Tripp Kramer here from
www.trippadvice.com. You're probably
wondering, how do I start a conversation
with a girl? What's the easiest way
when you see her at a party across the
room, when you see her walking toward you
on the sidewalk, when you see her at the
bar, when you see her at the grocery
store. What's the easiest way to start
conversation? Well I know that you've
probably been asking the question what
is it that I say and I found out over
the years through lots of coaching and
talking to you guys who are watching the
video that the words to say isn't the
real problem for you and I'll tell you
right now that the words that you say
don't actually matter. You can pretty
much open up with whatever you want. She
usually doesn't remember the beginning
of a conversation. It's how you continue
it from there. But the whole thing is,
it's not really what to say that is your
issue. The problem is you still have that
fear of going up and actually starting
the conversation. You want the easy way
in and there is. I'm gonna be telling you
that in just a second, but I know that
it's how you get in there is your
biggest issue. Not so much what is going
to be the starting line. That's what we're
going to go over today. How do you get in
there, how do you start the conversation,
what's the easiest way to make this
happen for you. Also I'm going to
give you a couple of great opening lines
that you can use to make it even easier.
Well there's a couple concepts that I'm
going to be deriving from other dating
coaches and other pickup artists today.
And that's because these are some of the
best out there that have been the most
helpful and also I'm going to help you
implement some of these ideas so again
this becomes easy, it becomes automatic.
One of those ideas is the
3-second rule. The idea of going up
and talking to a girl as soon as you see
her. Now I know that this is one of the
hardest things to do but I want you to
actually go out and be proactive at
practicing the 3-second rule. I think
that's something that a lot of guys
don't really focus on. They think about
you know maybe how many girls I want to
talk to during the day or maybe think
about what the perfect line is to say.
That stuff doesn't really matter. That's
just the things that's
covering up the real issue and the real
issue again is getting you to go and
talk to her as soon as possible. The
3 second rule is what you want to
abide by. And when I say 3 seconds, I
literally mean 3 seconds and Mystery
the famous pickup artist, is the one who
came up with this. He said the
second you see a girl you want to talk to,
and you pretty much know instantly, let's
be honest when you see a girl you're
attracted to you're not thinking about
it too much and if you are that means
you're just trying to make an excuse in
your head not to approach. And yes, I am
reading your mind aren't I. You want
to go over there as soon as possible
when you see the girl. It should be oh I
see her okay I feel that attraction...1
2...3...and as you're counting you're
going over there. I know that this is
something that you're not going to do
right away. It takes a lot of time to
practice this. But I promise you that the
more and more that you do practice the
3-second rule, just the idea of
minimizing the time
before you go over and talk to the
girl. That is what is going to make it
easy for you and you're not going to
care in the future about what to say and
how to start the conversation and what the
perfect pick-up line is and all those
things. You're going to be going over
there as soon as possible and it's gonna
be easier for you. One great way to
actually practice this is not just doing
it with girls that you're attracted to,
but doing it with any girl and even
doing it with guys. Anywhere, anytime the
3-second rule just being like al right,
there's someone who I can start
a conversation with and you don't think
about it too much. You just go over there
because here's what happens, and I'm just
gonna be telling you what you already
know. If you don't go over there within
3 seconds or within 3 to
4 seconds, what happens is your mind
comes up with every single excuse in the
book to not to get you over
there and start talking to them. Whether
it's oh she's walking too fast or or no
you know what I mean that girl doesn't
look so friendly or she probably has a
boyfriend or you know what I've already
spent too much time thinking about it
I'll just do the next one. All
these excuses come up in your head.
That's why we want to minimize it and
you want to do with anyone you can
because this is a skill that can be
honed. The more and more you practice
this, the less anxious and less worried you're going
to be about what it's going to be
like to start a conversation with
somebody. Now to make this even easier, I
have a great line that you can use to
start conversation. It's
literally a line that you can use every
single time. You don't have to look any
further. If you've seen other videos
of mine I have my famous Starbucks
opener where you can go up to a girl and you
can ask her where the nearest Starbucks
is. That's something you can use, but
here's one that's even better that you
can really use any time and you're going
to be like oh my god Tripp that's so obvious
I've heard this one before. But if it's
so obvious to you and you haven't used
it well I think that's the first problem.
You should be using it. Here it is.
It's basically this, hey what's up? That's
it, hey what's up? Just like that with a
nice smile on your face and good eye
contact, going over to a girl or anybody
and just saying hey what's up? And then,
here's a really good follow-up line. This
is something I learned from David
d' Angelo. Basically when they respond to
you you can say I knew it you're
friendly. That's a really good
follow-up right there. You say hey what's
up and then you can follow up with
anything that you want. You can even say
something like I'm just going around
meeting people today, you seem cool and
you can tell what you're up to and you can
tell her what you're doing. One concept
that I talk about in my program Hooked
is this idea of entertainment and
entertainment is this idea of being able
to hold a conversation and talk to a
girl and how to be interesting to you.
Not so much interesting to her but
interesting to you. What is it that you
want to talk about that's interesting?
Because when you're talking to a girl
and you're having a good time, you're
going to be really transferring that
energy over to her. This idea of the law
of state transfer. She's gonna be feeling
your excitement and your energy and she's
going to get excited because your having
a good time in conversation. It's very
confident. There is something else
that you can use that are conversation
topics that are interesting to her and I
think a really great mix of conversation
topics that are interesting to her and
things that are interesting to you will
really make a great conversation and I
have those for you. That's a free video
you can get that in the description
below. There's a link it's called Chick
Crack and basically that's a bunch of
conversation topics that girls are
interested in. You can check that out
below again that in the description. It's
totally free. Get that and you can
learn what those conversation topics are
and you can learn what makes
conversation interesting to
you by going over and using this really
quick 3 second rule getting into
conversation and just see what happens. A
lot of guys don't really use this as an
experiment. I tell guys in one of my
theories of getting better with women is
experimentation. Instead of thinking like
every approach has to go really well and
every conversation you have with every
girl has to be amazing. Just think about
about it as an experiment as something
to try out to see what it's like, to see
what conversation is like and using
these conversation topics or using the
things that are interesting to you and
just seeing what happens. That's how
you're going to be getting better at having
conversations with girls. Go ahead and
get Chick Crack. The link is in the
description and I want to hear from you.
Let's talk about this. I know a lot of
guys have a lot of questions about
starting conversation and good
openers and pick up lines and things
like that, so write your question down
below. Let's talk about this in the
comments. I want to help you out even
further because I know this is a huge
topic for you guys. Go ahead and do
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Do that I'll see you on the next
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