are you in a relationship with a man who seems to have lost interest and is no longer chasing you
like he did before do you feel like you've made some mistakes and now you're the one chasing him?
I'm Dr. Antonio Borrello and in this video you're going to learn five powerful secrets that get him
chasing you again and keep him chasing you for good without playing any games or manipulation.
So if you're currently in this situation, don't worry because i'm going to help you
make a transformation in the way that you think and present yourself
and when you make that transformation or when you make that mind shift he's going to notice
and he will have no choice but to see you as the high value woman that he just can't get enough
of and he will pursue you more than ever . Without further ado let's jump into number
one number one confidently enforce your boundaries most of the mistakes that women make when dating
someone new involve some form of either a over-investing including being too available
or over communicating or pursuing him and or b not confidently enforcing her expectations
for a relationship including tolerating a lack of effort or unacceptable behavior now both types of
mistakes are driven by the fear that disappointing him will result in losing his attention and
attraction so for example a woman might not complain when he doesn't follow through or
keep plans or call when he says he will she just tolerates what he does without complaining and
fails to enforce her boundaries and expectations about the relationship instead she makes excuses
for him because she really wants him or she really believes he's a great catch because
of his handsomeness or his status or his wealth or the chemistry she feels or the promises that
he's made to her and ultimately these mistakes turn him off because they make her look desperate
insecure and just not attractive so the first step of enforcing your boundaries with confidence
means that you actually have standards of how you expect to be treated if he's going to date
you and if he doesn't meet those standards and expectations you have no problem or hesitation
withdrawing from him and ultimately moving on regardless of how great a catch you think he is
that means that you stick to your guns and refuse to settle for dating situations that are good for
him but bad for you now i'm going to give you very specific examples of confidently enforcing your
boundaries as we talk about each of the steps that you will follow but basically when a man
disappoints you by failing to meet an expectation you confidently inform him of your standards again
despite the fact that you might be feeling uneasy or insecure then you watch and listen
to his response if he validates your feelings and apologizes and offers a resolution you can give
him another chance but if he denies or deflects or in any way invalidates your feelings you put your
self-respect above your feelings and you withdraw yourself because you value your dignity more than
his attention and will not waste your time and affection on a man who doesn't recognize and
appreciate your worth and you do that because you value your self-respect and dignity more than you
value being liked by him or any man so essentially this rule sets the foundation for the other
steps i'm going to share and allows the other steps to work and that starts with number two
number two be easy to please but hard to get when you first start dating a man be easy to please but
difficult to get in other words you're easy going and agreeable not high maintenance or difficult or
overly demanding at the same time you don't want to appear too available remember your independence
and intrigue is very attractive so before he is fully committed and serious about making a future
with you don't always be available for him by always saying yes when he calls and asks you to
go out especially if he's calling last minute with short notice saying no to his request for plans
sends him the message that you have other engagements or commitments that are taking
priority at least at this time when he's asking it also forces him to recognize your independence and
that you're not just sitting by the phone waiting for his phone calls remember men are attracted to
women who present them with a challenge giving your man total access and attention especially
early on before he has earned that position can be the kiss of death for your relationship that's
because men especially are easily bored when you're always available subconsciously it leads
him to believe that you didn't have an important life before him and now nothing is more important
than him and that's not attractive so do not change your schedule around to be more available
to him remember he is someone that you just met and he hasn't earned that position in your life
so you shouldn't give up your family or friends and hobbies just because this new guy expresses
an interest in you chances are those things were what attracted him to begin with the independent
lead your own life and don't become too invested in him right away number three use the 80 20 rule
of courtship the 80 20 rule is a guideline for making sure that a man is pursuing and chasing
you and not vice versa essentially applying this rule means that 80 to 85 percent of the time
you're going to let him be the first one to text to call and to make plans with you you're going
to wait for him to initiate communication and texts and phone calls and invitations to spend
time together that means that you have to stop texting him first you have to stop checking on
him you cannot ask to see him or try to initiate plan instead you must let him do it let him be the
one who's going to be texting you good morning let him be the one that's calling you let him ask you
out and let him be the one who's going to ask you for plans that means that he's pursuing you that
means that he's chasing you and that means that he's courting you and with any quality man this is
a must now i know that many of you are saying oh boy i've made some mistakes i'm the one who's been
texting and calling and asking him and that's okay if you're still communicating then it's not too
late just stop initiating communication by texting and calling him first or asking him for plans wait
for him to do it because he's a man and he needs to do that and some of you might be afraid to try
this so many women have told me i'm afraid if i don't call or text him he will not reach out to me
now i understand that fear but you must refer back to number one confidently enforce your boundaries
and trust the process think about it this is the way that it's been for thousands of years
men have been conditioned to chase women they need to feel like they've earned the right to be with
you so trust the process and when you stop calling and texting him he will notice when he doesn't
hear from you he's going to miss you and you will know it and let me explain why this works and why
you need to allow him to chase you first men value the things that they've worked for and earned as
i've talked about before the more effort he puts into you the more he will appreciate and like you
as a result so let him work for you second he's a man and from both an evolutionary perspective
as well as from a cultural perspective men are prepared to pursue women in the courting process
if you are pursuing him you risk upsetting this expectation and his desire to pursue you
and the third reason when you let him initiate contact most of the time it allows you to gauge
his level of interest in you in other words you will know how he feels based on how proactive
he is about seeing you spending time with you and growing the relationship number four
share your love and affection only after you've secured a commitment in his life in other words
before you know where you stand with the man don't start acting head over heels in love with him
doing so with a newly interested man may result in him no longer seeing you as a challenge worthy of
his full attention instead it's important to reach a mutual level of interest before you show him how
smitten you are so if a man is making sincere and consistent attempts to make you want him
then he's probably really into you and he's becoming infatuated so take things slowly here
remember men want that which is a challenge to obtain they want to prove that they are
good enough for you showing him your feelings too early makes him feel like he's the center of your
universe and that's anything but a challenge again if you've been overly loving and affectionate it's
not too late you just need to pull back and stop doing that until you are in a committed
relationship by the way this channel has always been about helping you build great relationships
so you can grow happy with the people you love and i can think of no better way of accomplishing that
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to connect with you okay on to number five number five never act exclusive with a man who is still
keeping his options open if a man tells you he's not looking for a relationship or anything serious
you need to believe him and stop investing more of yourself and your feelings and this
goes back to number one confidently enforcing your boundaries if a committed relationship is what you
are after you're not going to entertain the idea of getting involved with the man who doesn't want
a relationship regardless of how attractive or successful or popular or desirable he might be
oh and the second part of this don't believe for a minute that you're the one who is going to change
a playboy into mr commitment i can't tell you the number of times women will ask me for advice on
this very issue she's in love with and dating a man who acts like a boyfriend but does not want
any type of relationship or commitment and when i ask why she got involved with him she usually
tells me that she thought the relationship was special if she were the special one she
would sway him into wanting a serious relationship unfortunately the only way to get him to recognize
your value and his loss is when you put your self-respect above your feelings and confidently
defend your boundaries by withdrawing if he has any kind of real desire for you that's when
he will pull out all the stops to make sure he doesn't lose you now i go into more detail of how
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