hey everyone firstly I apologize if you do hear drilling outside I live in New
York welcome back to my youtube channel if you're new here be sure to click
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milestone so please subscribe! the springtime has sprung and as many of you
know I'll be getting married in September
I've been wanting to bring all of you along with me inside all of the wedding
planning that I've been doing but the truth is as a bride-to-be when I go to
these events like when I go to try on my dress or when I go to taste cake - which
is very important - I need to make sure that I'm actually focused and not
holding a camera facing it at me and making a video for youtube. you'll notice
I do have a video on my channel where I picked my wedding dress and that was
actually a recreation of me going to pick my wedding dress which I did with
no camera. I posted on my Instagram story asking if you had any questions about
the wedding planning process and I got a ton. just wanted to let you know this
video is not planned at all. I haven't even read these questions yet... Michael's
not even home unfortunately. I would love him to be involved but this is just a
Lucie video starting right now! do you have wedding planners or are you
doing this all on your own? great question we've got planners! when we
first got engaged I was so confused how do you throw a wedding? I mean this is a
party...so yeah you can just kind of call places and be like hey we're looking to
book a wedding, what do we do? a lot of venues actually provide all the things
that you might need for a wedding like catering the tables and chairs maybe
they even do flowers - who knows? our initial idea was that Michael and I
wanted to get married at either his house or at my house because of that we
knew we needed wedding planners because we didn't want to try to pull together a
wedding out of thin air in a backyard without help from anyone. as it turns out
we're not doing it on house so we actually did choose a venue but using
planners has come in major handy because the venue we chose is actually a museum!
and it's not a standard wedding venue where they already have tables and
caterers...you do have to bring everything into this museum. so yes we have wedding
planners. how long does this wedding planning process typically take? I don't
think there's an answer to that question because some people get married
two months after their engagement and other people wait four or five years.
our wedding is actually going to be one year and five months post our engagement
so we'll basically have a year-and-a-half engagement before the
wedding, and I personally think we're gonna use every day of that time period
to plan! how do you decide who to invite since you're constantly meeting new
people? whoa! I think we're gonna have somewhere in the 200 person range - even
culling down our list to 200 people was difficult. I'm a very social person I
have a lot of people that I care about a lot a lot of people that I feel really
close to so when it came time to make the wedding list I have to really sit
down and decide...okay this might be a person that I love, but the truth is they
don't have a relationship with me and Michael as a couple, and I really need to
be inviting people to this event that are there for the two of us together. are
you going to have a wedding cake and if so what flavors did you choose? yes we're
having a cake and choosing the cake and the flavor was the most important thing
to me here. I know this weddings about love but to me it's about cake. just
kidding, Michael but the cake was really important to me because when I'm a guest
at a wedding the cake is really important to me. and we've got an
incredible cake for our guests. it is dark chocolate red wine cake with marshmallow
buttercream frosting. I am salivating just thinking of it.
what is your color scheme? I don't want to give too much away but I will tell
you that all of my bridesmaids are wearing different dresses, and they're
all in different colors. they are all wearing the same shade and the same tone
but not the exact same color. and in terms of the color scheme of the actual
venue we're keeping it pretty simple. and I'm not gonna tell you to color. but
take a guess! are you planning on filming your wedding and posting to YouTube? yes
we are! I'm really excited about our videography team we hired a
husband-and-wife duo that are amazing and take great quality footage and I am
so so excited to see the final wedding video! this question is for Michael but I
think I can answer it for him - how did you design the ring? so I found a ring
that I loved on Instagram it was actually on Stephanie Gottlieb's
Instagram and I sent Michael a screenshot of that
ring. I just loved it so much it was the split shank with a circle diamond in the
middle. he saved it on his phone he doesn't really get Instagram so he
didn't know where to get that ring so he just brought that image with him to a
jeweler and had that jeweler make that ring - and now I'm really excited because
I showed Stephanie that my ring was styled based on hers and based on her
design and now we're working with Stephanie to make our wedding bands
custom! so I'm very excited about that. how many bridesmaids are you having? I am
having I have 10 bridesmaids and one maid of honor my sister Allie.
so 11 people total are in my bridal party. how did you ask your bridesmaids
to be your bridesmaids? so I didn't do anything crazy but I did pull together
little bags for them that said "I do crew" and they had a lot of goodies in them, I
gave them each this necklace so we're all matching. so essentially what we did
is we threw an engagement party but it wasn't a party for our family, it was
just a party for the bridesmaids and the groomsmen. so once everyone was there we
were in party mode we took a little pause, I gave a little speech, I think my
mom and Michael's mom came out and gave all the bridesmaids their bags and
everyone opened it at once there. and that was it! next question - what are you
most excited about? I'm really excited about the ceremony, which is the part
where you actually walk down the aisle, get married, say I do, and kiss! what's the
hardest part about planning a wedding? I think this answer would be different
for everyone but for me I think it's just all the little bits and pieces that
I had no idea were a thing. I think this all really came crashing down and hit me
like a ton of bricks when we were sitting at the place where you pick kind
of like the table settings... so you go into this place and basically there are
mock tables and they have different linen colors, they have different
placemats, they have all different cups and bowls and knives and forks ... who knew
there were a million types of forks on the market today? and you basically just
play around like you move different forks next to different cups and bowls.
and the moment that really just got me was -- we were at this place looking at the
placemats and the tables and the planners came over and they said, "do you
like this salt and pepper shaker or this salt and pepper
shaker?" I was sort of like when I envisioned planning a wedding I didn't
think I would be looking at every single detail down to the salt and pepper
shakers. I don't even look at that at a restaurant! and now I have to decide
which one to put on my table, and it's a big deal! what are you most nervous about
for your wedding day? the thing I'm most nervous about is trying to understand
how especially this ceremony is just going to come together... I know that
there's one rehearsal, so on the night of the rehearsal dinner which is the night
before the wedding we do go with our bridesmaids and our groomsmen and I
think we even do some sort of a walkthrough. I was in shows all through
high school I was in an a capella group in college. I know that when it comes to
any sort of performance that takes place in front of an audience you need to
rehearse! and you need to practice! and I know we will have a rabbi there to guide
us through the ceremony and take us through every step of the way,
but I am a little confused how everyone's gonna know where to go! and
how everything's just gonna come together. what's your theme? theme do
weddings have themes? how do you know what to wear for all of the events that you
have? great question because when it comes to planning a wedding not only do
you have to pick your dress for the big day but there's also the bridal shower
and your bachelorette party and if you have an engagement party there's another
event. and actually I'm wearing a dress right now this is from Parker New York
and they have a great website where it's essentially a weddings landing page
where you can find styles for all the big days leading up to a bride's wedding
day... so for the bachelorette party for the bridal shower and the wedding day
there are styles to choose from! every bride is gonna have her own style so
obviously not everyone's gonna want to wear the same thing. not every bride is
gonna want to wear white to all of these events. I personally am really loving the
white theme and I'm definitely wearing white all weekend on my Bachelorette as
well as to my bridal shower - and my wedding dress is white - but that's the
thing, every bride is different and there's not really many places where you
can go to find outfits that are just appropriate for all of these occasions
in all different styles...so I'm going to need to scour Parker New York's website
for my bachelorette party which is coming up!
which leads me to the next question - what are you doing for your bachelorette
party? my twin sister Allie who is my maid of honor is planning the entire
thing so I know where we're going but I don't know anything about the weekend!
I'm not gonna tell you exactly where we're going cause you will see me posting
about it soon...but we are going somewhere warm down south from New York. Will you
be doing a first look on your wedding day? yes we are doing a first look! at
first Michael and I didn't want to do a first look because we wanted the first
time that we saw each other to be in the ceremony when I'm walking down the aisle
to him, but then we decided that we wanted to have a little bit more time
before the actual ceremony when we could take photos together and when we could
take photos with our bridal parties that we don't have to spend all the time
during cocktail hour doing those photos! so yes we're doing a first look! how
involved were your families in the planning process? our families have been
very helpful my mom and Michael's mom in specific are taking the lead in terms of
family involvement. good news is my mom and Michael's mom really like each other
and they're really good friends - and what's even better they have the same
taste! I'm not the kind of person or the kind of bride who went into this event
knowing exactly what I wanted and having rigid rules for everything... you know, part
of me wanted to just walk into the wedding as a guest and be like - this
looks great thanks mom! but then the other part of me thought, "I'm only gonna
be a bride once in my life, I should be involved in this process." so I decided to
help them out and be involved but that said, our moms are really heavily
involved and they're really helpful. next question - is Michael helping or are you
doing this all on your own? so I know Michael's not here for this video and it
looks like he's out of the process, but Michael has been a GEM and there have
been certain things that he's actually taken charge of all on his own! things
that I haven't even touched. as you might know we made a save the date video so
instead of sending out paper cards we emailed our guests and gave them a link
to our wedding website where the save the date video was embedded we had a
custom wedding website builder put it together based on our vision and Michael
handled that entire process from A to Z. there are a lot of questions here! is it
stressful? is it stressful? I'm seeing the word stressful pop out of my phone!
truthfully there are parts of this that are a little bit stressful...I mean you
want to make sure that it all comes together
the way that you're envisioning it and you want to make sure that everyone
understands you when you're trying to describe the things you like. so I'm not
gonna lie and tell you that there's no stress in this process at all, but we
have been trying to enjoy the process as much as possible! and we're continually
reminding ourselves that this is all just a party! it's all the people you
love coming together in one beautiful space to celebrate your love and it's
all gonna be fine! how did you set a budget and have you stuck to it so far?
when I went into this process I knew nothing about a wedding budget so I
actually googled it and there's a lot of diagrams that break it down nicely for
you. I actually made an entire wedding
planning budget spread in my bullet journal - it's the shape of a ring and it
shows you the breakdown of how much everything should cost roughly. because
everyone that's planning a wedding is gonna be working with a different budget,
I didn't actually assign a number to that... it was more so just the ratio of
based on your total budget what percentage should go towards each line
item. our parents are helping us and it's actually their gift to us as our wedding
gift is helping to pay for this event. we are just so grateful to have them and
we're so grateful for their generosity. but when it comes to budgeting we do
have a spreadsheet and our planners were really helpful in that department to
kind of tell us what things should cost or what things typically cost! and yeah
we've done a pretty good job. what date is your wedding? September 21st 2019!
and a lot of people are asking how we actually settled on our actual date once
we pick the venue we wanted, we asked them what dates they had available and
they gave us a list of three or four and September 21st was on that list and that
was actually right in the sweet spot for us in terms of timing and it wasn't
until after we picked September 21st that we realized that we'd picked the date
from the Earth Wind and Fire song -- *plays song*
magical. what was the first thing you prioritized in getting accomplished
for your wedding? step one was finding our venue and I'm gonna tell you a lot
of venues that we looked at were fully booked up years in advance! so we looked
at a ton of venues in New York, we went to some Tribeca rooftops, we went to the
Brooklyn Botanical Gardens, a lot of places were booked for summer and fall
dates of 2019 and this was a year in advance! did you ever consider having a
small personal wedding instead of a big one? I don't think we considered it
really really heavily but we did talk about it when we first got engaged my
mom actually suggested why don't we just go on a family trip with our immediate
family and Michael's immediate family...we can go to the rolling hills of Tuscany,
you two can get married in front of just the five Finks and the four Morrises,
then we can come back to New York and you guys can throw a big party on a
rooftop for all your friends where everyone can come celebrate and dance
with you. that was intriguing to me for a few reasons - namely the rolling hills of
Tuscany, and secondly the fact that it would save a lot of money - but the reason
that we opted out of that is because on both sides of our families, we have so
many other family members that would really want to be there to celebrate
with us! do you have two wedding dresses? no I actually only have one wedding
dress. and I'm not changing dresses after the ceremony. I love my dress so much
that I just need to wear it all night. the one thing I think I am gonna change
in between the ceremony and party is my hair. I'm not sure what style I'm gonna go
with at the ceremony versus at the party but I do want to make them a little bit
different. do you hire one band for the night or multiple? we
hired one band for the night I think it's like a five or six person band.
various band members sing so I think they put different voices on for
different songs, and this particular band that we got is supposedly really good at
covering songs and really sounding like the artist that they're mimicking... and
I'm really excited for them. I've heard some great things about this band so I
will report back post-wedding! show us your save the date video! I did show you
this video already it's on my Instagram TV and my Instagram is @luciebfink.
Where did you register and how's that process going?
we're registered at three places Zola, Bloomingdale's and Williams Sonoma. The
registry has been very exciting so far because I get an email every time
something's been purchased. all of the stuff is currently being sent to
Michael's parents and that's because Michael and I are likely going to move
before the wedding! staying in Manhattan but going to a new
apartment. And because of that we didn't want to get all the items here where we
can't really fit it and then have to take it with us when we move. but we keep
getting pictures from his mom of all the boxes that are piling up. we are really
excited pretty soon we're gonna go do a registry gift opening party so that we
can kind of jot down who got us what gifts and we can know who we need to
write thank-you notes! What can you tell us about your dress? what can I tell
you well it's white... it's not that poufy... it
has a lot of personality. all right I think I've answered more than enough
questions for now. if there's anything else you want to know comment below and
I'll try to respond! overall I just want to say that this process has been a
process. there's a lot to do when it comes time to plan a wedding but if
you're a bride out there or if you're a future bride-to-be, or if you're a future
groom-to-be, just try to remember the way Michael and I are trying to remember
every day that you're just planning for one big celebration! and the day of, as
I've heard, is just gonna go by in the blink of an eye! it's all gonna be a blur
so on the day of I'm gonna be constantly reminding myself to stay present and to
look around and to feel the love in the room! September 21st 2019 for Lucie Fink
and Michael Morris is a joining of spirits - if you will. and we're finally
becoming a family with one another and our two families are becoming one family
and it's amazing! so even if there are bumps in the road in the planning
process, just try to remember - it's just a party!
it's just for fun and it's just for love! thank you so much for coming
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