- The words you speak have the most incredible power
to heal your mind, to heal your body.
Let me show you how to use the power of your own language
to bring about incredible healing and powerful health.
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So, why do your words have so much power
to affect your mental health,
your physical health, your emotional health?
Well, your mind must listen to everything you say,
and your mind works out what's going on
from the words you use.
So, if you say, "This commute is killing me,
"my boss is driving me insane,
"my colleague makes me want to die,
"I'm dying under the pressure of these papers,
"my client is a nightmare from hell."
Your mind has one job and it's not to make you happy,
it's to keep you alive on the planet.
When you use very negative words, very scary words,
words about, "I can't cope, I'm falling apart,
"I'm losing the plot, I'm losing my shit."
Your mind really believes that you are losing it
and its job is to keep you alive.
So if you keep saying, "My job is killing me,
"killing me, killing me.
"My boss is torturing me,
"these clients make me want to die."
Your mind believes that
and then it's going to create something
that will stop you going to that place that is killing you,
which is your job.
If you say, as a new parent, "This baby is killing me.
"Oh my God, you can imagine having two?
"Oh, it would kill me.
"I'd run away, I would die."
Your mind has got a clear message.
"You don't want a second baby,
"it would kill you to have one,
"so let me give you unexplained infertility."
The way you feel about everything, bar none,
is down to the pictures you make in your head
and the words you say to yourself.
And the pictures matter less because
the words make a picture.
Imagine you say this, "Well, I went out yesterday
"with wet hair and I'm going to get the flu.
"It's flu season, I always get sick at flu season.
"My niece was here the other day streaming with cold,
"I know I'm going to get it."
Those words are making a picture of you getting sick
and the strongest force in every human being,
including you, including me,
is we must act in a way that is consistent,
that matches how we define ourselves.
In fact, our words are a blueprint
that we actually move towards.
Every word you speak is a blueprint.
When you say, "If I look at a cake...
"I get fat just by looking at cake."
Well, that thought, that belief, makes cortisol,
a stress hormone that is more likely
to make you put on weight.
And if you say, "My metabolic rate is so fast,
"whatever I eat I burn it off."
That is very, very likely to happen.
You see, here's the thing about words.
You have free will to say whatever you want.
You can choose to be negative,
you can choose to be positive.
You know what you can't choose? What you do to your body,
when you say, "I know I'm going to get sick,
"this headache is killing me,
"I have a terrible immune system,
"I've got rubbish digestion,
"I always get colds, I get headaches,
"I've got a nervous disposition," don't do that.
You have to decide to choose to use better words.
If you change your words, it will change your reality.
Your words shape your reality.
Change your words, it changes your reality.
All the people I work with who are super-successful,
billionaires, millionaires at the top of their game,
have something interesting.
They don't use negative words.
They don't go,
"This is a disaster, this is hell, this is a nightmare."
They go, "Well, this an opportunity,
"this is a challenge, this is a situation."
I have a family member right now,
who has Alzheimer's and he just calls it A.
A.
"Well A is here, but it's not really affected me,
"I'm not giving in to A," and I love that.
That you will not give it a name.
I had cancer and I met
someone and they went,
"Oh, hey.
"I'm a cancer survivor just like..."
I went, "Hey, no.
"I'm not a cancer survivor because I don't have it."
I had it for a month, it was a blip.
It arrived, it went away.
It was a blip.
I don't refer to it very much
and I would never call myself
a survivor of that 'cause I don't have it.
But when I did have it, I decided to tell my body,
"You are a wellness making machine.
"I am doing wellness, only wellness, always wellness,"
and I commanded, instructed,
directed my body to do wellness and I sang a little song.
Every day I'm feeling healthy and I'm healing
because I knew that that word,
those words were not just words.
They're a powerful direction to my subconscious mind.
The words you speak are not words,
they are directions, commands to your subconscious mind.
If you say, "If I get dumped again, it will kill me.
"If one more person rips out my heart and stamps on it,
"I'd rather die than be dumped again."
You are telling your mind,
"I could not cope with the ending of another relationship."
And if you say, "Well, there's a starter relationship.
"It didn't work out but there was something in me they loved
"and that's still in me."
And the next one will be better, you will cope better.
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So, how can you go from illness to healing,
from sadness to joy,
from being alone to being absolutely lovable?
Change your words.
If you're a negative person,
look at the words you say and flip them over.
"My kid is stressing me out," becomes,
"My kid is a challenge and I love the challenge,
"it comes with the territory."
"I get dumped all the time."
"I'm lovable,
"I'm attracting the perfect relationship for me."
"I'm always sick," "My body is a wellness creating machine,
"I have a phenomenal, dependable,
"reliable, incredible immune system."
I was having lunch with a friend, her husband,
and my daughter, some years ago.
We all ate the same thing.
My friend, me and my daughter got food poisoning, he didn't.
I asked him, "Why not?"
He went, "My body wouldn't dare to reject any food
"I choose to put in it."
And I thought, "What a great belief.
"I should have that belief."
Look at people who you admire in your life
and look at their beliefs.
When you look their beliefs, you think,
"Well, I can believe that belief, they don't own it."
You can believe whatever you want to believe.
"I have phenomenal coping skills.
"I'm not ageing, I'm saging.
"My body is ageless, my immune system is phenomenal,
"my metabolic rate is incredible.
"I work hard but I rest and recharge like a battery."
Imagine looking and going,
"Oh my God, I look so old.
"I look terrible."
Or saying, "I look dehydrated,
"I look tired and tomorrow I'm going to hydrate,
"see that I look great."
You see, don't use powerful words as a negative.
Only use powerful words that are positive,
"I'm amazing, I'm phenomenal,
"I have incredible coping skills, I'm lovable,
"I'm here for a reason.
"I have a gift and I can monetize that gift."
Those words will empower you.
"I don't know why I'm here, I'm nothing special, me."
Don't do that.
I was in the back of a car some years ago.
I was filming a show and I was a judge on a panel
and when we got to the studio,
the security guard looked through and he said,
"Who are you?"
And they said, "Oh, this is Marisa Peer,"
and he said to the driver, "Who are you?"
He went, "I'm no one."
And I said, "Don't you ever say that,
"you're not no one, you're someone.
"Do you have a wife?"
"Yes."
"Do you have kids?"
"Yes."
"Do you have friends?"
"Yes."
"You're someone to someone."
Don't ever go, "I'm no one, I'm nothing.
"I'm insignificant, I don't matter."
Don't use those words ever, ever, ever.
You are someone to someone and you're someone to yourself.
Allow your words to empower you.
Remember, you get to choose.
You get to choose every day whether to use negative words
or powerful words, healing words or hurtful words.
But you know what you can't choose?
What you do to your body when you use hurtful words,
"This is making me sick, I can't cope,
"I'm going crazy, I'm losing my mind,
"I'm losing my shit, I'm stressed out.
"I'm dying here under the pressure."
If you could look inside your body
and see what those negative words do,
you would never use a negative word again.
Love your body, love yourself,
praise yourself, use better words.
And if you use better words, you know what you'll get?
Yeah, you're right,
you'll get a better life.
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the power of language
and your power to change them overnight and forever.
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