(soothing music)
- Today is a very sad day.
(high beat gengle music)
Just a boaring white bakground now.
I feel like there is too much white with this shirt.
I'm gonna put a different shirts on. I did it.
I just got my head cut, well I didn't just,
I got a cut a few days ago, so it's kind of still
settling down, its kind of used to being fluff up in
the sky up in the head big boy.
So it might look really nasty, I can't really tell.
Tell me I look handsome in the comments.
This is an advice video, I'm going to give advice
to some people on Twitter.
I asks hey, does anyone?
Would anyone like some advice and stuff?
And this is me making that video, so let's let's get
right into the news.
Conan Gray says, "No, thanks. Alexa play Desposito."
Understandable, have a great day.
Kace says, "How to correctly hold a worm?"
People often hold them like they dangle them,
I used to do that a lot, before I was more educated
in worm. Hello worm?
There's worm in my room right now, come here.
Like to currently hold the worm, you extend a flat palm
and then they sit in the palm.
See, that was that was great. No for real though,
I think worm would probably like it better if
you just hold them with a flat calm like that.
Alex Punch says, "People say I'm dumb and not good,
please help." Who saying that?
Because I'll personally battle them.
I think you're dumb and good,
so don't don't listen to people.
(cut miaowing)
Yeah, I'm going to miss you so much, I'm flying
to America tomorrow and I'll miss my littlle guy.
I'll miss you, I'll miss you so much Feggy
you're the best boy.
Oh, you so soft. Okay, see you later.
My mom just had a baby and I'm not too happy about it,
how do I become more accepting of my new baby brother?
Are you not happy about it because you don't like
the baby brother is he like an annoying
or you like not happy that the fact
that your mom had another baby?
I'm an only child, so I don't really know that feeling of
having a sibling, obviously, but I can imagine maybe
if you're an only child, and then suddenly you become
the older child, he might feel like the intention is like
away from you and your parents kind of don't give you
the care that you used to have when you were
it was just you because they got to take care of a baby.
So if that's the case, I think he'll just take
a little while for you to get used to the fact that
you're not an only child anymore.
Try and be there for your mom to help her take care
of the new baby because it's a big responsibility
and it's a scary and exciting, just try and make
that burden a little lighter for her by you know,
not making a fuss, maybe helping her around the house
sometime and that stuff.
That question is from a Ryleigh by the way, Yes.
Camren asks, "How do I become okay with being alone
and left out?"
I can definitely speak to this because it took me
a long time to feel happy enough in my own company you know,
to realize I didn't need other people to feed my happiness.
That's a very individual journey
for anyone going through it, so my experiences just can't
really apply to yours.
I think I've talked about this a bit before
but I'll say it again.
I had a good amount of friends during primary school
and then when I went to secondary school, I didn't have
any of my friends there, so I just kind of start again
and I felt a bit lonely and I had to try and force myself
into friend groups and it just didn't work.
And I was very unhappy for a long time, so I was kind of
forcing myself into these friend groups until like year nine
and then I just kind of gave up.
I didn't have any friends from year nine to
the end of year ten and that was like the darkest time
in my life, I just kind of every day I'd go to school,
I do my work, at break times and lunch times I go
and sit on a step behind the back of the school and cry.
(laughing)
And that's because I would look at people and be like,
Oh, I want to be friends with you so bad
and I just wouldn't make the effort because
I didn't think it was worth it.
I think it's definitely worth putting effort
into making friends if you want to avoid a sadness
and loneliness, which is hard to do with if you like 15
and 16 and you're trying to figure yourself out already
but think also, at the same time that period of getting
really down about being all by yourself is a really
important phace to go through to realize that you don't need
other people to be happy.
I think it's kind of similar to phases of hunger
or tightness, you know how you get really tired
or you get really hungry to the point
you can't bare it anymore, and then you eventually
you kind of pass that threshold
and you don't feel as bad anymore.
I feel like it's kind of like that for me the way
I learned that I'm happy being by myself,
and I'm fine with being alone, is I let myself get to
that point not knowingly like it just happened
but I got to that point where I was so sad about being alone
I couldn't take it anymore, and then eventually
I was just fine with it. And I'm still fine with it now.
I feel like immune to red receipts and stuff like that
I just don't care and is really cool, that's really great
because that it doesn't matter.
It doesn't matter if someone leaves your red
it doesn't matter if someone cancels plans
for whatever reason, it doesn't mean they hate you,
and that's what I learned from going through that.
I don't want to say isolate yourself to put
yourself through that obviously if you can make friends,
that's the better option but if you're stuck in situation
where you just don't have any friends
and you can't do anything about it, you'll be okay.
Let yourself be sad if you need to be sad because
you can learn from that and use that sadness
as a learning experience and eventually you'll realize
what reality is.
"Hello, sometimes I feel like I have to force myself
to write music, is that normal in the beginning?"
Asks Bella.
I think that's normal for like the entire process of being
a songwriter, your whole career relies on
you putting out new content over time,
or at least regularly.
So yes, that's definitely normal, I often I feel like
I need to force myself sometimes, your mind isn't always
gonna be in that motivated state that's fine.
You can go do something else, ans wait for it to be writy.
Sophie asks, "How to get out of a toxic friendship?"
Oof, ouch, ahh.
It's hard.
I think people kind of don't realize friendships can be
just as toxic as like romantic relationships
because people kind of consider romantic relationships
just like more important than friendships,
which I don't understand the're different kinds of
relationships, but they equally as important.
Being in a toxic friendship, you can feel trapped
just in the same ways with like a romantic relationship.
I had an experience fairly recently like
I guess a few years ago, It really hurts to do this,
so literally the best thing I haven't chose to do was just
cut them off.
It seems really hard in the moment and it feels really hard
and it like breaks it down for a little while,
but I remember that feeling of just waking up one day
and being like, I don't care anymore, and I was so happy
and it was so worth the way it was so worth going through
that rough time.
If you have to interact with them every day, like if
they're at school or something, that's a bit
of a different situation, but if it's someone like online
or someone that you don't necessarily have to see
all the time, literary just like stop responding.
Stop giving them any attention,
you don't owe them an explanation, you don't owe
them anything. After a while you'll just be over it.
Thanks Sophie, hope you're okay.
"Any advice on dealing with hatred from adults
and other kids about going into the arts as career?"
Says Sky Blue.
I don't have personal experience with this
because my parents were always extremely supportive,
because they're both musicians, but I've known people
who have unsupportive parents you don't think arts
are viable option for a career and they have somewhat
of a point, obviously like follow your dreams,
but they have a point in that it's a really hard business
to get into and to be successful in
because mostly it's like freelance unless you like hired
by a company to write stuff or whatever or make things.
And a lot of it relies on luck.
So that's definitely something to keep in mind, like if
your parents have concerns about you wanting to be an artist
or musician or something definitely hear them out
because they've been through the world and they know
the struggles of it and they know how important money is
and stuff, you don't want it to be about money,
but of course, money is very important because
you need to like live and eat and stuff.
I think the best way to deal with that would be to show
them that you can be responsible enough
and that you understand the risks of going into such
an unreliable career path.
I think for some parents, you just kind of need to do
whatever they want you to do for a while until they're 18
then you can do whatever you want, just to avoid
getting in a messy situation, but I think definitely showing
specifically your parents, other kids just ignore them
it doesn't matter.
Showing them that you're responsible and mature
and that you understand their concerns.
Eventually, if you can show them that you can be successful
in what you want to do, take baby steps and be realistic
and educate yourself in the career path
you want to go down, and make sure your parents realize
that you're serious about it.
I think over time they might learn
to accept it a bit better.
Shay says, "How do I know if people actually like
to be around me and want to hang out with me?
I always feel like people invite me to do stuff because
they feel bad for me."
The thing I always say is like why would anyone invite
someone just because they feel bad for them?
I feel like that only happens in movies like
The popular girls are like, oh, let's invite
this little nerd to our party so she doesn't feel left out,
but even in that case that they invite her
to like be friends with her or make her feel better,
which is a really nice thing.
So yeah, I think there's two reasons people would invite you
to things, one because I want to be friends with you, two
because they're already friendly with you.
So yeah, they no, they just want to hang out with you
that's it.
Steph asks, "What should I do if I feel spaced out
quite a lot?"
I get this lot, I dissociate I think because of my anxiety,
like if something gets a bit overwhelming my brains like
clocks out like see you later.
It's a weird feeling and I haven't really kind of figured
out yet how to deal with it, one aspect of it is that
I kind of forget what's happened during my day
and what's happened in the week and I just kind of
I don't know what day it is and stuff like that.
Not sponsored but I started using an app
called 1 Second Everyday.
My friend Beth uses it, it's nice, it's like
you just record a second of your day and then
at the end of the month, it makes like a video
and shows you everyday in your month. To settle
I found it really nice because it kind of reminds me,
Oh, today I pet my cat, the day before that
I made some pasta like little things like that,
it just kind of reminds you that that day happened
and kind of brings you back down to earth.
So that's useful, I recommend trying that out
if you would like to, I guess, worst case scenario
just let yourself spaced out because it will pass,
like if I'm really having a bad day, I'll just sleep
or I'll play some aniimal crossing, watch a video,
something that you don't really need much brain power to do
because you know sometimes you just need a day
to just not be there and that's okay.
Sam asked, "How do I corretly tell dog
how much I love them?"
Rub the belly, rub their belly.
Egg man asks, "My friends are all really nice
but I always feel exhausted while replying to
their messages."
First of all, it's okay to not be talking,
it's people are different.
It's never good to force a conversation, it kind of just
makes it awkward and it's just not fun for either of you,
but if you really want to keep a conversation going
or if someone needs to talk to you, ask them questions.
Asked them stuff, it might lead to a conversation that
you can make flow really well and if not, that's fine.
Say conversations don't have to go on further,
they can end.
Hannajo says, "Can we have some advice for people wanting to
put their own music out into the world
and becoming comfortable with the thought of showing it
to the public?"
I don't remember ever really having going through
that phase of being like oof, ouch, people might see
my stuff, I wanted people to see my stuff that's kind of
the whole point of me putting it out there,
but ultimately, post it for you, post it as if you're just
like writing in a diary and then if people happen to see
it, that's just like an afterthought.
It's kind of the same situation is with the hunger
and the tightness in the being lonely kind of thing,
you just kind of have to get past that initial threshold
of being uncomfortable about sharing your stuff to everyone.
So yeah, I think just be patient with it,
expose yourself to it and eventually you'll be desensitized
to the fact that people see your stuff.
How to be tall? I am short fam, I'm five foot zero.
You tie your wrists to the ceiling and your legs to
the floor and then you just stay that for a while.
You could also make the rope that you used to tie
your wrists, make it a lever so you have a friend
who like pulls it a couple centimeters everyday,
you know stretch out your spine.
Susanna asks, "Do you have any advice on learning guitar
and ukulele?
What's the best way to start?"
I think the best way to start is to just be like,
I wanna learn this song and then you look up
the chords to it and you like Oh,
I don't know how to play a chord, look up how
you play the chord.
Hayley asks, "How to deal with a divorce
and would you ever do a show in Dallas?"
Well, the second part of that is not Advice.
I advise you that I would like to do a show in Dallas.
Yes, I would do.
Divorce, I guess like it's very different
for every situation because sometimes they can be messy,
sometimes it can be a nice clean mutual break
you know, divorce is sad when it happens,
but the reason a divorce happened is because
the relationship wasn't working, and so they ended the thing
that wasn't working to move on to better things.
So no matter the circumstance, it's a positive step in
the right direction. So that's a good thing to keep in mind.
Full stop asks, "How do you move from the closet to
the fridge without anyone seeing? It's very hot here."
I tend to just like squeeze through where the door opens,
you don't open the door, you just go through
the little hole, some old closets will have like a keyhole,
you can maybe squeeze through that you know the area
like under the fridge where you keep the ice cubes
if they fall on the ground, you kind of slow there along
there and then it's a bit more tricky because like
the fridge has like a suction thing to close,
so you can't really squeeze through.
At that point, you just have to wait there until
someone comes to get something out of the fridge
as they're closing the door,
you just slow the right hand there, and then
you should be good to go.
Rob Bob asks, "How do you accept something about yourself
that is huge and unavoidable?"
Very good question, I think the best thing to do
is find other people who have that same thing
about ourselves and talk to them about it,
talk to someone who understands, find people
who have come to terms with that part of themselves
and they're happy with it and they're proud of it.
You can learn from them, potentially make
some new powers too, so that's a win, win.
Hailey says, "I have no need for advice,
just a serious question.
If I swallow a worm whole, will it live inside my body?"
No, it will die, it'll be dead.
Don't do that. I'm not now, I'm very hungry.
I'm going to eat some food, thanks for watching,
hope I helped out a little bit.
When this video goes up, I will be, well
where we're like be?
I will be in Boston I think maybe just traveling to Boston,
and I will have done my Philadelphia and Brooklyn shows.
So I haven't experienced this stories yet
but I bet they were great and thank you everyone
who came out to those and I'm so excited for Boston.
I'm actually when I'm filming this video I'm flying out to
the US tomorrow. I've a lot of to pack
and I'm very nervous. I'm all by myself in my house guys,
I gotta travel all by myself, two I'm a nervous little guy.
I'll be okay though, I'm so excited.
Yeah thanks for watching, I'll see you next time
but check out my album. I have an album out.
It's called Dear.
Hello Fig, do you wanna say something?
Oh, I'm gonna miss this little guy so much.
I'm gonna miss you so much while I'm away,
you better be a good little boy.
He's like, No, I'm being naughty and nasty.
Thank you for watching again Fig says, "Goodbye!"
Goodbye says Fig.
(kisses Fig)
Okay, Goodbye.
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