Intjs understand that they cannot change people or even change their opinions,
which are often based on ignorance and physical appearances. Just because they don't want to make
a lot of friends and only have a small - trusted circle doesn't mean they are your enemies. INTJs
understand the feeling of disappointment and being let down better than any other personality type,
which has an incredible effect on their human understanding.
They don't hate anyone, but it makes them strong and powerful on the inside.
As you know an INTJ happens to be one of the rarest personality types out of all
the Myers-Briggs personality types. But is being rare the only reason why getting along
with other people is so hard for them? Apparently, people seem to dislike them for a lot of reasons,
and today I am going to talk about the top 7 reasons why people don't like the INTJ
very much. The last 2 on today's video will probably surprise you whether you’re an INTJ
or not - make sure to leave a comment and let me know what you think of them.
Let's get into it.
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Starting us off today is INTJs are not expressive and may appear distant.
This personality type rarely thinks about societal expectations. And they don't
believe in wasting time attempting to meet everyone's expectations. People generally
dislike them because of their lack of social skills and their lack of engaging replies.
For example, if you're having a really fantastic day and are in a cheerful mood,
then proceed to tell your INTJ friend about it,
don't expect anything more than a faint grin and a nod. They will not return your energy,
and if you aren't that close, it may actually feel really rude to you.
Honestly, they're not even doing it on purpose. They have so much to plan, fix,
arrange and perfect that they don't have the mental energy to devote to things like politeness.
If it's your birthday, expect your INTJ friend to give you a thoughtful gift, but don't expect them
to be enthusiastic or emotional. Feeling emotions and actually expressing those emotions are two
distinct things, and it is sometimes difficult for an INTJ to bridge the gap between the two.
Next up and number 6 is INTJs are Hard to understand and very independent.
When you live in a society, there are moments when
you need other people and times when they need you. That's just how the world works,
and there's no shame in acknowledging that you're not always self-sufficient.
The architect personality type does not fit into this category.
Because they are already emotionally distant, needing other people would require them to
express their emotions or admit that they are unable to accomplish things for themselves.
Their cognitive function introverted feeling is to blame for this because it is the reason
why they are continuously spinning in circles in their heads and never share it with anyone!
In fact, their inability to communicate themselves is one of the primary reasons why others do not
understand them. And, certainly, it may be aggravating, especially in relationships.
You won't be able to understand anything if you try to read their face because it’s
typically void of expression - whether it's rage, happiness, grief, or anxiety. This personality
type is alarmingly excellent at masking their emotions and maintaining a neutral expression.
Number 5 on my list of why people don't like the INTJ is They can be overly critical..
As I previously stated, this personality type is too preoccupied with organizing,
correcting, and perfecting everything, therefore they don't have time to express
their emotions. That is both good and bad. Their perfectionist mentality does not limit itself,
therefore everyone around them is influenced by their constant evaluation.
If you have an INTJ friend or family, you may understand what I'm trying to say here.
If an INTJ walks into your room, it will take them less than 10 seconds to examine the entire space,
its setup, how it may be improved, and how you should arrange your belongings.
However, Is their criticism valid? That is the real question. If you think about it, the critique
is well-intended. They truly want you to grow and become a better person. For most other people,
the motivation behind the critique is jealousy or hatred. However, when it comes to the architect
personality type, you can always bank on them not being envious of you. They simply want you to
improve yourself, which is why they encourage you to work on whatever aspect they regard as lacking.
Next up and number four is INTJs prefer their alone time.
As you can guess probably guess if you didn't already know, INTJs are extremely
introverted in nature. And for those people who aren’t that close to them,
it can seem a little offensive. For example, if the architect personality type is new to a
social circle and people ask them to tag along and go out, their reaction is almost always no.
Do you remember when I stated they don't have a lot of social skills,
are emotionally lethargic, and can be unnervingly quiet and expressionless?
These are some of the characteristics that make it difficult for newcomers to like an INTJ
and is also one of the main reasons the INTJ personality type is so misunderstood.
The bottom line is they like their alone time. Not because they are anti-social - it's
actually the exact opposite when they are around the right people,
it's because they need that time for their mind to develop all of the thoughts and ideas that their
introverted intuition is trying to tell them. INTJs are known for self-reflection and
self-development and simply need that alone time to work out what is going on in their heads.
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Starting our top 3 reasons why people don't like an INTJ is They can be slightly obsessive.
Focusing on something is one thing, and it is often regarded as a positive trait, but obsessing
over it to the point where all that passes through your mind is that one specific thing
can become toxic. People who have spent years with an INTJ become accustomed to their habits,
and they sometimes show flexibility and sometimes force them to show some flexibility.
However, when a New person is around the architect personality type,
their concern for having things organized, doing their absolute best at everything,
and disciplining themselves to do even better than that, may be tedious and frustrating.
This is due to their cognitive function, introverted intuition! They have a tendency
to spend a lot of time processing everything new that comes into their thoughts, trying to figure
out the most efficient and effective solutions and that can make them difficult to tolerate.
As I previously said, the meticulous tendency can be helpful at times,
but it can also be quite bothersome, especially if you are new to the friends' circle of an INTJ.
In the runner up spot is INTJs are interested in ideas that seem too hard to execute.
Once again, The INTJs are extremely hard working and love to hyper-fixate on things.
And when those two qualities combine in a person, it ends up with them being overly ambitious and
constantly pushing themselves beyond their limit. A big reason behind it is their cognitive
function of extroverted thinking! Once the INTJ has a gut feeling about anything,
there is no use convincing them otherwise! Yes, they hyper-fixate, yes they overwork.
But is that really a surprise? Probably not. As if hyper-focus and overworking weren't enough,
their incredibly independent character adds a cherry on top, resulting in an INTJ drawing
up maps that are almost impossible and exceedingly difficult to accomplish.
Obviously, when someone like that is a part of a group effort,
it goes without saying that all of the other group members can get easily stressed out and irritated.
Topping our list today is They're sticklers for detail
I probably don’t have to elaborate more than this, do I?
If you want to do something a certain way, that is perfectly OK. However,
when you try to impose your preferences and conclusions on others, It can become toxic.
I think you understand what I’m saying here If you have an architect personality type in your
social group. It goes without saying that it is quite frustrating when your INTJ friend
appears out of nowhere and begins telling you about how you should clean your room,
arrange your books, and do everything.
If you've been friends with an INTJ for a long time, you understand the nature,
and sometimes you're the one who displays flexibility,
while other times you encourage them to be patient and restrained.
At the end of the day, INTJs are only trying to be the best versions of themselves
and draw out the best in others. Unfortunately,
people's egos typically get in the way and don't always see it in that light.
Do have any experiences being an INTJ where you feel others don't
like you very much? Make sure to tell me your stories in the comments below.
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