You say that he's very dramatic.
Yes.
Okay now He's very dramatic.
And I actually think that this goes beyond dramatic.
You do what I call catastrophizing.
Right.
Do you now catastrophizing is?
Make a catastrophe out of every situation?
Chaos.
Yeah that would be a good start.
And I went through and ear marked some of the terms
and phraseology you tend to use.
I wrote 'em down for ya.
Okay.
Oh my God.
Now that's a big screen
and I needed it to do it.
Wow.
And here's some of the things that you tend to say.
My heart was taken out of my chest and crushed,
drama
I'm a complete wreck,
Marriage is hell,
I have to protect everyone from it it's so heavy,
I can't throw him to the wolves,
the horrible moment in my life,
I feel like a whipping boy who takes beatings,
I'm a pawn in a chess game,
I'm treated like an invisible fat pig,
chest pains from a broken heart with Sally.
Yes. All true.
These are dramatic catastrophic statements.
You say horrible, a horrible moment in my life.
Now I gotta tell ya,
when I was doing my internship and residency
I spent some time in the children's burn unit at Parkland.
Okay.
When you have to work with children
that have full depth burns over 70 to 80% of their body,
that's horrible.
Yes sir.
Yes
You being told that you can't go out on a date with her,
that's not horrible that's inconvenient,
that's disappointing.
That's not horrible.
I see where you're going with this.
I really just am uncomfortable with it,
but yes you're probably right.
Most likely you are right.
That's why I came here because I believe in you.
You overstate things here.
And you've called an ambulance 100 times?
That was to help my son.
I understand, 100 times?
We both did.
No you did. You're a drama queen.
A hundred times?
You are a drama queen.
We both did Dr. Phil.
You're histrionic.
She's funny.
I know a little bit about psychology
and you are histrionic.
12 years of craziness, of chaos.
I even named him Leviathan.
You see I'm willing to admit that I have flaws
and accepted 'em and try and fix 'em
and she's here pointing out oh he's histrionic.
She's the doctor now.
You're the doctor.
Your Leviathan.
You're the doctor.
Do you read what's up here?
I'm telling that you're melodramatic
and catastrophic in your language
and I say that not just to point out
that you're melodramatic and catastrophic in your language.
I do that because language is very powerful.
Exactly.
For every though you have,
there's a physiological core with it goes with it.
Every thought you have,
something in your body triggers.
And when you're telling yourself
I'm so glad you said that.
When you're telling yourself these things,
you're using these words,
your body reacts.
I'm making myself sick.
No you're
No he's made me sick with fibromyalgia.
I actually developed that.
If I need help I know right where you are
and you'll be the first person I come to.
(applause)
what I'm telling you is this catastrophic language
can really make you sick.
It can put you in a state of chronic
andronergic arousal, it can cause acid in your stomach,
it can create all kinds of problems for you.
Because you are constantly in a state of fight or flight.
You're in a state of arousal all the time.
It's true.
And I would suspect you haven't take a deep breath
in years.
I haven't Dr. Phil.
I haven't found the space, the time,
'cause I feel like I've got to not rest
I've gotta do, do, do
So I'm just saying you need to examine language,
'cause the power of language is very strong.