Okay so you want to know the answer to this question.
Why aren't women attracted to nice guys?
I know, it's a shame and a lot of us here are sitting here and we're upset cause we're
this nice guy.
We do everything we can.
We're good guys.
Why aren't women attracted to good guys?
It's exhausting.
But we're gonna dissect all of it and explain what's going on here.
Here's the quick answer; the reason why she's not attracted to a nice guy is because nice
guys are boring and weak.
Boring and weak.
Boring is not fun, it's not attractive and weak is not strength and that is what women
are attracted to.
The inner strength of a man, not so much what they look like.
I'm not talking about muscles, I'm talking about emotional strength.
And the nice guy that you might be is boring and weak and you are not displaying your inner
strength.
Instead you're displaying a part of you that's too accommodating to a woman and making you
look like a pushover.
We see it a lot.
You're probably seeing it in your real life.
You're seeing these girls who are attracted to the bad boys, to the assholes, the jerks.
You're seeing that all the time.
Here's the thing; you got to be really careful in terms of how we're labeling these people.
Because yes, a lot of those bad boys, those jerks, those assholes, they have some qualities
that women are really attracted to.
Those are a guy not caring what anyone thinks of him, showing a lot of emotional strength,
being able to go through the world with ease, lots of confidence, and really just being
tough.
Those are very attractive qualities, just happens to be that a lot of those qualities
are associated with guys who step on other people, who are jerks, who are assholes.
A lot of those go hand in hand.
Luckily for you we can extract some of those qualities and we can put them inside of you
and you can still be a good person but we're not going to ever label you again as the nice
guy.
So kind of give you a description of that bad boy.
Let's talk about the nice guy.
The nice guy on the other hand, he is like I said earlier, a pushover.
He's always in fear, he's not confident at all, he's only being nice because he's trying
to manipulate people into liking him so he does these nice things and shows a lot of
effort just so people can like him and that's very transparent to a lot of women.
They see that and they go okay, he's just being nice because he's trying to get me to
like him.
She sees that as a weakness because you're not confident in who you are.
You're like, I'm not that interesting of a guy, I'm kind of a loser.
You're thinking all these terrible thoughts about yourself so you're like well maybe if
I be really nice then someone will like me because I don't really like myself.
There's nothing about me that's really interesting so I'll use this quality of doing things for
other people or manipulating by lying by agreeing with people and being a pushover and I'll
use that.
That will be the thing to get people to like me.
But you've probably seen that it doesn't work.
Now we can go into this whole idea of nice guys finish last.
Here's the thing; that concept has come from the idea that women date bad boys because
they're really attracted to them and really into them and then the bad boy fucks her over
so then she's like oh no, what do I do now?
Well he was a bad guy so I'll go for a nice guy.
And then she goes for a nice guy and it's like, nice guys finish last.
Here's the problem with that though.
If that is the situation, that girl is going to find out pretty soon that oh no, this nice
guy is also not so good.
And then she's probably going to go back to the asshole guy and back to a nice guy and
back and forth and it's not gonna work out for her because here's the idea.
The best most attractive guy you can be is not on opposite sides of the spectrum.
It's not being bad boy asshole all the time.
And it's not being super nice guy.
You gotta go more in the middle and balance these two out.
Problem is, we were probably not taught this as kids.
Our parents are not teaching this.
We're not learning this in school.
You have to watch a YouTube to learn this.
Because what I found out throughout my years of being a former nice guy is that it's the
qualities of that bad boy that the woman is attracted to.
And then you can take those and still be a good person.
You can still be nice but you're being nice because you want to be nice, not to get someone
to like you.
That means that there will be times when you're not so nice, when you're going to be speaking
up, when you're going to be sharing your opinion, when you're not going to be always accommodating
to the person you're with it.
You're going to say no, I don't want to do that today, I'd rather do this.
Or no, I don't want to see that movie, I'd rather see this.
Or no, this is the person that I want to vote for in the election and I'm just going to
agree with you because I want to make sure that every conversation we have is purely
copacetic.
No, that's not what you want to go for because that leads to (remember the two things I said
the very beginning of this video) is you showing your weakness so no more inner strength and
it's very boring.
It's very boring when there's no tension at all.
It's very boring when a woman meets you and finds out that she met her identical twin.
She already knows herself.
She spent time with herself all the time.
If she meets someone just like her that's boring.
Plus it's a lie because no two people are alike.
It's very boring for her.
There's nothing interesting happening.
There's no juxtaposition.
There's no tension whatsoever and you want that tension.
That tension is completely natural because in order to be out of the nice guy syndrome,
you need to be more of who you are as a person and not be doing things in order to get people
to like you.
If we dive even deeper into this topic, what we're coming to is insecurity.
That means if you're a nice guy, if you are labeling yourself as a nice guy, if you're
watching this video and you're thinking wow, this sounds like me, that means you have insecurities.
There are parts about yourself that you don't like.
You're assuming that other people are not gonna like that too.
You're looking at yourself and saying hmm, I'm not much.
I'm not much, a lot of low self-esteem.
And I get it.
I'm not trying to come down on you for that.
I'm just trying to give you the reality.
The reality is nice guys have low self-esteem.
And the reality is that low self-esteem is a weakness because this is a person who's
going about life thinking that they're not good enough, which means that they're probably
not going to achieve much, they're not going to do much, they're going to accommodate to
other people.
That's not someone you want to hang out around.
Just being honest here.
No one wants to hang out around that guy and you probably already know that.
So what do you do, you be nice.
You do all the nice things.
You give, you give, you give, which ends up causing a lot of resentment at the end.
And you and give and it's exhausting.
You have to understand that people want to be around people who are sure of themselves,
who are thinking you know what, I got this.
I got this in life.
I know what I like, I know what I want to do because that's inspiring.
That's motivational because you know what that does to other people?
Other people have all sorts of self-esteem issues also.
When they finally find someone or be friends with someone or be lovers with someone who
has all this confidence, it feels good.
It feels good to be around that person.
It's attractive.
People are literally drawn to you because you're more charismatic naturally because
you like yourself, because you make decisions.
It's crazy.
I see this all the time.
I saw this throughout my whole life.
I've seen this in high school, I've seen this in college, I've seen this in my adult years.
The people who attract people to them the most are the people who are going about their
lives in the way they want it and not giving a shit what anyone else is thinking.
Remember the spectrum I said there's the bad guy and the nice guy?
The bad guy or the asshole, he's doing it in a way where he's stepping on other people.
He's doing it to the extreme where he's like I really don't give a shit about anyone but
myself and I'll treat other people like shit.
That's not so charismatic.
That guy, he will only go so far.
That's why they say nice guys finish last.
Because that guy, he has an expiration date.
There comes a point in time where people see right through him and they go this person
is not a good person.
I don't want to hang out with that person anymore.
I don't want to date that person anymore.
It becomes abusive and weird and then boom, they're out.
On the other side of things, it doesn't help either because it's like oh, now I found this
really nice guy.
He's boring, he's weak and this sucks for a whole different reason.
That's why we marry the two.
Is you being who you are, being a good person while still having your edge.
The way to do that is being unapologetically yourself.
What's funny is and I'm going to rewind a little bit, the nice guy has self-esteem issues
and the bad ass, the bad boy, the jerk, he also has self-esteem issues.
A lot of those guys on the other end of the spectrum, they're overcompensating.
They're taking it to the extreme because they know that they don't really like themselves.
They feel they have to push other people around and judge other people and so on and so forth.
How do you be the guy that is actually likable?
Well you're a person who's not going to judge but you're also going to be doing what you
want to do.
You're going to be a person who's gonna be talking to someone and empathizing but still
hold your opinion.
You're going to be a person who only wants to give because you want to give.
Not to do it to get someone to like you.
When I say give it can be literally anything.
Giving your time, giving your attention, giving a gift, anything like that or giving a compliment.
A lot of guys are using that as manipulation.
So I ask you, how can you step into the truest version of yourself, the non-manipulative
version?
The not manipulating to be super nice and not manipulating to be an asshole?
How do you come to the point where you are just you?
Only you can answer that for yourself.
I want to move you into that direction.
I want you to start thinking of yourself in a whole different way.
Right now you're thinking about yourself as a piece of crap.
Low self-esteem, so how can you come to like who you are, respect who you are?
Listen, there's a lot of personalities out there, a lot of people you're gonna be bumping
into.
Just because they do their thing, just because they like what they like, just because they
do what they do, doesn't mean that's right.
A lot of people compare themselves to others which gives themselves low self-esteem because
they assume for whatever reason that everyone else has it right.
That's not true.
That's what everyone else is thinking too.
It's a bunch of nonsense.
So how do you come back to who you are?
How do you come back to understanding who you are, respecting your decisions, respecting
what you want, respecting the people you want to hang around with?
How do you come to terms with that?
I know it's not easy.
This is something that it's going to take you months, if not years.
Maybe even a full decade of hard work to get to that point.
But the first point is asking yourself these questions and me asking you these questions
so you can bring awareness to this idea of what am I doing that's not for myself and
why am I looking at myself in a way that's not so good.
This might take therapy, this might take coaching, this might take going really deep and understanding
why you're doing it because maybe it was the way you were raised or a traumatic event that
happened back in the past.
Who knows, a lot of the stuff comes from deep inner wounds.
And by the way, we're talking to spectrum here.
Badass, weak nice guy.
Both those people have those wounds.
You got to come back again to yourself and understanding, this is who I am, this is what
I want and that's okay.
Tap into this concept.
I guarantee it.
The women will be swarming because a girl is gonna find you and she's gonna go whoa,
I've never met a guy like this.
I've never met such a charismatic guy in my entire life.
Because this is a unique person, a person that doesn't have to be an asshole but can
still have that edge and that confidence.
It's really quite mind blowing and when a woman sees that, she goes wow, lots of strength
here, lots of interesting vibes from this person.
She's not bored and boom, she becomes invested.
I know I gave you a little quick rundown of how that looks.
It still might be like well Tripp, how do I tap into that?
How do I be that guy?
Like I said, therapy can be an option if you're dealing with serious deep wounds.
But if you're just trying to gain some self-esteem and trying to gain some confidence and it's
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I ask you today to look at yourself and ask yourself the questions I've been asking you.
How can you start to respect who you are, no longer be the nice guy, but be a guy who's
going to be doing what he wants because he wants it.
No longer being manipulative and staying true to who he is.