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S: We have to film this part fast because I am eating a delicious breakfast of Tater tots
S: With, can you show them my new [excited noise] H: Organic spicy honey sauce
S: Hot honey, say hot honey H: From trader joe's
S: It's called hot honey H: It doesn't say it on there
S: Well the real name is hot honey H: Okay, sorry
S: I've never had hot honey before but it's all the rage right now
S: And as the sauce master of Minneapolis and the greater midwest, I need to try it
H: What do you meant it's all the rage, who do you hear these things from?
S: The different food Youtubers I follow
H: Oh, because I've never heard of 'hot honey' so I'm just curious
S: The different food Instagrammers I follow H: We don't live in the same universe
H: Like I don't even know what hot honey is and you're just talking about it, so
H: A little weird S: It's gonna be amazing
S: Okay, before we get into the real video today, we're just gonna share a funny little story
S: Because it's funny H: It is funny, it's embarrassing for you
S: So we recently did a speaking engagement, a virtual speaking engagement
S: And both of us were sick H: Yeah
S: So we were a little bit off our game H: I think we did a good job
S: Or maybe I was off my game H: Yeah
H: But at the beginning we said, we're a little sick, if we need to turn our cameras off
H: To cough or whatever, that's what we're doing
S: I guess yeah, we weren't off our game to the audience
H: Yeah
S: But at least in my head, I was very nervous about coughing
H: Yeah I was nervous too
S: And I was thinking about that way more than I was thinking about the actual presentation
S: Which led to my little snafu
H: We had to do a poll, there was a poll in this presentation
H: And I was going to read the results so the poll gets cued up, we're standing there
H: I'm like everyone do this poll, the poll is just there
H: And we're just kinda sitting in silence, I'm like oh this is a little awkward
H: I'll just say - sorry, I'm still coughing
H: I'll just say, okay, I'm just gonna give everyone a couple more seconds
H: Finish up, just a nice little reminder S: You're being the gentle host
H: Yeah, gentle host, so I start saying I'm just gonna give you a couple more seconds
S: And I, not realizing what's happening, I think in the split second
S: That Hannah doesn't realize that we're not muted
S: So I thought that she was saying something to me privately
S: Like maybe a joke or something inappropriate, I had no idea
S: So I hear her begin to talk, I see that we're not on mute
S: And I go nope, nope, nope H: He goes no, shhhh
S: I shushed her, I went nope shhh
H: And I was like, I'm just gonna let the poll take a couple of seconds
S: No, you stopped mid sentence, you were like what?
S: And I was like ohhh, no, go ahead, sorry [laughs]
H: Luckily I think it was quiet enough, people were doing the poll
H: I don't think that everyone... they were probably like what was that?
S: Yeah they were probably confused a little bit
S: They didn't know the terror that was going through my mind
H: Why Shane just shushed me S: I was like nope, shush
S: And Hannah was like what? I'm just saying we're almost done with the poll
H: Yeah S: Oh, carry on, go ahead
H: You were like oh, sorry S: So we are professionals
S: But even professionals make mistakes H: Yeah
S: And that is the lesson that we want all of you to take away
H: Not all professionals, like I didn't make a mistake, but some do, like Shane does
S: Okay, let's get on to our main topic of the day
S: Things that we wished we knew prior to getting married
H: Oh boy S: There's so much
S: Hannah changed her outfit H: I was about to say I changed my shirt
H: You took my line S: She was very excited
S: This is a shirt that has a built in bra H: Wow, good job Shane, you knew
S: Well you haven't stopped talking about it H: But you were listening, that's so nice
H: Yeah, it has a built in bra everyone, I'm really excited about it
H: There are a couple different kinds, the brand is called Classy with a K
H: And they make Bra-mies, maybe it's pronounced Brammy like it's a cammy
H: It's a bra, I don't know S: [groaning]
H: Highly recommend, it's very supportive S: Mine also has a built in bra
H: No it doesn't S: My shoulder straps have a built in bra
H: Okay S: Alright, what's our video?
H: There's Chloe's tail, today we're gonna talk about things we wished we knew
H: Before we got married S: This'll be fun
H: I know, we've seen some other couples doing these kinds of videos
H: We thought it'd be fun to think about and talk about
S: I feel like the ones that I've seen have mostly been like
S: I wished we learned to communicate H: Oh yeah
S: Like they're not very happy H: Oh my god
S: Ours isn't really gonna be like that I don't think
H: Ours isn't going to be like relationship regrets
H: But it was an interesting thing to talk about, we came up with some stuff
S: Yeah, we did, there are things that we wished we'd known
S: Number one, maybe the most impossible of all
S: We wish we had known there would be a worldwide pandemic
S: Immediately after we decided to get married
H: That would have been a good one to know
H: I think that would have really informed our wedding planning
H: If we had a wedding at all S: Do you think we would have held off?
S: Like do you think I would've proposed if we had known...? Probably
H: I think you would have proposed but I think we just wouldn't have planned a wedding
H: For a couple of years, or we would've just gotten married privately
H: We just wouldn't have planned a wedding that we then had to cancel
H: Postpone, and then, now it's...
S: Yeah, so I mean, we're in the same boat as a lot of you
H: Yeah S: We had a date, we had to cancel that date
S: Then we were like you know what, let's just get married
S: So we got married in our backyard H: Yeah
S: With our officiant over Zoom, and then we were like well, we have the postponed date
S: From our original date at the venue H: Well we weren't allowed to cancel
S: That's right
H: So we had this date, so I guess we'll still have a party
S: And we were like it's a year later H: It'll be fine
S: There's no way the pandemic will still be affecting things
H: Yeah S: Guess what
S: They are affecting every aspect of this new wedding that's soon
S: So yeah, wish we'd known there would be a pandemic
H: Yup, that's number one
H: Number two is also about the wedding aspect
H: We wish we had known that the wedding really ends up being more about
H: What you think your guests will enjoy than what you will enjoy
H: Even if you try so hard not to, so like early on we said no dancing
H: We're just not gonna have dancing, neither of us want to dance
S: We were like no DJ, no music, we'll find other...
H: Well we said live music
S: But I think there was a point where we didn't
S: I think we were like after dinner, we'll find a unique activity
S: That's not music related H: Yeah
H: Or we'll just have one guitarist in the background for ambiance
H: But no dancing S: Or a jazz ensemble
H: Yeah, but no dancing, and as the months have gone by, we talked to family members
H: And people who will be attending the wedding
H: And run things about wedding planning and stuff by them, we were like okay
H: We'll have a DJ but it won't really be for dancing
H: And then we were like okay we'll have a DJ and a dance floor but we won't dance
H: It just keeps escalating to now we have a DJ and dancing
S: And you know, it makes sense, our family and friends
S: Are going out of their way to come to this event and we want them to have a good time
S: It's not a bad thing at all H: Yeah
S: But way back when we first began planning
S: I think we were a little rosy-eyed, is that a phrase?
H: Yeah S: Like rose colored glasses
S: Like we had a moment where we were like let's just elope
H: Yeah S: That would be really fun
S: We would love to go do that on our own, but then we said that to our parents
S: And they were like [gasps] H: 'We would need to come'
H: And then we were like well then who comes?
H: You see couples saying I wish that we had just eloped
H: After weddings, you see that all the time S: I know
H: And people gave us that advice, they were like, just elope seriously
H: And obviously we're not doing that but that is really good advice
H: Just elope and have your own private thing
S: Yeah, because the wedding will end up becoming all about what your guests want
S: And that's fine, that's totally fine, but just be aware of that
S: We were not aware of that
S: Another thing that I wish that I had known prior to becoming legally bound to Hannah
S: Is that she was a gold digger, I did not know that
S: Many of you tried to warn me, and I just refused to open my eyes
S: I had my head in the sand H: Wow, yeah
S: And now she is legally entitled to half of my 10 million dollars
S: Oh wait, I wasn't supposed to say the number, make sure you cut that out
H: How did you find out that I was a gold digger?
S: I found your closet H: Hmm?
S: You didn't think I would find it, did you?
H: What's in my closet? S: I'm sorry to do this on camera
S: There's a closet in our house up a flight of stairs
S: Where Hannah probably thought I would not be able to go
H: How'd you get there? S: With the help of my Jaco arm
S: I lifted myself up the steps, opened the closet door
S: The door that I didn't know existed
S: And found 18 year supply of Nerds candy
S: Now I've been giving Hannah money because she's been asking for it
S: To support her family across cities, I believed that
S: And now I find out it's all been going to this sick sick hobby, I guess you can call it
S: That Hannah has for Nerds and Nerds Rope, Nerds chewables, Sour Nerds
H: Okay, uh huh
S: So I wish I'd known that, because I have no way out now
S: So if you're a lawyer and you have advice, get in touch
S: I can't pay you because she's been using all the money for Nerds
H: Okay
S: When we had the idea to do that joke, I did not think that it would make you laugh that hard
H: There was no mention of Nerds or candy in the original joke
H: But it was just that I was a gold digger, you took that so far
H: It went on for so long and when you added in Nerds Rope [laughs]
H: I love Nerds Rope S: Shout out Nerds Rope
S: You really do like Nerds Rope, that's not a joke
S: She's been spending all my money on Nerds Rope
H: Oh my god, anyway, let's move on
S: This next one is serious H: Yes
S: And we talked about it a little bit but I wish, we wish, we had known more
S: About income restrictions for disabled people as it relates to their ability
S: To get hired caregivers, does that make sense? Can you explain it?
S: You're more eloquent than I H: Yeah, we talked about this in the past
H: How when you get married your spouse's income and your income
H: Get added together and for a lot of people that disqualifies them
H: From getting subsidized healthcare or caregivers income
S: Because of a disability H: Yeah, because of a disability
H: So to qualify for those things you need to be below the poverty line essentially
S: It's around there, it's low H: It's around there, isn't it below it?
S: I don't know, it might be below it
H: But now I think they're trying to make it above it
S: Well it's different in every state H: True, it varies by state
H: But it's very, very low, it's around the poverty line
H: And when you add in a second person's income
H: Oftentimes that boost you above the poverty line
H: Because the other person has income, so we just wished that we had...
H: It probably wouldn't have changed anything
H: Because it's a really impossible situation
H: And in a lot of states, if you're living with someone it's called like a assumed marraige
H: There's a word for it and that's not it but they can say you're in a relationship
H: That is basically married even if you're not married so they count their income
S: Yeah, and the reason why now we wish we'd known more is because
S: As we think about having children, it's very realistic that we might need
S: To have paid caregivers to help out H: Yeah
S: And we still would've gotten married but finding this info is really difficult
S: And all the different ways that you can be disqualified are hard to figure out
S: So I just wish we knew more about that and didn't have to make a decision
S: That was based on, we'll figure it out H: Yeah
H: Alright the next one is kind of related to what you saw at the beginning of this video
H: When Shane was endlessly ranting about the spicy honey
H: That he was dipping his tater tots in, whatever
H: I wish that I had known the extent of Shane's sauce collection and spice collection
S: This is another serious one
H: Because now we have an entire two cabinets, like 2 shelves in our kitchen
H: Dedicated to his spice and sauce collection
S: Many of which I will probably never open
H: That's the thing, he buys them with such exuberance, brings them home
H: Sometimes opens them and tries them like with this honey
H: And then never again, a new one takes its place
H: So we have the coconut curry aioli that you used to eat
S: I forgot that was in there H: And you just never use it anymore
S: Oooh, I'm gonna have to try that, maybe over some white rice
H: I don't know, so.. S: The coconut throws me off a bit
H: Well you bought it so
H: And the last one, the last one that we wish we had known
H: Is that getting married, at least for us, didn't change anything
S: No
H: It did not change the everyday of our relationship
H: It did not change how committed we were to each other
H: Everyone keeps asking, when are you getting married? When you're not married
H: So you kind of feel that pressure that this is a huge thing
H: And then it didn't change anything,
H: At least for us we feel the same way that we did before we got married
S: Yeah, when we were doing our private ceremony last year
S: For the weeks leading up to it I was thinking a lot about what would feel different
H: Yeah
S: Because getting married is like one of the last big life milestones
S: That anyone ever experiences, so I was worried, not worried...I was wondering
S: Once we were married, if it was gonna be like something inside me changed fundamentally
H: Yeah S: And it didn't
H: No S: Like we woke up the next day
S: And I was like, what should we do for breakfast?
H: I know S: And then we worked on a video
S: It wasn't like I was like, I'm your husband now
H: I know, and for a while saying husband and wife felt weird
H: And I still do like saying husband, it sounds more adult than boyfriend
H: Or even fiancé although I liked fiancé too
H: But that's really the biggest difference is saying my husband
H: And that's sort of where it ends
S: And it didn't change anyone that thought we were fake, all the trolls
H: True
S: We kind of thought that getting married would make them all be like oh, this is legit
H: Yeah, commitment
S: But they just spun the conspiracy even deeper
S: And made up new reasons why we're fake so that didn't help that, not in the slightest
H: Not at all
S: But yeah, it really didn't change a thing H: Yeah
S: My parents were like, do you feel different?
S: No H: Yeah, we were like no
S: Maybe after this wedding, we're having our reception, probably not
H: After we acknowledge it, yeah, I don't think so
H: I think we're gonna go home and be like, wow, we're tired
S: Wow, that was a waste of time H: Shane
S: Just kidding everyone
H: Alright well the next time you see us we will probably be...
S: Married I guess? No H: We will have celebrated our marriage
S: I'm excited to never have to explain to anyone on Youtube again
S: Why we had two weddings H: Yeah
S: We get that question a hundred times a day
H: 'I thought you were already married' might be our most common comment
H: Which is surprising to me because haven't people been hearing
H: About weddings in the pandemic and how people are getting privately married
H: And then celebrating? S: Probably not
H: I don't know, probably not, maybe it's just us because we're involved in the married world
S: Go back and watch, if you are sitting here right now
S: And you're itching to write a comment that says wait a minute
S: I thought you were already married, go back to September of last year
S: On our channel, find our videos, we'll explain everything
H: Yup
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