- Hey, what should we do tonight?
I have a lot of energy after a long week
and I'd like to leave the house to share my excitement
with total strangers.
- I don't know, what were you thinking?
For the love of all things holy, I just want to stay home
and not talk to anyone, even people who live in this house.
- What about trying that new restaurant downtown?
Meet up with some people from work?
I have to get out of this house.
Please get me out of this house.
- Hmm. That could be fun.
I'd rather stab my eye out with a rusty fork than meet
up with people at a crowded restaurant right now.
- Should I text a few friends?
Like can see if they'll meet us?
I have so many friends that will share my excitement.
- Okay.
Absolutely not.
Please do not include anyone else.
- Or we could just stay
in our neighborhood and go to our usual place.
I do not care where we go.
As long as there are people I can talk to.
- Oh yeah, our usual spot.
Penn is like the mayor of that place.
Everyone there will come and talk to him
and then Penn will say, "Hey, do you guys want to join us?"
And then they will join us
and then we will say "We should go on a vacation together",
and then we will plan a vacation together that none
of us want to go on
because we are friends, but we aren't friends, friends.
But we will never take the trip because we suck like that.
- Great.
I can tell by her reaction that she is not into this.
- Or, hear me out.
We stay in and order delivery.
I really, really do not want to leave.
How can you not see this?
Oh, so same thing as last week?
- Oh crap.
- I know, I know.
I made a resolution to get out more.
No one keeps the resolutions.
Please don't make me.
You should have known what you were getting
into when you married me.
I told you.
I don't know why I am this way, but here we are.
- You know what honey?
We can just get delivery.
The last thing I want to do is order in.
- It does sound fun, right?
Nothing thrills me more
than wearing my 20 year old sweatpants.
- Yeah, sounds fun.
I have been in this house all day
and will now be in this house all night.
I am a prisoner in my own domain.
- Okay, let's call for delivery.
I will not be calling for delivery.
I do not wanna talk to a person on the phone.
- Oh, I can call.
What do you want?
Maybe the delivery person will want to have a conversation.
Dear God, I need social interaction.
- Oh, you know me, I'll eat anything.
I will not eat just anything.
I will eat one thing
and it is your job to guess what that is.
- You know what?
The line is busy.
So I tell you what, I'll just go to the bar
and I'll pick it up there.
I lied.
The line is not busy, but I need to get out of the house.
Maybe the bartender will want to talk about sports with me.
- Okay, hurry back.
Finally, I will have the house to myself.
I hope it takes you an hour to get home.
- Oh, I will honey.
I hope it takes me an hour to get home.
And scene.
You guys, we wrote an entire book about asking
for what you want.
- Yes.
- And have you noticed that like when you're talking
to someone who's not the same kind
of profile like an extrovert talking
to an introvert, you never really say what you want.
- We did work through marriage counseling.
As Penn mentioned.
We wrote a book and one of our phrases is mature people ask
for what they want.
As an introvert, it is a little harder for me
'cause I want to be the type of person
who wants to go out on a Friday night.
Like I want that for myself.
I want to be that type of person, but I'm just not.
- By the way, I just wanna make this very clear.
Just because you're an introvert doesn't mean you're a dud.
Like when she does go out, she's a ton of fun.
- I'm very fun.
- She's the life of the party.
But an introvert and extrovert
is more about where you get your energy
and that's really what this video is about.
- Right.
So I sometimes I send him
to the bar to go off to the bartender and order food
and then he comes back and he is had his fill
of people and then we can be together.
Thank God I have an extrovert or I'd never leave the house.
Are you an introvert married to an extrovert?
If so, how's that working out for you?
Thanks for watching.
I'm going to go to bed now.
- I'm gonna go find someone to talk to.
Do you wanna talk to me?
- Yes, you guys stay and talk.
- Seriously, what have you been up to?
Like I've never met before?
We're total strangers.
Tell me everything that's happened to your life up
to this point and then I'm just gonna interrupt you as much
as possible in talking about my life as well.
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