This video, I'm going to show you why narcissistic people and sociopathic people crave your attention
and I'm going to show you exactly how to stop feeding them.
Welcome back to another video.
My name is Aaron and I help people expand their consciousness.
Now in this video I'm going to be showing you why narcissistic people and sociopathic
people want your attention, why they want it, how that actually fuels them, and how
you can begin to divert your attention or to not keep giving them your own energy.
Now, I've done a couple of videos on this channel on narcissistic people and sociopathic
people and how to deal with them.
And the reason being is because I went through an experience between the ages of seven to
15 years old where my ex step mom in my life, my dad divorced her when I was 15 and when
she was in my life, she's definitely somebody that has characteristics of being a narcissist
and a sociopath.
She was somebody that was a physically and emotionally abusive.
It was always about her and she was very manipulative.
So, for example, if I wanted to, uh, it's almost like whatever I wanted to do, she would
control and make sure I would do the opposite.
So for example, it would be like, Oh, I want to go to some band camp tournament with, she
knew that I wanted to go to that band camp tournament.
She would tell me or that I got in trouble for something, something really dumb, like
I'm not cleaning something properly or saying I did something I didn't do and then I wouldn't
be allowed to go.
So what I would have to do is I would have to be like, Oh, I really don't want to go
to that band camp tournament because I haven't been practicing.
Or something like that.
And then she'd be like, Oh, you think you're not going to go, you're going to go.
It'd be the exact opposite of anything that I would want to do.
And she was, uh, you know, if you've, if you've listened to my stories or if you've watched
my other videos than you've seen the kind of experiences that both my brother and I
had to go through many times.
We were locked outside of the house and we had to just do chores.
We weren't allowed to inside of the house.
My dad was a firefighter, so he was gone a lot.
She, when she was gone, we were outside working and um, we weren't allowed to eat very much.
So both my brother and I were very skinny.
Up until 15 years old.
My brother was 13 years old and my dad divorced her then we were allowed to eat what we want.
We were allowed to have friends again because we weren't allowed to have friends during
that point of our time.
She was a, we were brainwashed against not wanting to be around our mom because anytime
we go to our mom's house and come back, we'd get punished for something.
And eventually we decided, Oh well don't want to go to mom's house cause I go to mom's house,
come back, it's gonna be a lot of pain.
So there was definitely a level of brainwashing going on and the, the kind of characteristics
that she had was always in a way controlling things and also mate, just making it so that
our life was harder and it was almost like having that was like a, a drill Arjun Sergeant
army person or something like that drill Sergeant.
And it was just a very, you know, it was a very difficult time.
A 15 years old came around, my dad divorced her, then we're allowed to have friends.
So we were able to learn how to socialize again and, and uh, we didn't have to, we were
allowed to eat the kind of foods that we want.
We were allowed to watch TV, something that we didn't do between seven and 15 unless we
were like sneaking it like we were watching kind of like in the living room trying to
sneak watching TV or something like that.
Um, well we would do sometimes is when they weren't home.
If we were able to sneak inside the house, my brother and I would take turns watching
TV.
We'd have the remote on the lot with the last button on the last channel in case somehow
there are the find out, which was the last channel.
Um, like that we were on a different channel.
And then what we would do is when we saw someone pull in the driveway, push the last button,
turn off the TV and run outside so we get work done and then go do that.
So the reason I show this is kind of paint a picture for you to see that I've been through
this kind of experience.
And one thing that I've noticed is that narcissistic people and sociopathic people, they crave
your attention, they want your attention.
And the reason they want their attention is they may not know this consciously, but anytime
somebody is focused on someone else, that person that is focusing on someone else, the
person that's being focused on is receiving energy.
They're receiving energy.
So even in, especially when it's something that's negative, think about it.
If something negative happens, you really take someone's energy because that person
is constantly thinking about what you did and how angry you are.
That had happened.
And because of that, what happens is you're constantly sending that person energy.
That person can then feel it.
So, so what happens is doing something negative and having someone continue to run it over
in their mind, that person will continue to send energy to the other person.
Maybe not even knowing it, but playing a certain, playing a certain role and uh, and that continues
to fuel them.
Now I remember a specific scenario of this and just, I have a video that's on how, why
narcissists and sociopaths don't get their karma.
And I'll go in and link that.
I'll then call the narcissistic sociopath, the videos below and how you can deal with
that and distance yourself from it.
They're all people low, but there's one on why they don't receive their karma.
Well, I do.
I believe that they do eventually receive their karma at the very least at the end of
what we call a life review, where the end of our life, we have a life review where we
feel everything that we've made everyone else feel.
So my ex stepmom that now is doing everything she can because my dad divorced her.
Um, she's doing everything she can to make my dad's life hell.
And she, uh, she lies to courts cause for example, my sisters, I have two half sisters
where that's their real mom so they can't really get out of it the way that my brother
and I did cause my brother and I aren't related to her biologically.
So it's easy for us to distance.
I never have to see her again.
However, uh, two sisters have to deal with her now my dad is and has been dealing with,
you know, dealing with that because because of my sisters it's like there's this tie to
where he still has to deal with my ex step-mom now my ex step mom will lie to the courts.
She will try to trigger my dad.
She's just extraordinarily manipulative and a compulsive liar as well.
Compulsively lies about everything.
If you were, the funny thing is if you were to see her and the way she is around people
in public, you would have no idea, no idea whatsoever.
She will pretend to be the nicest person ever.
She'll be like, Oh, and then when she's at court and stuff or she has to deal with something
in front of the judge and she's like, Oh, you know, I just want to be there for my kids
and blah, blah, blah, blah.
But as soon as the, as soon as the, the, um, the, the doors close and she's at home, that's
when she's able to, you know, bring back her controlling type vibe.
And especially with my youngest sister, my, yeah, my youngest sister, she has to deal
with it even though she wants to pull away.
But it's hard because the courts definitely, um, the favor, the, the mom and that, that
kind of perspective.
So it's hard, especially when someone's putting on a show and pretending to be the best mom
ever in front of the courts.
But behind the scenes, it's completely a compulsive liar doing everything she can to be manipulative.
Now my dad, one time, the reason I say that is because my dad one time, um, many times
has to go to these little court things.
And when he goes, what happens is he has to uh, you know, talk to maybe a mediator or
some type of person.
And what happens is that sometimes he'll be sitting there with my ex stepmom and she will
just be trying to get into him, try to like trigger him.
And uh, she's done it many times with different like, uh, anytime she'll try to trigger him
to get him to a place to where there's like some type of altercation and he tells me about
it.
He's like, yeah, this is, she'll just say this and just blah, blah, blah, blah.
And I'm trying to trigger him.
And I told them one time, I said, try this, cause I know how, I know how it works.
I know how the energy dynamics of it works.
So I tell them to do this.
I said, when you're sitting there, I get to here to go to like, like some type of mediator.
And he was sitting there in the waiting room and she comes in, she goes, I remember, I
remember bla tried to say, stop trying to trigger him.
I said instead of feeding it and responding to her frame of reality and arguing with her,
sit there with a blank stare, don't even have any emotion in it whatsoever.
No emotion whatsoever as if he does, if she's invisible.
And the reason I said this is cause I remember reading a study and there was this study that
said that they, um, they studied the cortisol levels of people that were going through a
job interview.
And there were three different types of, um, expressions that the person that was doing
the interview would have.
One expression is the person would like, like smile and nod as the other person, as the
interviewee.
There's like the test subject as being interviewed the other.
And they would test that person's cortisol levels.
And then the other person they would have is they would give negative reinforcement.
They'd be, somebody was like telling their story.
They'd give like negative reinforcement.
They would measure the cortisol levels of the other person, the, the, a person being
interviewed.
And then the third one, they would have no expression.
So the person being interviewed would be explained, you know, telling, um, you know, on the point
trying to try to get the job and answering questions.
But the interview person, the interviewer would have no expression whatsoever because
the whole time, well guess when, which out of those three, the person had the highest
level of cortisol, meaning the stress hormone.
They were more stressed out when there was no expression whatsoever.
Because when we don't know what to think, when we don't know what someone else is thinking,
and there's no expression there, no response to the frame that we're putting out.
It's very stressful.
It's very like uncertain.
We don't know what's going on in another person's mind and therefore it increases our cortisol
level more than if someone was given negative feedback.
So think about that.
That's, that's what I remembered.
So I told my dad, I said, when you go into this, just pretend like she's not even there.
Pretend just be there.
And even if you want to just, just smile.
Not like a condescending way.
Although he may have, I don't know, but he just like smile like this, like that.
No expression whatsoever and she probably tried to say things trigger him.
So what happens is he sitting there, she comes in, blah blah blah, blah like that.
And then what happens is my dad just sits there as if she's not even there.
She did that for like 30 seconds to a minute and then just left.
Just completely left the facility just because she couldn't even handle that level of being
invisible.
And the reason being is cause when you don't feed someone with your energy, when you're
not fitting into their frame of reality, then what happens is they can't take that and then
they go somewhere else.
You see, that's the thing with narcissistic and sociopathic people is it's always about
them.
And if you're not focused on them, you're not feeding their energy.
I also remember, this is kind of a side tangent, there was someone I used to work with and
I don't, I'm not saying that she, this person is in our sister sociopath, but I did notice
that a lot of times she would talk out loud to herself all the time.
All the time.
No.
Like, it's almost like there was no internal chatter.
She would just say it out loud.
So she's like, Oh, how do I do this?
How do I do this?
Blah blah, blah, blah.
And it was so draining to be around it because you're sitting there trying to think.
I'm trying to help customers at my, it's my old sales commission job where I sold women's
shoes and she would always be talking, I can't figure out how to do this and this and that.
And I remember when I first got hired there, I was in, I was trying to help her with everything
she was saying because I was just now getting to know early, you know, I didn't really know
her.
I didn't know that's just how she is and it would be a drain.
My energy.
The more I put attention on her and what she was doing and I felt like energetically she
would almost benefit from those [inaudible] not just cause I'm showing her what to do,
even though she may have worked there for like 10 years and uh, know the system better
than I.
It's cause I only did that for you know, a short period of time.
Um, but I noticed that that would in a way fuel her.
And what I learned to do is I learned to just be in my own reality, focus on my own goals,
focus on what I'm doing and not get kind of sucked in because I realized that attention
really is energy.
Now here's the thing.
Wherever you put your attention, you are putting your energy in that direction.
If you are reading books about, if you're reading books from an author, you're connecting
to their energy.
Your attention is connecting to their energy.
If you're listening to certain videos, then you're connecting to that person's energy.
You listening to my videos, you're connecting to my energy.
Wherever you put your attention, you are putting your energy and you are beginning to resonate
with that person.
So if you are focused on somebody that has done something negative to you, then what
happens is you are sending that person energy and you are not only sending them energy,
but you are receiving some of their energy, maybe even some of their negative intention.
So the key to this is having more boundaries of your morning intent, of your own intention.
Because your attention is feeding different people.
People may try to take your energy, they want you to focus on them.
And if you get angry, if they were to, let's say somehow abuse you, you're sending them
energy even way after this situation may have happened and you're losing energy.
And it takes energy to think about that as kind of things and to feel angry about it.
And that sends energy to that person.
And that's why we have people that act out violently.
It gets other people.
They may remember that forever and always subconscious.
They're sending that energy to the every time they think about it.
So what is the key to this?
The key to stop sending energy and the reason they crave your attention is because they
crave your energy.
That's why.
So what do you do about it?
The first thing, the most powerful thing that I found to do is to forgive, is to forgive.
Forgive them for they know not what they do.
When I look at my ex step mom and how manipulative she is and how emotional, um, how controlling
she is and how abusive she is, she's like that because she may have been treated a certain
way when she was young.
She's acting out a pattern.
She's unaware of what she's doing and because she's unaware doesn't make it right, but it
does help me understand it more so that I can forgive.
Because if I didn't forgive, I'd be carrying that energy around.
And I did for years, even after my ex stepped on my head, someone in my life that was always,
there's always reflecting back that level of control back to me because I hadn't actually
completed it within myself.
I had actually forgiven her.
So I forgave her that, which means I still have boundaries.
I mean, I'm ever going to go talk to her again, but I forgave her and just let her beat and
by forgiving and let it be, I've been able to forget about it.
Now, of course I bring it up so that I can talk in these videos about it.
Because the thing is, is many people are going through similar things and if I can share
my story and it helps other people realize, Hey, I went through all these things in the
past and I came out and live a high vibrational lifestyle and love my life, then you can too.
It's more relatable than me just talking about the good things that, Oh, I forgotten about
all of this.
No, I bring it up because I want to help you to do the same type of thing.
Maybe you've been through and you know, someone that's narcissistic, sociopath trying to get
out of this.
Um, you know, back back this up a little bit.
So maybe you've experienced it in your life where there's, um, somebody that's controlling
as taking your energy.
They can't take your energy unless you give it to them, just that you might be patterned
into giving it to them.
Now, the key to this is developing the boundary and knowing that you don't have to fit within
their frame of reality.
The, the, the video I did that, uh, went viral that I had no idea to get so much attention
is the why narcissists and sociopaths don't get their karma.
And that video I talk about how they are playing reality according to their frame.
When people are responding to their frame and they're playing maybe the victim role,
they're playing the other role, then it keeps the energy dynamic going to where the karma
can't happen.
The karma can only happen when the roles are stopped.
And the way that you stopped the role is you take your power back, maybe you create better
boundaries, maybe you create better boundaries and you become aware of it.
And that boundary is a sign of love signs, a sign of love to yourself saying, I don't
deserve to be treated this way.
And by Jen forgiving that other person and then just being in your own frame of reality,
you stop feeding them energy.
They will go and they will look for someone else to take their energy to, for them to
take energy.
But you can just focus on yourself.
And as you focus on yourself, then you start to get your energy back.
So realize whatever you focused on, it's a two way mirror.
You're sending them energy and you're also resonating with it.
So the key to this is to stop focusing on them, to completely stop focusing on them.
Stop feeding your energy to them.
Stop being angry about it, emotionally charged about it, and to hold your own frame of reality.
And an extraordinarily powerful way to do this is through a process called Pono Pono
Pono, which allows you to heal your own energy field and also to heal and to in a way, start
to see that person in a new light, which can then also affect them in a powerful way.
Want to put upon us in ancient Hawaiian technique is extraordinarily powerful.
It's forced simple stain.
Anybody can do it.
And what I create is I created a meditation you can listen to.
I recommend you listen to it for 21 days that they will absolutely transform your life.
It has to do with the notion that we're all connected.
So when you heal your vision of yourself and you heal yourself, you also heal the other
person.
And when you see that other person as whole and complete and you see them as being healed
from their narcissist or sociopathic tendencies, that's when things begin to change.
Because I believe that narcissists and sociopaths are victims themselves.
They are.
There are people that are unaware of what they're doing.
Some people say it's a mental disease add.
I'm very well could be.
You know, we, if we remain like they're the bad guys, they're the villains.
And guess what?
It's a, it's keeping that frame of reality going.
You know, people are the way they are because of their past.
People are the way they are because they're doing the best they can with where they are.
So the idea is to understand that and understand they may just be playing out an old pattern
so you can forgive.
And homo Pono Pono is the most powerful process I've found for letting go of that energy.
They'd let go.
And you also heal many different areas of your, your energy body.
So it's extraordinarily powerful.
The meditation below, I'll Lincoln top description box.
I recommend you listen to for 21 days.
I think it will absolutely transform your life, especially if you commit to a read the
comments to see what is possible there.
Um, a lot of people messaged me saying thank you for it and that it's really changed their
life.
So I wanted to kind of let you know about that in this video because it seems so relevant.
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So with that being said, hope you enjoyed this video, peace.
Much love and namaste.