So, this video is not for men
who are in long-term relationships,
marriage,
have kids,
or
are in an abusive relationship
where you are getting abused
by your woman.
You need to seek professional help.
This is beyond the scope of this video.
Let's first of all just
put it on the table.
Nobody likes tests.
But I don't like
the ice cream makes me fat
if I eat it every day.
It's just the reality of life
sometimes there's
stuff in life that
we don't like
and we can either deal with it
or we can walk away.
Later we're going to go over
if you're running away scared
or if you're walking away strong
and how to know the difference.
So, basically two ways to handle tests.
I mentioned it in my last video.
Is if it's a non-serious test
you're going to treat it not seriously.
You're going to be playful, teasing, and fun.
If it's a serious test
you're going to be serious.
You're going to put your foot down
and that's, that.
Now, the key is to remember
that
you're not going to get them all.
Most of them you're not going to get
unless she's really attracted to you
and you can tell because she's giving you
multiple signs of attraction or flirting with you.
It doesn't matter what you're going to say.
Anything you're going to say is going to be a winner.
The ones that you're kind of
need to have a little bit of skill with
are the ones who are on the fence.
They could go either way
because if you screw up
then it turns her off,
but if you don't screw up.
It doesn't necessarily turn her on,
but it gives you permission
to kind of explore more
to see if she wants to go there.
And the ones that just are not
interested in you
they're not interested in you.
It doesn't matter how skilled
and masterful you are at handling objections,
they're just not going to be interested in you.
Sorry, that's just the way the world works.
So, just move on to the next one.
Let's go through some these tests.
When you're first meeting a girl
you might give her a compliment.
Let's say you give her a compliment
and she says
I bet you say that to all the girls.
There's two ways you can handle this.
You can kind of
act disappointed like
hey, I just gave you a compliment
and you're going to brush it off like I say that
to all the girls, come on.
Or you can be playful about it
and just say
yeah, but
I only say that to redheads
or I only say that to
pretty girls with brown eyes
or I only say that to girls
who drink Americanos.
So, you can either say something physical about her
that you appreciate
or you can say something that she's doing.
Like, if she's reading a book or she's
ordering a coffee or
something situational
and that just kind of makes it fun and playful.
Another thing that
a girl might say
is that she's got a boyfriend when she really doesn't.
What you can do with that one is basically
just probe a little bit
to find out if she actually really does have a boyfriend
just by either saying
do you really have a boyfriend
and you're just tired of getting hit on?
Or you can say
hey, how long have you been together?
I just came over here to friend zone you.
And if again you just act playful about it
then you can see
if she's actually telling the truth or not.
Another thing
that a girl that you've just met
might say would be
you're not my type.
So, if she says you're not my type
you can again
go back to the playful saying
I was kind of thinking the same thing about you
that's why I wanted to come over here
and friend zone you.
Another thing
she might say is
more specifically
I only date tall guys.
I only date rich guys.
I'm going to do a video on that for you all
who thinks money is the only thing
women are after not true,
but I'll save that one.
Anyway, so she might say
you're too old
or you too young.
So, if it's anything physical like that
you're just going to say
who said anything about dating.
Like, uhh...
We are going a little too fast for me there.
Another one would be potentially
if she says something about your personality.
I think you're a little bit too arrogant.
Don't you think you're a little bit too cocky?
You could say something like
yeah, but I think
you're the kind of woman who can handle a confident guy.
And again just brush it off playfully.
Now, what happens if you are dating a girl.
There's a whole slew of other
tests that she might
unleash on you.
One might be
how many women have you slept with?
That one you can either say
I don't kiss and tell.
Or you could be again playful about it
and say some kind of
really exaggerated number like
five hundred and seventeen,
but that's just my day job.
Or something again
where you going to get her laughing in the end.
Another test that she might
give you is
if she's texting other guys
when you're with her
and then you can just kind of look at her go
are you uhh... Are you engaging with your,
your backup boyfriend.
That reminds me I should probably
get in touch with Ashley.
You know, so you kind of call her out on
bad behavior,
but in a playful way.
And then another thing she might say
if you're dating would be
are you seeing other women?
You could say I'm only seeing one right now
and I like the looks of her
something like that where it's like
no big deal.
Now, if it is more of a serious topic
then you might have to get into
a more serious conversation.
Another thing she might say
if you're just dating or in a relationship actually.
Does this make me look fat?
Oh, man that is,
that's such a
landmine.
Oh, women if you're watching this stop saying that.
Stop asking that question
you don't want the answer.
But anyways guys
if she says something about how she looks
just say girl,
everything makes you look yummy
because the reality is you're attracted to her.
Now, something she,
she wears is really not attractive
you could say, I like the red dress better
or what if she
cancels a date.
Now, depending on when she cancels it
and what the reason is.
Even if it's a legit reason
you're still going to say
okay, I'm going to let you get away with it this time,
but you're going to get a spank.
Now, if she does it again
even if she has a legit reason
then you're going to have to
get more serious about it
and say
look, I'm not cool with you canceling dates
I need you to plan your time better
because it's rude.
Otherwise, we won't be going on dates.
And if she apologizes
because she's a decent person
and never does it again, great.
If she acts like a little miss princess
then run away.
She's not worth it.
Now, as far as long-term relationships go
there's too many variables for me
to be able to give you enough
specific advice
to
keep you out of danger basically.
So, if you need help with that
then you can you know
either go to a professional therapist
or counselor or whatever
or you can book a coaching session
and I'll walk you through it but
it's just too risky
when you're either married or long-term
or there's assets together
or any of those things
to be giving you advice.
But generally you have to know
that the longer your
cojones have been in her purse
the more difficult it is to change the
dynamic
because the relationship
is established.
Okay, we'll just take a moment.
A momentary break.
Well, Daisy
gets her nest ready.
So, a key point about
long-term relationships
is basically that
we teach people
how to treat us.
So, you need to be able to
set standards and boundaries
right from the get-go
because if you let her get away with bad behavior
she will keep doing it.
You need to put your foot down at the very beginning.
Playfully at first but then if it gets
more serious
then you just need to get
more serious along with it
and do not let her get away with bad behavior.
Don't reward bad behavior,
that's the bottom line.
Okay, now how to stay grounded in your masculinity.
It's you know really fine
and dandy
to say just be a man,
but it's not that easy.
Like, if you're not used to standing up to women
or handling these tests
then how are you going to do that?
You just don't
go out and do that.
So, there's two ways of doing it basically.
There's the,
the hard way that's fast
or the easier way
that takes longer.
The hard way that's fast
is to join men's pickup artists
boot camp.
And
basically that means you're jumping in
the deep end of the pool,
but that shock therapy
is going to get you there really fast.
The other way to do it is the long road
or the shallow end.
Baby steps towards becoming the kind of man
who can just handle anything in life basically.
And of course,
my wakeup2luv program
will help you get there with
weekly big homework
and daily little homework.
But essentially
you need to
become the kind of guy
that you have a self-respect for
and doing that just means
developing all areas of your life
where you can feel confident in yourself
so that it doesn't matter.
You're not investing
you can walk away from the deal.
If you want to know
whether or not you're running away scared
because you don't have the skills
or the sense of self-assuredness
to handle women's tests
or if you're walking away strong
because
you're not going to put up with the test.
The easiest way
to know which one it is
is if you can tell her
what she's doing wrong
without reacting.
If you can be unemotional
about just telling her
this is what
is not okay
and I'm walking.
If you can't do that
without getting flustered
or frustrated
or angry
or
any of those emotions
then it's probably
because you're not grounded
in your masculinity.
You're not there yet.
So, if that's you
then you really do need
to start working on these other areas of your life.
And again, my wakeup2luv program
will get you there,
but it does take work.
It's a comprehensive program.
It mostly doesn't involve talking to women.
And you have to decide
if you are more focused on
personal growth and personal development
or being attached to your ego?
What is ego?
Ego is when
we blame women for being women.
We blame feminism
for being feminism.
I actually blame feminism for being feminism.
But anyways,
we're basically taking a victim mentality
instead of
taking responsibility
to improve our self
and our ability
at any particular skill
that we want
to have.
And the hero's journey
is not an easy one,
but if you don't take it
there are going to be other guys who will take it
and they will have more options
because those are the ones
that are going to have
all the women
that are interested
in men
interested in them.
So, if you want to be one of those guys
then you have to challenge yourself
Are you going to lie down or what?
Daisy come here.
You want to come up here?
Come here.
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