Hey! Dan here and in this video we're going to talk about what motivates an
ENFP or another way to look at it is how to set goals as an ENFP how to determine
the things you want to have happen in a way that will actually be motivating for
you and therefore you'll be more likely to actually achieve now. Full disclaimer:
I am NOT claiming to be an expert at achieving goals or anything like that.
There are a lot of pieces of paper scribbled around my apartment from over
the years that have not been achieved but I want to share what has worked for
me as well as what hasn't. So one of the things that has not worked for me is
setting goals based on numbers. You know I want to earn X dollars like ten
thousand dollars per year or per year that would be pretty easy ten thousand
dollars per month as a goal I remember that was my goal oh and I was 23 or 24
which is sort of picking a number right this is what I want to earn or the other
way of setting them is around like these big impact numbers people do like I want
to impact 1 million people or I want 1 billion people to watch my videos that
sort of stuff for me I've never found that is really that motivating or that
that it actually works out now what 1/2 pound is really likely to succeed for me
in terms of setting goals are things about experiences or big changes and
specifically anything that involves people and an impact in that way tends
to work a lot better for me so if I look back at some goals I set in my early 20s
and I'm in my 30s now the ones that I had set that were based on just earning
X amount of money or buying this car or this sort of thing which I thought was
what I wanted but really wasn't but you know that was the influence as I had at
that stage in my life when I look at those I rarely would actually achieve
those because they'd look good on paper but it wasn't what I really wanted where
if I look at the things that are experience based or like go live in this
city or go visit this friend in this country or become a big brother or you
know these sorts of things those almost always
happened because well a couple of reasons one is in some ways they are
easier to make happen at least for me I know there's a lot of people who make a
lot of money and could never bring themselves to move to a new city or go
travel or whatever but for me I always found them easier because you can make
one big decision so buy a plane ticket you know sell all your furniture that
sort of thing and then make that big change but I think more importantly the
motivation for me and I think for most if not all enfps is around people we
love to help other people or create experiences or stories for them or
contribute to other people in a way of you know visiting them somewhere or
creating this great event that they get to experience or making a change in
their lives this is a very common thing I hear from other enfps like my coaching
clients is sometimes they're earning a lot of money but their motivation is
never the money it's about the impact it's about connecting with people it's
about creating something so this is the other element for enfps is we generally
like to create things and that means following a script following like you'll
see ads online for these business in a box like follow the 12 step blueprint
and blah blah blah right that is not going to work very well for an ENFP
because we like to create something new original it doesn't have to be some work
of art but we'd rather have a challenge and something that we actually are
working on and making something that's new than just following sort of a script
or a routine that we do the same thing every day and every day and so stepping
back if you're looking at the two goals or two sorry things to base your goals
off of I would look at people and your connection with them in the actual
moment so let's say you're locked away in a laboratory and you're saying I want
to impact 10,000 people and you're doing work and you give your work to someone
and they share it with 10,000 people that's not going to be as motivating as
if you or working directly with ten people or
20 people where you actually have that human interaction element that's going
to be I think the most important part of it where you actually have that direct
connection with other people it doesn't mean you can't also influence 10,000
people or a hundred thousand people or whatever your work can touch many people
but having that interactive element with people directly is going to be really
important and then the second part is can you be creating something or doing
something where there at the very least is a challenge for you if it's really
easy work if it's repetitive if there's not a lot of risk of failing it's going
to be really hard to motivate yourself at least that's been my experience I
found that something that in theory should be really easy take a couple
hours if it's too easy I almost can't do it might take me ten hours to do because
I'll procrastinate it because there's no challenge there there's nothing on
creating where something that should be extremely difficult will actually be
easy for me because it's challenging and it energizes me and I get excited about
it and that makes the whole thing a lot more fun and then that experience is
actually easy and I get a lot more work done and yada-yada-yada right and so if
you're looking at your goals I would say look at these two elements is it related
to people are you going to get some kind of feedback from what you're doing and
is it challenging enough are you actually doing something that's going to
excite you and energize at you and I think if you apply these two things to
setting goals and I guess it is around New Year's now so probably a good time
to look at setting some goals I think if you're going to apply these two things
you'll find that it becomes a lot easier to achieve your goals and also the
process will be a lot more fun that's it for now thanks for watching if you've
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