Hey guys, welcome back thanks for joining me for another video. So in this week's video
I wanted to go over the difference between a narcissist and a sociopath and I'm gonna be really
general with this video because I want you to just get an outline of a narcissist and an outline of a
sociopath and one of the things to really remember is
These types of personality disorders, they're gray
So definitely if you check the box on enough boxes, you can be clinically
Diagnosed with having NPD or being a sociopath but it's really not that black and white
So if you come to me and you say, you know, my partner is so egotistical like oh my god
he's definitely a narcissist that doesn't really make this person a narcissist they might just have
Narcissistic tendencies, but if you look at social media we all do so
That's just number one and there is such a thing as healthy narcissism
Where it comes into play where we then we go into you know
Having a personality disorder is really a couple of key factors. So I'm just gonna run down
kind of the basic traits of a narcissist and again
I'm not gonna get into too much detail with a narcissist because I've made a ton of videos on them
And I'm sure there's a ton of information all over
YouTube and the internet on
Someone that has NPD so definitely go look that up if you want to like dive into that topic
But really we have someone with a grandioso personality. We definitely know that
Someone that's obsessed with success money or power. We definitely understand that
Someone that is needing attention a narcissistic supply. We definitely get that
You know that sense of they're better than you
They're the smartest person in the room just that egotistical side of themselves
We understand that a sense of entitlement definitely takes advantage of people. Absolutely
envious arrogant
a hundred percent and the number one factor that
Could make someone have narcissistic personality disorder is someone who lacks empathy
So a narcissist and a sociopath definitely che a few common traits. They're both highly manipulative
They both like lack empathy. They both have that grandioso type of personality
But when you're dealing with a sociopath you're dealing with really truly a con artist
So you're dealing with someone that can play a character in a ton of different?
Environments so they can go home to their wife and play that character
They can go to the office and play that character. They can go have their affair and play that character
They can go to a charity event and play that character. So this person is very
can very easily
intertwine who they are to fit the mold of who
whoever they're with wants them to be and they can do this because
That's their way of basically getting what they want out of the situation. So the first thing that kind of
Makes a sociopath different than a narcissist is
Pathological lying they have no problem lying
They don't feel any amount of guilt at all for lying, you know
A lot of the times with a narcissist and artha nurses can definitely lie as well
But they will feel something like they'll feel they know logically that they did something wrong
they don't care and they're gonna suppress it or they're gonna
Punish you because they can't deal with the guilt and the shame that they have so they're gonna give you all that backlash
That's definitely what's gonna happen. But a sociopath can lie and not feel anything. I mean they can actually
Probably pass lie-detector tests. I mean they're that good at it. They are
Pathological liars and they're able to lie and have no shame or guilt
because there's no feeling to what they're doing and that goes right into the second thing that a
sociopath just lacks that
ability to have any shame or guilt
or remorse for what they did and
That's scary. It's really scary
obviously because when we do something to hurt another human being
there might be little things that maybe we've done to hurt someone and
Don't want to sit in how that makes us feel and so we get defensive. We try to project that onto someone else
I mean that's not common and it's definitely not healthy whatsoever. But that's different
This is more of I don't have I don't have any feeling for what I did and I you know
This is why people are able to kill and this is why people are able to do horrific
Things this is why people are able to have dual lives
I mean because there's no feeling attached to anything that they're doing and like I said a narcissist can definitely
Do that as well
but there is tiny tiny bits of guilt or remorse or some shame that might come up for a
Narcissist but they can like I said they can easily
Suppress that or project it onto you and punish you because they can't sit in what they did
Whereas a sociopath they don't do any of that, you know
One of the things that makes us human beings
Is our ability to connect with each other our ability to have remorse to have shame to have that guilt for what we did
To be able to have that empathy to put ourselves in someone else's shoes and say while I didn't experience that I can't imagine
What that must feel like and really feeling that feeling, you know
When we didn't watch when we watch something on TV
and we
see people in different
Countries and they're struggling or if we watch you know a movie and this woman or man is going through something that we've never been
Through but we feel it. We feel it. That's empathy that's putting ourselves in someone else's shoes and
What makes us different from animals is an animal has an inability to do that
So a lion doesn't care about a gazelle or about another
Animal if it wants to kill it it wants to kill it. Like that's there's no remorse. There's no guilt. There's no shame
And so what makes us different from animals is that ability to have amorous to have shame? It's what makes us a human being and
You know
If you don't have any of that it's kind of hard to even look at this person as a human being when they don't
Feel anything and the next thing is a sociopath just really truly has an inability to love
you know a narcissist I think has a
An ability to love it's just a twisted
unhealthy
egotistical self-centered
Way of loving which is I love you based off of what you can give me
Whereas a sociopath they haven't they have an inability to just connect they can't connect with anyone. They can't connect with themselves
Thousand percent and they can't connect with anyone else. So you're never gonna have a true deep connection with a sociopath
they're unable to
Connect with themselves they you know, probably had severe
bonding trauma bonding or
Definitely had some severe things happen to them in childhood or growing up that might have created this personality
disorder, but for whatever the reasons are they're not able to truly connect with another human being so you'll never
Be able to like I said have that deep connection with a sociopath
It'll always be a surface level relationship. The next thing is they're irresponsible and they're unreliable
so
when you have an inability to connect with yourself when
You don't know how to connect with others when you have no remorse. You have no guilt
You don't know how to love you don't know how to show emotion
I mean, I can't even fathom these things about okay, but if you can't fathom it
Then you're not going to be reliable. You're not you're going to be a person that
doesn't care about
anyone else or anything else other than themselves and again a narcissist can be very much this way as well, but
There's an agenda to what they're doing
So if a narcissist is like love-bombing you or you know doing you a favor helping you out here
Whatever the situation is, there's always an agenda to it
so there's a reason why they're doing it and it's because they want something in return a
Sociopath doesn't use those tactics there. They don't care and they're not there for you
They don't care they're responsible to you or to anyone else. They don't care if they're unreliable
They don't care if they told you that they'd be there at six o'clock and they don't show up till 8:00
Or they don't show up at all. They don't care that they told you, you know, hey next week
I'll pick you up when we go out for dinner
And you just never hear back from them or they avoid the topic altogether like they don't care about
Disappointing you where is a narcissist will care as long as you're giving them narcissistic supply
So if you're giving them something in return
Then they care and they'll show up on time and they'll be the person that they want you to be
but a sociopath
absolutely will not what a sociopath is is someone that has
Absolutely, no personality
someone that you'll never be able to have a deep connection with and you'll sense that as time goes on in the
Relationship just like with a narcissist the mass will come off
so you'll see things as you're with this person that are red flags and if you have
Educated yourself on this stuff and you love yourself
And you know how to love yourself and you know what your values are and your standards
None of these things will be appealing to you. So being with someone who
expresses really shallow emotions or
Someone that is unreliable or irresponsible or you know, it's so manipulative
I mean all these things they'll come to the surface at some point
It's just whether or not you're at a place where you're gonna be able to spot it and when you do spot it
What are you gonna do about it?
so really a sociopath is a hyped up version of a narcissist a true true con artist someone that is a
Pathological liar and like I said over time the mask fades. It's just a matter of
What are you gonna do when the mask fades are you gonna make excuses for it?
Or are you gonna let you know all of your internal wounds?
Kind of take over and run the show and you stay connected to this abusive person or are you gonna see?
this person for who they are and run like hell, okay, basically
So, I hope that that has given you just some insight on the difference between a narcissist and a sociopath if you have any
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