[How to Become a Leader] Matt: What if I told you there was just one thing you need to focus on we can see
more attractive women it's something that yandi Nelson Mandela and Martin
Luther King all have in common and it's basically 80/20 of attraction which
means it's the one thing to focus on that will give you the most bang for
your buck basically the closest thing to a magic pill and I call it the King
complex named after of course Martin Luther King because you probably don't
want to go to a beautiful woman like a social weird robot giving her some
backhanded insult about her nails or memorized ridiculous pickup lines or
wear outlandish EPOC outfits and so many guys run around in circles doing
ridiculous things to attract women I believe me I've been there too and we
set them straight and teach them how to embody this King complex that I'm about
to share with you a track date and even meet the woman of their dreams my name
is matt artisan from the attractive men coming at you from havana cuba which
feels like the 1950s and this is the one thing that you need to focus on to spark
attraction and get women to face you
we spent two hours looking for Wi-Fi going to 10 different hotels because
apparently the only place you can buy these government-issued Wi-Fi cards are
at big hotels but none of them seem to have them today so setting up dates
seems to be near impossible since there's no SIM cards there's no way to
text and then there's no Wi-Fi to use Facebook Instagram or whatsapp so the
only option apparently is gonna be go on insta date so keep that in mind if you
come here do you have Instagram or what's up okay but do you know where to
buy the Internet you don't know where to buy
yeah yeah it's important for me because I got to work but I don't know where to
buy it I've been spending two hours going all these hotels and nobody knows
we're back in 2010 a story known as the chilean mining accident blew up news
stations across the globe and after the aftermath was broadcast to the entire
world I was reminded of a very powerful lesson about becoming the kind of man
that women shops can't ignore so get this on August 5th 2010 a group of
Chilean miners experienced their worst nightmare the cave collapsed without
warning and they were trapped 700 meters underground
that's the same length as six football fields straight down and the workers had
700,000 tons of rock standing between them and the entrance and to that their
supplies and their oxygen were running out quickly everyone was pretty much
certain that all those men would not make it out alive but the 33 trapped
miners had one glimmer of hope down there
his name was Luis Urzua described as a born leader the 54 year old was a shift
commander at the time of the collapse and using all of his wits
resourcefulness and leadership Luis was able to secure all the men in a secure
refuge beneath all the debris
you know there's an illusion event organized
their resources like food water and medical supplies was only meant to be
just a short 48-hour supply which stretched out six weeks
they drank tiny sips of milk and they took really small bites of tuna under
his direction his men also used a bulldozer to open a natural water
deposit for drinking but did even more than that it took three men with them to
scout the area four tunnels from their who's able to make a detailed map of the
area this helped coordinate with the rescue efforts above-ground and when the
rescuers finally arrived Louise volunteered to be the last man to
be hoisted in the rescue pots his leadership kept all the men positive
organized and alive I love this story not only for the inspiration but for the
lessons that it gives us because Luis Urzua demonstrated status by the way man
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the Journal of Psychology of sexuality found that women prefer men with status
this is based on evolutionary psychology where the high status man can provide a
better future for her in her offspring and of course one of the biggest
indicators of status is leadership because the leader of a group of
primates tends to have the highest status so how do you be a leader and I
was gonna get a change to give you seven paces which is $1.00 mr. Lennon here
knows all about being a leader and being high status so here are nine ways to be
a leader that women will absolutely love even if you have no friends and no
social status whatsoever and the last of the nine are all about what to do
specifically when you're with a beautiful woman so make sure to watch
until the end because if you don't do what I'm going to tell you then I can
almost guarantee that she will lose interest and attraction in you first you
got to be a leader of self that means sacrificing short-term gain or pleasure
for long-term gain or rewards for example working out for me it sucks I
don't really enjoy it and often times I don't want to go to the gym but I go
anyway because I know and I know it's gonna make me look and
feel better short term and long form really and of course another example is
approaching beautiful women for most people at least in the beginning no
nothing that can happen and we know it's gonna give us long term rewards a
girlfriend or even a date physical intimacy etc so when you
develop the habit of stepping out of your comfort zone all the time stepping
into tension just like working out there's a lot of tension physical
tension it's painful approaching women it's physical tension or pain well I
guess a little bit in your stomach or in your body it's more of emotional fear
when you get in the habit of doing that regularly not only does it build
character strength confidence but you develop the habit of being a leader and
you become the type of person who goes for what he wants and when so you need
to get used to getting out of your comfort zones doing things that scare
you that you know also won't kill you that will give you some sort of game
Jen just bought a bag show us the bag
$20 since to Shannon Matt it's kind of cute you have to have a purpose
something that you are aiming for something that's potentially bigger than
yourself or like a life mission and aim in life the direction most people don't
even have that and that puts you on a path and gives you direction so you know
where you're heading and every single day you're doing small things to get you
there and as you keep progressing and have small wins and you're accomplishing
your goals not only does that give you more confidence and you feel great and
you feel like you're accomplishing something but it conditions you to keep
leading yourself because on that path on that journey of course you're gonna have
to do things that you don't want to do there's gonna be times when you have to
get out of your comfort zone whether that's you know starting your own
business you're gonna be really outside your comfort zone you might have to make
financial investments might have to put a lot of work it may be you need to go
back to school or ask your boss for a raise or maybe it's traveling right
that's outside most people's comfort zone you're going to strange places like
here Cuba where everything is different the language the money it's like no
Wi-Fi anywhere it's like I'm stuck in the 50s it's awesome but at the same
time you know for a lot of people that could be that could be scary and as
you're accomplishing your goals and getting closer and closer to your
ultimate purpose to achieving that ultimate purpose you become more and
more of a leader you're conditioning yourself to take positive action that's
really what a leader does he leads himself to positive action and
he leads others it's a positive action I'm inside a fort right now in Cuba I
don't know the name but just like a good general or military leader you got to
lead others to positive action that means taking the lead taking charge
making the plan for the night with your group of friends saying hey let's go
here let's do this tonight maybe you're having dinner and you're the one who
says all right let's go let's get the check let's go somewhere else get used
to using come and words like I just did for example
let's go let's do this I like the word let's because it involves everybody it's
not just saying we're gonna go do this I'm the boss I'm taking charge and at
the same note if people don't want to do it what you suggest be flexible
let somebody else lead a good leader knows when to take a step back and let
others lead as well a good leader makes decisions quickly and he's slow to
change his mind most guides I've worked with I notice
are the exact opposite they take a long time to decide what they're gonna do and
then they second-guess themselves afterwards and they change their mind
quickly so get in the habit of doing the opposite as all good leaders have that
ability to be decisive and one way to do that super simple is any time you're at
a restaurant open up the menu and make your decision of what you're gonna eat
within 30 seconds and don't second-guessed it just eat whatever you
ordered if it's not good you'll know better next time
we have this entire restaurant all to ourselves including a Cuban band behind
us we're special here's what I'm talking about lobster
with garlic Cuban style every eight the lobster cocktail that is delicious now
if you don't have any friends you have no one to lead or even if you do I
recommend that you create a meetup group go to meetup.com it doesn't cost a lot
of money and you're gonna be the organizer of the group which means
everybody's gonna be looking to you for guidance and direction of what to do and
you're gonna be the one planning everything so it's gonna be up to you to
make all the decisions at least in the beginning and figure out where when and
what everybody is gonna do which is gonna help you to be a better leader
it's gonna help cultivate that quality inside you and the final category of
leadership that we're gonna talk about is leading your woman the first step
it's usually gonna be approaching her which is leading yourself you see her
walking or whatever situation and you're gonna have to start walking towards her
lead yourself a positive action it's the easiest step
is literally taking that first step create some momentum walk towards her
open your mouth and say something I know where I have a free conversation cheat
sheet that shows you exactly what to do and what to say in that situation no
matter what daytime or nighttime situation you're in so you can get the
conversation started in a really confident and attractive manner and lead
it to a phone number and a first date in no time at all within 2 or 3 minutes of
meeting her at that whole interaction with her from the moment you approach
her to getting her phone number to texting her setting up a date going on
the date leading her through the date and potentially back to your place or at
some point into a relationship it's all up to you you are the man you are the
one leading and taking charge and when you're leading her it needs to sound
like a command it needs to sound like you're leading her a lot of guys will
say hey let's go over here or is it cool if I get your number or tell me
something interesting about you and it sounds supplicating it sounds
weak it doesn't sound strong and masculine because the tonality is going
up at the end of the sentences like a question like I'm not sure about myself
it's dead it needs to go down like a command like hey stop tell me something
interesting about you or let's go over here let's go to this other venue I know
a great place over here and you also need to be assertive when you go for the
kiss can't be like second guessing right now you need to expect that she likes
you if you're at the second or third venue you're one or two hours into the
date and as long as today is being well she
should reciprocate and kiss you back and now we're back to me pitting Oldsmobile
gonna head back to the city
maybe I just have a dirty mind but chances are you do too
I had a date one time where I didn't tell her where we're going I told her it
was a surprise which is a great thing to do most of the time because who doesn't
like a surprise well she didn't because on the way there she asked again where
are we going I really want to know and I told her that we're going to a salsa
class and she goes oh no I don't want to go there I don't like classes I don't
like salsa but she wasn't adamant about it if she would have said like oh I had
a bad experience salsa dancing somebody broke my foot and you know I'm
traumatized that'd be different but she was just
like oh no I don't want to go so I said don't worry it's gonna be fun because
you're gonna be with me I'll take care of everything
don't worry so sometimes you need to know when to be flexible and change the
plans other times you need to know when to be persistent and a little bit
adamant about what you're gonna do tell her to trust you and women love that
when you're the man who's taking charge you have a plan it makes her feel safe
which builds a deeper connection and makes her more attracted to
so to spark red-hot attraction man from the moment you meet her and keep
increasing that attraction as the interaction goes on you need to not only
lead yourself which is so important not only with women in dating but having a
successful life in general but you need to lead others whether it's your group
of friends or in a group type dynamic like a meetup group and by the way if
she sees you as the leader of a group that will cause her to view you as even
higher status and to help you escalate the interaction from the moment you meet
her and know how to carry the conversation so that you can show her
that you're a leader and also create even more and more attraction make sure
to download our free conversation cheat sheet if you don't already have it grab
it man it's absolutely free there's a link to the right of the screen in just
a second and at the bottom of this video a Yoda or nunca
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