This video is about "What to Do When They Stop Texting Back" I'm going to reveal
logical and practical advice on what to do when that other specific person just
stops texting you back for no reason at all! To find out more please stay tuned to this video...
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So you're currently texting with someone... maybe you met them off a dating app, at a bar, or a club or
through your spin class or gym.... it all seemed to be going so well! The conversation flowed effortlessly
you shared so much in common, you were always smiling when they messaged you...
perhaps you've longed for a connection for quite some time, and finally you're getting it off this
person! Then suddenly you text them and either gradually or instantly you're left on read by them...
perhaps you've been ghosted entirely... all that effort, that connection, being swept up in the
texting romance has just been removed for some reason... they've stopped speaking to you...You have
no idea how this has happened and you have no idea why this has happened?! Either way it has and
perhaps you're searching the internet and YouTube for answers... What I will not be providing in this
video is a bit of validation aka something to make you feel better about this scenario... there could be
over a hundred infinite possibilities of why they haven't text you back... the reason doesn't really
matter, but I'm not going to tell you what you maybe did something wrong or perhaps that they're
trash or so on and so forth - I want to approach this in a logical rational way... when a person does
not reply (for whatever reason and whoever they are) it is a sign basically and simply of low interest
but also at the very same time it's a text, a DM a Whatsapp... Texting should be used primarily to
arrange to meet a person physically not to build attraction because in the grand scheme of things
it doesn't really work! So please detach yourself from the fantasy
that texting is getting to know someone because frankly and in all honesty texting is a tool...
Here is what to do when they (whoever they are) stop texting you back...
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I know you probably don't want to hear this or maybe get your head around it either
but it is maybe not personal why you haven't got a reply... There was once a woman I was
texting for quite a while... we in fact met up for a date and had a good time together
the next day she ghosted me. I reached out again no reply.... a few weeks later she got in touch
with me and sent the following message "here's the deal" she said "I have severe trust issues
I've never had a relationship and I'm seeing a therapist... I feel terrible for how I treated
you. I want you to understand you are not the problem here, I am. Please don't take it personally..."
Now for the record I'm not suggesting everyone has issues or everybody who doesn't text back
is struggling with their mental health - some people are full of BS, manipulators,
toxic... they seek attention and validation or are just all over the place. The Disorganized Guy =
I recently went out for a coffee with a guy who is the most disorganized person I've ever met...
he'd be late for his own funeral, he's that sort of person! As we eventually sat down for coffee
he started frantically moaning about work and everything else in his life, I asked him "are you
seeing anyone?" He scoffed "well to be honest there's this amazing woman I met at the gym
He continued "yeah but the problem is I'm all over the place and I really like her! I want to take her
out! I haven't replied to her in days!" "Do it now!" I said, "send her a message, see if she's free tonight.."
After pushing him he eventually did so, this was a guy who liked the girl but because of his
poor life organizational skills and immaturity could not even text her properly! Remember
texting (in my opinion) is a tool to arrange to meet up with someone! It should not be taken
personally if they don't reply and they might get back to you eventually too with a logical reason
as to why they've not responded... Typically when they stop texting back it can trigger a real
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What I'm about to say is very brutal and very savage = nobody owes you anything in life! Even
a response via text I'm afraid. Let me share with you the personal bill of rights which can be very
rightly applied to this situation when it happens. The following can all be applied to not texting
you back = I have a right to say no to requests for demands that I can't meet...I have a right to change
my mind... I have the right to say no to anything if I feel that i'm not ready it's unsafe or conflicts
my values... I have the right not to be responsible for the actions feelings or behaviors of others
I have the right to be myself and be unique... I have the right to express fear.... I have the right to say
I don't know ....I have the right to give excuses or reasons for my behaviors... I have the right to make
decisions based on my feelings... I have the right to my own personal space and time....I want to make
something clear = the personal bill of rights can and should certainly be applied to your life too...
it goes both ways! People have the right to say no to a drink or a date over text... the right to change
their mind about talking or getting to know you... they have the right to own the fact that they're
not ready to date even more sleep with you... have the right to keep their options open... they have the
right to be anxious, fearful, have their guard up and they have the right to feel unsafe. Try to
not take it personally - I recently did this for the first time with a woman who was texting me about
meeting up for a drink one evening. But the weekend that she wanted to meet up, was the same weekend as a
memorial service. Rather than tell her I was going to memorial service (we were grieving and mourning
someone) and because I was not particularly very happy about the whole situation going
on with the family... I just never got back to her. I didn't stand her up but I just never responded
and realized she actually wasn't the right person for me anyway.... because remember nobody owes you
nothing! Please don't forget to Subscribe and hit the bell notification so you never miss my videos...
Just like the personal bill of rights unfortunately people can be unpredictable
inconsistent and extremely frustrating too. But that once again should not be taken personally
by you... one moment you're the most important person in their phone book - they may send you
memes, really funny videos, voice notes, they reply instantly, they hang on your every text,
they text you randomly out of the blue "I'm thinking of you..." they love making you feel special
wanted, validated, then poof! Suddenly they're MIA or worse they're online all the time and they're
not speaking to you any longer! My conclusion on these series of events and behaviors is simple =
people are inconsistent! Not everyone is like you maybe you're really organized, maybe you've got
your act together, your life together, maybe you're actually really on top of things, but sadly for
whatever reason this person might not be! I went through this recently as I was in the process of
moving home... after officially completing on my new place I had to get decorators, builders, cleaners
plumbers etc I project managed the entire thing myself! It's tiring and stressful but essential at
the same time. Of course I had my businesses to run as well when all of this was going on. I realized
the following = my social plans were a mess because I'd get up early to give access to builders and
then sort out furniture and so on and so forth...I had texts I had not replied to yet, I had lots and
lots of stuff going on... but when you have a major life change like that, things like that happen!
In conclusion I'm sad to admit I became inconsistent with people
but I believe that was because I was moving home which can be very stressful and can take up a lot
of time initially, especially if you're decorating making changes, ordering furniture and so on. I'm
not saying this is the best excuse in the world but it may be a factor for someone else's
inconsistency.... if they're moving house, jobs, they've got family issues, god forbid health issues etc...
Lastly this may sound really cliche obvious and cheesy but choose those who choose you in your
personal life. You know who I mean, those who don't play games or give you mixed signals who show high
interest, they don't go hot and cold, who do text you back and apologize and say why they haven't
text you back, and they make it up to you! Choose the people who choose to treat you the way you
want and deserve to be treated! There is a lot of time wasters out there, there's a lot of people
who BS, there's a lot of people just plodding along, there are a lot of people playing games
just to make you react and to go show off to their friends... try not to participate! Just a few days ago
there was a woman I was texting to meet up for a date and I asked her "are you free on thursday?"
She read it and never replied! I have no idea where she is...I have no idea why she didn't reply
but I've just ignored it, not followed her up and I've moved on with my life, as should you...
Choose those people who respond with enthusiasm, with passion, with joy, not the fake people! You'll
be able to tell who the fake people are eventually, when you are like "actually I
want to see you sooner... actually can we meet on this day because this doesn't suit my schedule..."
and it doesn't suit their narrative and they ghost! So choose those who choose you! Not those
who are there just to waste your time, act out of insecurity, seek validation, attention etc...