool that we use with our children
in order to accomplish this is what we call the opportunity breakthrough. I won't go through in
detail because this is covered in another episode also but the acronym b-r-e-a-k okay spells out
barriers, resources, experiences, action and knowledge. So, whenever our children are filling out
their goals their vivid vision for brighter future they're consciously training their mind and body
to unconsciously act in harmony with their values and vision. Many times they have a lot
of opportunities they don't know which one to seize. There's a filter i give them for that. But
they'll write down barriers, they'll brainstorm in these boxes but they'll write down three barriers
they need to overcome. Three resources they need to draw from. Three experiences they need to draw
from or have. Three action steps to get it done and three areas they need new knowledge to obtain
to achieve that opportunity that goal and so if you want to dive deeper on a particular vision
where you're consciously training your mind and body to unconsciously act in harmony.
This is how you're training your mind consciously is by this thinking tool called an opportunity
breakthrough. So, how can you learn more about this? I would recommend you subscribe to this
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educational video which I do almost on a daily basis. But let me show you how you can claim a copy
of my book entitlement abolition. This 200-page book entitlement abolition is full 12 chapters of
all kinds of concepts like this. To claim your free copy you simply go to entitlementabolitionbook.com
click on the link below. You contribute a nominal amount towards the shipping and handling
I'll cover the rest of that. But there's also options there to listen and learn watch and learn
and there's even an 18-hour master class that I recorded
on video, if you want to do a super deep dive into these concepts. But you'll be able to
understand and learn all 12 principles on how to prepare your children for the best future possible.