If you've just recently learned that you're a highly sensitive person you might wonder now what
and even if you've known for a while that you're a highly sensitive person you might find that your
life hasn't really changed much and things haven't really started looking better you are going to
want to watch today's video because I want to talk about what do we do with this knowledge of being
highly sensitive people so if this is the first time that you're watching one of my videos my name
is Tertia and I am a highly sensitive person I'm also a highly sensitive extrovert which is really
two opposite sides of the coin I work with highly sensitive people and empaths and my mission and my
goal and my purpose is to help you embrace your sensitivity and to allow you to show your true
colors and your vulnerabilities and your strengths which are all folded together in this beautiful
cocoon of sensitivity and I also create videos around spirituality and self-growth on my youtube
channel so I would love for you to please join our community and subscribe if you haven't yet done so
and that is then enough about me so let's talk now about what do you do with this information that
you are a highly sensitive person just a little bit of of background when I first found out that
I was a sensitive person my first reaction was I completely rejected any idea of being sensitive
now pushing away this whole idea of being sensitive is quite normal and I think most of us
do that in some way or another because when you accept that you are sensitive it changes things
and often we are not ready yet to accept that change because we are afraid as sensitive people
as highly sensitive we like to know the outcomes of things we don't like surprises so we are very
good at planning and at strategizing because we like to see how things are going to unfold and
if you don't know how it's going to roll out then it's easier just to reject that but that is the
worst thing that we can do because you are going against your nature you're going against the truth
of your DNA the first thing that I'm going to tell you is that you need to educate yourself learn
everything that you can about the traits of high sensitivity there's so much research being done
and the more that you educate yourself the better you understand all of these different aspects of
of who you are I think one of the things that is so beautiful that I see in the the trait of
being a highly sensitive person is that there are so many different dimensions to this trait
of high sensitivity and there are really four main characteristics about our sensitivity and you
might have seen the acronym DOES d-o-e-s so just to quickly go into what this stands for is the d
stands for depth of processing our nervous systems and our brains have been created in such a way
that we process everything like a supercomputer so we are very effective in analyzing
process filtering absorbing and interpreting all of the information from everywhere in our vicinity
and of course if you take in so much information if you have this deep level of processing where
you really dig down into all of the stimuli all of the information it is going to over stimulate
you you can think for yourself it's like a it's like a super computer that overheats because it's
getting too much information it's getting too much input and because of this level of processing we
need to start doing different things in our lives to accommodate the over stimulation that we have
as a result and that is what the o stands for over stimulation which is as I said a natural result of
the level of processing so highly sensitive people feel both negative emotions and positive emotions
more strongly than non-sensitive people and that is what the e in the acronym stands for empathy
or emotional responsiveness and what they found that in our brains when we observe someone doing
something the mirror neurons in our brains fire and are more active than the mirror neurons in
other people's brains so as highly sensitive people we are experiencing the same feelings
as the person who we are observing and that's why our feelings can be so intense and that's
why it's so important that we become empowered so that we can tell which feelings are ours and which
belongs to someone else that's one of the big challenges that we have a lot of times in terms of
setting boundaries and also being able to separate what we feel from someone else's feelings because
we get confused we absorb all of that thinking that it's our own feelings when it's actually not
and then the s stands for sensing subtleties and this is again the supercomputer brain where we are
extremely aware of the smallest subtleties in our environment and that also explains why we
can be so sensitive to strong smells or bright lights something that won't disturb another
person at all can be really overwhelming for us because we are amplifying all of the information
in our environment and then taking that in and processing that so really it is our brain and
our nervous system that is on super overdrive and we need to find ways in which to manage
this super overdrive so that we can begin to live optimally so that's the first thing is
educate yourself the the more that you educate yourself the better you can work
with the traits that you have the second thing which I experienced made a big big difference
in my life and from the work that I've done with my clients when you change your lifestyle
to accommodate this highly sensitive side of you you'll find that you feel a lot more power
and you feel a lot more inner strength because you are taking care of those things like
getting adequate rest we all have different demands in terms of how much
rest we need and how much sleep we need but that is a non-negotiable for a sensitive person is you
need to get enough sleep if you don't get enough sleep you're not going to be able to function well
and you are not going to be able to withstand any pressure or to handle any stress when you have
enough sleep when you take care of your physical needs such as drinking adequate water and eating
nutritional food and doing exercises when you do these things to take care of your physical
side you will find that you are a lot more resilient so you have a lot more strength to deal
with the mental and the emotional side of being a highly sensitive person so you need to change your
lifestyle and what I always suggest to my clients is take stock of what it is that you're doing now
how much sleep do you get every night what is your morning routine when you wake up in the morning
what is the first thing that you do do you have children jumping all over your bed or do you keep
on hitting the snooze button until there is really no more time left for you and you just have to
jump up get dressed and grab a cup of coffee as you head out the door or do you wake up in
such a way that you can ease into your day what type of food do you eat what kind of shows do
you watch what kind of social media do you do you consume take a look at all of those
things and from there you can begin to curate a lifestyle that's going to be more supportive to
what you need as a highly sensitive person so it really is about self-exploration and understanding
what your triggers are because a one-size-fits-all lifestyle is definitely not going to work for you
the last thing that I'm going to share with you in this video is self-care needs to become a priority
so self-care here and I've made videos about this which I'll link for you in the description below
self-care is not about pampering yourself the real self-care work that we need to do as highly
sensitive people is to listen to our physical and our emotional needs to honor those needs
and to take regular time out that is the biggest self-care practice that you can start today you
can start it right now and that is to every day take out some time for yourself where you
are disconnected from any electronics you are not near any people even if you have to lock yourself
in the bathroom and switch off the light and stay there for five minutes nobody will bother
you there you need to create some time in your day because in this alone time that is so part
of the soft care what happens is your brain now has time to deal with all of these things that
it's been processing as a result of being so aware of the subtleties and so sensitive to the emotions
and the feelings of others so these then really are the three key things that I think are a good
stepping stone from when you discover that you're a highly sensitive person the step beyond that
is to do the inner work I can't stress enough how important it is for us as highly sensitive people
to do some inner work around our core wounds we carry many core wounds with us most notably the
the core wound of I am too sensitive there's something wrong with me I am not good enough
and I don't matter so when we work with these core wounds it allows us to show up
in a completely different and authentic way and as long as these wounds and these emotions are
they are going to continuously show up they're going to continuously sabotage you
and they are going to continuously trip you up and prevent you from really stepping into your
full expression as a highly sensitive person if you would like some support in your journey
of discovering your wonderful gifts and strengths as a highly sensitive person
then you can book a free discovery call with me I will put a link in the description below I have an
eight-week coaching course that is aimed specifically at highly sensitive people
and we do coaching and healing in the sessions and I also teach you practical tips and tools that you
can use to really support you to live your life authentically so if you are interested in doing
this eight week coaching cycle but you want to see if we are a good fit then it's a good idea for you
to book the discovery call so that we can just meet each other and you can explore
the different ways in which I will work with you in order to support you in this
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