Today we're counting down ten struggles that only introverts can relate to. Stick around
to find out what they are and have an excuse to not make eye contact with real life people.
Let's go!
Number 10. People just don't get you.
You have a totally unique perspective that would completely be understood and loved ... by
your favorite anime character, book heroine or game character. It's just something that
makes them utterly relatable, but you ... not so much.
It's not that you don't like other people, you just don't seem to click with them the
way that everybody else dies. If only you could find a connection as meaningful
and true as those on your shows, in your books and in games. Then you'd be totally at home.
That is, you'd be totally at home – because you still don't actually want to go outside.
And why would you? It's too people-y out there. We can assure you, there are lots of real
world people who struggle the same way you do, which brings us to our next point.
Number 9. Other Introverts
Even other introverts don't get you! Yep, that's right. Your tribe is joined by a mutual
understanding of not actually wanting to be in the tribe. Other introverts would be great
company if they could just get to know each other. The problem is introverts get turned
off by the smallest of details. Did they look at you sideways? Do they "ship"
a different fictional couple than you? Are they just too quiet to get a decent conversation
going? Whatever it is, once that "nope" switch has been flicked, it puts you in amongst the
herd.
But once in a while you do find someone who you can connect to. And therein lies the next
struggle that only introverts can relate to...
Number 8. Avoiding people
You want to see your friends, you really do but it's just so draining. Either you get
so hyped up that you expel all of your energy and crash before you can get to the main event,
or you just get overwhelmed by the lack of exit space. If they come to see you then they
might not leave when you want them to, but if you go to theirs you are out of your safety
bubble. Then there's option three, meeting on mutual ground but that has its own problems.
Eating in public? Risking forgetting something? Even more people. Nope.
What's wrong with staying in with your pets and pajamas anyway?
Not to mention there's the inevitable people "hang over" which will have you exhausted
for days after going out with your friends. And like most things about you, they just
don't quite get it ...
Number 7. Am I the problem?
And this makes you wonder if you're the problem! It doesn't matter if they tell you it's fine,
you're going to overanalyze and twist every nice thing they say.
The world just seems like a very strange place to the introvert. Other people behave in very
peculiar ways and act like everything is butterflies and rainbows, while you're reading about wars,
fighting and checking if you're more likely to die by being hit by lightning or in a vending
machine accident. By the way, did you know that there are one
in twenty billion people who die because of tea cozy related accidents. You probably did,
introverts know this kind of thing. And now you're wondering what kind of person
looks that up – while debating looking it up – and boom! You're wondering if you're
the weirdo again, even though it was us that brought it up.
Number 6. Body language tells
So, you've found yourself in a situation that involves other people. It doesn't matter if
it's one or one hundred; it has you wondering if you're sweating through your shirt, talking
too much, not talking enough, talking too fast, talking too slow, talking about something
dull or ... well, you get the point. You have heard people say "fake it until you
make it" a thousand times and you know it's the only way you'll be able to show an ounce
of confidence. Except, your body language gives you away.
You want to be confident and you'd settle for at least looking it, but no, your body
won't allow it. It's as if someone has invisible strings attached to you that are making you
speak softly, slouch, hide behind crossed arms, lean away, lower your head and whatever
else shy factor they want you to scream. Even worse, as you heard that, you checked
yourself to make sure you weren't doing any of those things. Yes, you feel awkwardly called
out even though you knew this video was about you – and people like you.
As we come to our halfway point please remember to leave a like if you're enjoying this video,
or if you just don't want to seem rude!
Number 5. Misunderstood intentions
This is possibly one of the most frustrating. You mean we'll, in fact, that's all you ever
mean to do but people just don't seem to get your intentions! They completely misunderstand
you. It could be a joke that was hilarious in your head but totally fell flat or it could
be a compliment that seems to have hit as creepy rather than kind. Whatever it is, it's
incredibly embarrassing. Not to mention that you'll be thinking about this incident for
days, weeks, months and even years after the other person has forgotten it. They probably
didn't even think about it after you apologized – which you did profusely and repeatedly.
Number 4. Starting a conversation
If you thought maintaining a conversation was difficult, wait until you have to start
one! Introverts just can't seem to catch a break
when it comes to sparking up a chat. What's worse is that it is double frustrating
because afterwards you think of so many things that you could have said but didn't manage
to – and they all seem so simple after the event.
Seeing other people start up a chat is also insanely frustrating because you envy them
so much. How do they know what to say? How do they know where to stand? When to laugh?
When to contribute? It just doesn't seem fair.
Number 3. Inner Dialogue
You spend hours planning what you should say and pondering on how it is going to be received
by the other party. It goes on like a movie reel and you just play each scenario over
and over again, wondering about the tiny details. Is "hello" too formal? Is "hi" too casual?
What if they don't realize that you're talking to them? Should you therefore address them
by name or is a quick "hey there" better? But doesn't that sound a bit too flirty? Introverts
are full of questions and conversations. And as we mentioned before, they overanalyze
after too, dwelling on yet more scenarios which could have played out for them.
They also have conversations with imaginary characters too. Feeling called out yet? Let
us know in the comments who you inwardly chat to the most.
Number 2. Gotta run
Sometimes things are just too difficult and you have to get out of there. You could be
enjoying yourself but something inside of you decides that it's time to leave. Just
in case you don't listen to its cues, it's going to give you some seriously unpleasant
prompts until you do what it asks; cold sweats, hot sweats, the need to pee, anxiety, shakes,
chest pains, the works! When your introverted side says it is time to go, it isn't going
to take no for an answer. We know that we have been joking around a
lot in this video, even though there is truth in everything we have said, but we would like
to end on a positive note that you can relate to. As an introvert you spend far too much
time worrying and we'd like to give you a little silver lining to finish the video on,
so here is our final one.
Number 1. Underestimated
This might strike you as a bad thing at first but remember, underestimating you means that
you have something big inside that is of huge value.
It doesn't matter that a lot of people might not see this quality as they're too busy focusing
on your mask of shyness. Your friends and family will always see it and know that you
can let it shine. Most importantly, you know it. Never underestimate yourself. There are
hundreds and thousands of fellow introverts out there feeling just the way you do and
relating to this list. Bill Gates, J K Rowling and Steven Spielberg are just a couple. Being
an introvert isn't a bad thing even if it might seem like it sometimes. You just need
to know yourself and love you, just the shy, quiet, over-thinking way you are!
Thanks for watching, until next time please like, comment and subscribe. And don't forget
to ring that notification bell so you never miss a video. We'll see you in the next one.