So it didn't work. It all fell apart. Didn't turn out the way you wanted to?
Get ready because disappointments creeping in. So here, I'm going to train you
on how to deal and cope with this disappointment. So it does not ruin your
day tomorrow.
Okay, it didn't work out, did it? Ah, you know how this happens and then didn't
turn out the way you wanted to. Your thoughts go crazy and those emotions
come up and now you find yourself just diving into this weird pool of
disappointment. Now, it's totally cool to be disappointment just for a while but
what happens is is when disappointment starts to grow. Because when
disappointment starts to grow, you are going to start having other problems. So,
how do you deal with disappointment? How do you get through this? So it doesn't
consume you for days and days and weeks and weeks. Because when disappointment
gets too big, it's actually going to create more experiences to be
disappointed about. It's a dangerous emotion when it's not
managed very well. So my intention right now is to train you on how to work
through this disappointment so it does not facilitate and create additional
experiences that can keep you down. Because everybody experiences
disappointment. I experience disappointment, you do. But how do we
process it? I... Over the last 10 years of my life, if I had not learned how to
process disappointment, it would have just smothered me. If you're an
entrepreneur or a goal setter or even a dad or a husband, you have experienced
so much disappointment. But if you can process it quickly, you can be right back
up and get going. If you're somebody who's kind of dragging because it's
really heavy on you, this is perfect for you.
Now, another reason to pay attention to what I'm going to show you here is
you're going to meet people who were stuck in disappointment. Like they literally... It
just like their feet are just stuck knee-deep in the just the cesspool of
disappointment and they can't get out. So, if this isn't for you, watch it because
you're going to be talking to somebody soon that's gonna be struggling with this. And
you can help them. So get educated in this and help somebody up out because
it's not a good day when we're just stuck in disappointment. Okay, so what do
you do first? Whenever you have a disappointing moment, instead of looking
at everything that didn't work which can just literally be endless, what you do is
you turn thinking to go literally, "What did you learn from this?" And you might be
a little sarcastic at the beginning. You know, where you say things like, "Oh, I'll
tell you what I learned. I'm never doing that again." You know, at first it's a
little sarcastic. That's going to come out of you. But that's a good start.
And even if you're kind of just throwing statements around like, "I learned never
to call that person again or I learned never to do that I learned to never have
goals." Let all that sarcastic kind of heat come out of you. Because you're
still pointing yourself in a good direction. If you can start to talk this
way, even if it's hot heated and not all really positive,
you're turning your mind to look for what you've learned. That's when you turn
disappointment into an experience that you're going to gain from. And that's what
it's all about. You're going to have the emotion but we got to turn the head in
the thinking into a better direction. So you start talking about what did you
learn. And the next one is what did you gain? And you probably going to think,
"Nothing. This totally fell apart. I gain nothing."
But still keep asking yourself the question, "What did you gain from this?"
Because there is something there. You know, Edison in his inventions. If he
didn't look for what he gained, even if it was tiny, tiny, tiny, tiny bits of
information. If he didn't look for what he gained, he would not have kept going.
These are 2 reasons that way if we can turn our head think this way. We can be
the inventors. We can invent a life we've always wanted to live. So what did you
learn? What you gained? Next, you're going to ask yourself what will you do next time?
And while you're in the depth of disappointment is when you're literally
the smartest bout this. If you wait till you
come up out of disappointment to figure out what you're going to do next time, you
will have forgot all the sensitive things that just went wrong. When I'm in
my disappointment slump, "Man, I'm writing in my journal like crazy of the things
I'm going to do different next time." Because it's so apparent, you're so aware,
you're so in tune to the mistake. You're actually becoming really smart. Because
people not only want to know what to do in life they also want to know what not
to do. So you as a person, get smart right now. If you're in a place of learning
what not to do, it's making you so smart for what to do next time. So start
writing it down. Make a list. Okay next, what worked and what didn't work? What
worked, what didn't work? And what I do is I draw a line right down the middle of
paper. Right down the middle of paper and I start making a list of what didn't
work and what did work. And I sit there and bounce back and forth because your
ideas. And your thoughts during disappointment are just scrambled but if
you can begin to organize your thoughts. You start to come up and out of
disappointment. Because now, you're taking what worked and what didn't work instead
they all go on ping-pong back and forth in your head.
You're creating 2 lists. Organize your thoughts on paper like this. it'll help
you gain some balance and some self-control. Next, 5 lessons learned.
You know up here it's like, what did you learn? But I like to take it and go, "Okay,
I'm going to narrow this down to 5 lessons learned." If I can pull 5 super
clear lessons learned from every disappointing situation that I've had,
boy I'm getting really smart along the way. So, up here, these are the things
that you want to take a look at of being able to change your thinking. But this is
like the work. Make your list of what worked, what didn't work. And narrow it
down to 5 lessons learned. Now, I have a file on my computer that I keep all my
lessons learn on. Number 3, express yourself. If you're
disappointed, say you're disappointed. If you're super disappointed, you may need
to go for a walk and rant. Completely just complain and moan and groan and
throw everybody under the bus. During that conversation. But just be sure
nobody's listening. Nobody's listening. You're not you're not expressing
yourself to trash on people right in front of you.
But you do need to go for a walk and express everything that went wrong and
who's driving you crazy and who didn't do their part and who dropped the ball
but express yourself. If you leave all that expressions stuck in your chest,
someday, it's going to come out at the wrong time on the wrong person. And as long as
you have that all gummed up inside you right here and you don't express it, what
happens is you get to carry disappointment into tomorrow. And into
the next day. And because you're still holding on to it, it's going to stick with
you. So number 3... And it is a have to, a must. To express yourself. But not to
the people yet. You need to burn off some steam before you call them. And you know,
where people make their mistake is when they're really struggling, they're really
disappointed about something, they give right on the phone and they just blast
those people. And then what happens is you got yourself a mess. Why? Why do you
need to unload all your emotions on somebody else? Are you just trying to
destroy them? You're trying to like stab them in the chest with those emotions?
You're just going to hurt them. What...? What happened with some miscommunication? But
you go burn off all your steam because some of that steam comes from old stinky
experiences from years ago. It's not just this current situation. It's a bunch of
old stuff all flying out at the same time. So, don't go straight to the person
and load on them. Go for a walk. Vent. Talk out loud, rant
out loud, clear it off your chest, get it off your shoulders then go have the
conversation with the person or the people or that... Or review the situation. But
don't forget number 3. This is how I move and manage through disappointment.
I'm not going to get stuck by it and neither are you. No longer are you going to
get stuck by disappointment. You can process it better now. You know what to
do. But do something about it today. Don't wait til tomorrow, don't put it off till
tomorrow. Handle it today. You'll sleep better tonight. You'll wake up with a
better fresh view about tomorrow. And this is perfect timing for you to click
and watch this video today. Perfect timing.
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