is taking extreme ownership the same as apologizing for failures or apologizing
for others mistakes I'm having difficulty separating these two concepts
when I try to take ownership over failures does taking ownership of
failure generally include and I'm sorry X occurred etc second well it isn't just
apologizing right it isn't just saying oh I apologize this happened it's part
of it part of ownership is apologizing if you make a mistake you got to own it
and generally you gotta say hey look I'm sorry this happened you got to own that
there's been a problem or a mistake or an issue and that does include other
people's mistakes but you have to literally take ownership of them you
can't say hey I'm sorry these other people made mistakes that's not what I'm
talking about and it's look the mistakes that were
made were actually my fault and another important thing here is you can't just
say hey guys it's all my fault you actually need to mean it and you
need to believe it yourself you need to believe that you failed in the situation
to do the right thing or make something happen or make the right decision or
make the right call and do the right preparation or whatever it is that you
were supposed to do you need to do that you need to believe that you can't just
say it and you say these mistakes were my fault here's why it was my fault and
yeah I'm sorry that these things happen I apologize with this happening and some
people see sorry as a sign of weakness and honestly there's some you know some
legal situations you might be in or some negotiations that you might be in where
that might be true but most the time as we're seeing a working environment the
inside of a team sorry is okay in fact an apology is often the first step in
moving forward right and and it's generally gonna be a little bit of a
blow to your ego now and that's especially true because
you're mr. extreme ownership now or mrs. extreme ownership guess what that
doesn't mean everyone else is not yet no get there but they're not there yet so
you apologize to someone it's gonna be a big blow to your ego especially when
someone says you're damn right that was your fault mm-hmm
that's that's gonna hurt you you're gonna want to lash back out but you
can't mm-hmm got to put your ego in check and you gotta go hey I understand
it is my fault you know why I'm saying it's my fault
because I truly believe it was my fault it is because it is your fault so you
got to be careful when someone gloats don't let that get your head what that's
what you have to do and it's not just not just for you that you're doing this
it's cuz the team because the team has to figure out what the problem is
someone's got to take ownership of the problem that's you and then that's how
you get the problem solved and I'll tell you something else and you might have
predicted this but my sorry and my apology comes with something else
99% of the time and that's a good right so look
hey I'm sorry that this happened this is my fault but I'm glad it happened now oh
yeah hey you know what I'm glad we made this mistake we made
this mistake right now it's gonna set us back a little bit good because we're now
we're not gonna make it with a client no oh this happened this part of the
project fell apart good now he can fix it and we know about it oh this went
sideways I missed it good I won't let it happen again
so throw yourself a little good on the end of your sari all right yeah a lot of
times those problems or mistakes or whatever the they add to that experience
like the experience of being there you know where we're let's say you go
through a path and you make a wrong turn now you have that experience that that's
the wrong turn that's what that looks like that look that's what that feels
like and guess what we're gonna avoid that in the future rather than a bunch
of situation where it we're for example one in the future where it's more
detrimental now you don't run into that you learned you learned we got a video
that said there beat you learned