Are you suffering from self doubt,
constantly questioning yourself constantly over analyzing every single step you
take. Well, in this video,
I'm going to show you how to overcome your self doubt once and for all so that
you can move powerfully towards your goals. Before we get started,
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So you never miss a beat. Welcome to powerhouse business on YouTube,
Carolin, Soldo. I'm a business owner, business scaling master,
and mom of two boys.
I love thinking big pushing boundaries and doing things differently.
Most of all, I'm all about achieving massive growth with ease.
And how do you scale your business by living the life you love?
Let's go powerhouse. It's Carolyn here today.
I want to do things a little bit differently. I'm in my office.
I want to record this episode and make things a little more casual
because this topic is so, so important.
And time and time again, I work with clients,
amazing man and woman, powerful people,
and they suffer from self doubt and they hold themselves back and they
analyze every single step they take. And I'll listen.
I am not a stranger to this. I used to suffer from self doubt.
It comes back once in a while,
but I have some really powerful beliefs and processes that help me strengthen
myself and move towards my goals without holding myself back.
And I know how painful it is when you're doubting yourself,
because deep down, you know that you are holding yourself back deep down,
you know, that you could be doing so much more,
that you could experience so much more excitement that you could be experiencing
so much more joy in power in what you do.
But instead you feel like you can't move. You can't make decisions.
You don't know which way to go. You're afraid of failing.
You're afraid of taking the wrong step.
So you don't move forward at all or you moving forward,
but you're only doing it, you know, in a muted way, in a really sort of,
you know, step-by-step way. So you're not really going all in.
I know you understand what I'm trying to say.
So it's winter in Buffalo right now. And I have two boys. My oldest son,
Anthony is 13 and my youngest son Mateo is 11.
And since they were both barely able to walk,
we had them on hockey skates. We live in Buffalo, there's long winners,
and we figured, Hey,
we have to do something with our boys and give them something to do in the
winter time. So we taught them how to skate. And over the years,
both of them turned into amazing hockey players.
The older one is a forward and the younger one turned out to be a really great
goalie. So both of these boys have the same skating abilities.
At the same time, we taught them how to ski.
So when they were still really a little or four years old,
we went skiing with them.
Then we took lessons and we went down the bunny Hill with them and they both did
really well. Now, fast forward this year,
again, one is 13. One is 11.
We went skiing again and we took a couple of years off.
So they had a couple of years between their last time on
skis. And we thought, you know what? It's like riding a bike,
look at byte back into it. But we saw a huge difference, a really,
really big difference in our boys.
My younger son Mateo put the skis on. He was a little wobbly.
It took a couple of times in a bunny Hill, but then he said, mama,
I want to go up the big help. I want to go on the left.
So we took him up and he was great. He went down the Hill,
he was getting light into it. He wasn't bully afraid. So needless to say,
my young son had an amazing experience. He was proud of himself.
He gained that confidence and he was actually going down more and more
difficult Hills the same day. And since then,
we've been going skiing many more times and he really is having a great,
great time. Now, let me tell you what happened to my older son, Anthony.
Now, since he was a little boy, he was always a lot more cautious.
He walked later, he talked later,
but he's extremely intelligent. So he analyzes things.
He is always thinking everything through, you know, two or three,
four or five more levels than maybe other kids are. And he, um, he will,
he is looking at things very deeply and in detail,
but what's happening with him is that sometimes he over things, stuff.
So instead of just jumping in and trying something,
he stands back and he sort of analyzes what might be happening.
So when we brought him back to the slopes, we,
the first day couldn't go up the big Hill with him.
So he stayed on the bunny Hill and every little step that he
tried to take, he said, what if this happens? What if I fall down?
What if I lose my pole? What if my ski comes off?
What if I fall off the, you know, the lift?
What if someone hits me? What if I get cold? Constant?
What if questions? And in addition to that, he was constantly saying,
I can't do it. I don't want to do it. He didn't say he was afraid, but he said,
I'm not good at this. I don't know how to turn. I don't know how to stop.
So his mindset was not, you know, positive. It was very negative, embarrassed,
very fearful. And he was fairly, has attempt to do it as a result.
He didn't do well. He had a hard time getting down the Hill.
He didn't enjoy himself and he wanted to get all the
slopes and he wanted to take his skis off the entire time.
Now my husband and I were really surprised because we expected him to do just as
well as a little one, because first of all, he had the same training.
He is even older and he should be doing just as well.
So we sat down and I said to boroughs, you know,
why do you think that's happening? And he said, well, it's all in his mind.
It's all in his mind. So no matter how much training you have,
no matter how athletic you might be, no matter how smart you might be,
no matter what your strategies are, your tools and resources,
mine, it does not matter. He had the same skis. He had the same tools.
You had the same instruction. Everything was the same, the same foundation,
but he didn't do well. And it all came down to one thing. And that was his mind.
Now let's bring this over into the business world. You know,
I see a clear difference in my clients that are doing really, really well,
and that are reaching their goals really fast and really joyfully and the
clients who are doing not so well and who have a really hard time when they
struggle a lot. And oftentimes people ask me what Carolyn,
what's the difference between someone who is successful and someone who is not
and time and time again, I have to say is your mindset.
It is your level of self doubt, right?
So let's talk a little bit about how you can overcome self doubt,
whether you have a lot of it,
or you just have a little bit of it and how you can use three specific things
might shift in how you look at the world to help you let go of that
self doubt or stop it.
Stop the momentum before it even sets in and hits you.
The first thing you should do is decide that you really want to do this.
Really decide because when I see my son and he's struggling so much with skiing,
I want to ask him, do you actually want this? Right?
And he will probably say no, but deep down, he wants to ski. He even asked me,
mama, why, why is material better than me? Why,
why can I not do it as well as he can? So I know deep down, he wants to ski.
And maybe, you know,
if you're in business or you're looking to advance in your career,
you really want this. Otherwise you would not be watching this video.
Otherwise you would not be thinking about it. I know you really want this,
but you have to really believe it. You have to tell yourself I want this.
I want this more than most other things. I think about it all day long.
I really want to, you know, do this well.
I want to reach my goals and I want to have an easy time doing it.
And that's why I willing to take the steps to get there.
And I'm willing to let go of the self doubt. So,
number one is you have to decide that you really,
really want this and you're ready.
The second thing then you need to do is decide that you are ready to let
go. You need to literally look at yourself and say,
I got to stop this, right? Why am I so fearful?
Why do I second guess myself? Why do I make it so hard on myself?
Why do I let myself feel this way and take
responsibility for it? Mine. And so I said to Anthony, I said, why,
why are you making it so hard on yourself?
Do you see that by you thinking you're going to fall down and asking all of
these? What if questions? Your making it harder on yourself, right?
Why are you looking at all the negatives and not the positives? And for him,
it was hard to understand, right? He, um,
he wouldn't let go of the control and the doubt.
So he really wasn't ready. But you know,
if you're looking at your business and the things you have been struggling with
procrastinating, right?
Not really going all in second guessing all that stuff,
he needs to really say, you know, I am holding myself back, acknowledge it.
Be real like the honest with yourself and say,
I am holding myself back and then decide if you want this or not.
You have two choices. You can go down the health,
expecting joy and fun and taking it easy.
And just doing things like Mattel, or you can go down the Hill being fearful,
doubtful, expecting that you will fall. Right?
And thinking about all the bad things that might happen to you and thinking it
is hard, you can think it's easy or you can think it's hard.
And that's what your experience is going to be like,
no matter what tools you have, no matter what strategy you're using,
it does not matter. It's how you choose to look at things.
So you have to decide that it's enough of the self doubt enough of the
negativity and that you're invited to choose that ease, that joy,
that excitement for what it is that you're doing.
Once you understand that you've been holding yourself back,
then you can choose to do it with joy.
This is really the big secret of life and the big secret of
achieving anything you want to achieve.
And that is to claim that joy and that excitement and the happiness
right now, right, right now, and not buying into the idea that, you know,
you have to struggle to deserve it, or you have to struggled to get there.
And it has to be hard. And you know, it has to take a long time.
It has to be difficult. And you know,
on how to prove your worthiness to anybody, you can say,
I am going to allow myself to be happy. I want that joy.
I want to have fun right now. Not when I reached the goal,
not when I make the money now when I get the promotion or whatever else,
but right now,
so it all comes down to you choosing joy over choosing
struggle. It's your choice because ultimately again, your resources,
your foundation, your world,
how everything out there works is the same.
You're facing the same reality that everybody else is facing, right?
It all just comes down to you and your thoughts and how in control you are,
if your thoughts and what you're focused on, your focus becomes your reality.
So from today on, I want you to really be honest yourself again,
first understand that you are holding yourself back and you're done with it,
that you want things to be easier.
Really be honest with yourself and then choose joy in what it is that you're
doing instead of self doubt and over analyzing everything.
Nobody makes you self doubt yourself, right? Nobody makes you over analyze.
Nobody makes you procrastinate and stay stuck. It is all in your control.
Trust me.
That's the secret of living a life that is beyond
fulfilling, that is successful.
That helps you reach your goals faster, a lot easier.
And the life that usually deserve. And now I would love to hear from you.
This episode is a little bit different than my general training,
because I really wanted to give you a kick, right?
A kick motivation to no longer hold yourself back because honestly,
no matter how many marketing plans and strategies and tips and trainings I do
for you, if your mind is not in the my place.
And if you don't allow yourself to let go of self doubt and actually jump into
it, joyfully,
it does not matter how many trainings and workshops and classes and
books and things I do for you because you will still struggle with the
execution, but no more of that. So leave me a comment below.
I'd love to have a conversation with you. How do you deal with self-doubt?
What awareness do you have now and how do you want to approach your work and
life in general, going forward?
What are you choosing starting today? Now focus on your goals.
Better yet. Focus on your joy. Focus on ease,
focus on making things exciting and start looking at what's hard.
What's challenging. And what makes you feel doubtful? I believe in you,
I believe in your message.
And I want you to bring your message and your skills and your expertise out
there to so many more people. If you like this episode, give me a, like,
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Thank you so much for watching and I'll see you soon.
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