#1 Your inability to take control.
Here’s a secret a lot of guys don’t know… girls like having sex and want to have sex
MORE than guys do… yup it’s true… but society has created a whole culture that makes
girls feel ashamed about it, and as though guys are the only ones who are supposed to
want sex all the time.
Well guess what, she’s human too, so you know where her mind goes and what her needs
are.
But since girls can often feel the stigma about being open about sexual topics, they
instead hide it.
This is why guys have to make the first move on girls…
So this way, she knows that when she opens up and admits that she likes you and wants
to get her freak on, she feels safe and comfortable revealing that, and won’t feel judged by
you.
This brings me to my next point.
#2 Judging the girl.
Judging the girl or making her feel as though you’re judging her and her actions in a
negative way is a surefire way to destroy all that sexual tension, and get her to NOT
want to hook up with you…
Girls need comfort in order to hook up with a guy…
They want to feel comfortable, safe, and like they can trust the dude they’re about to
hook up with, so if you make her feel judged or slutty for what she’s about to do with
you, you’re really just shooting yourself in the foot.
You’re immediately turning her off and putting her guard up.
BUT let’s also not forget the fact that it makes no sense to pass judgement on a girl,
especially if YOU are the one trying to get HER.
How does it make sense to judge a girl for hooking up with guys, if 99% of the time you’re
spending your days watching YouTube videos on how to get a girl to like you, and spending
hours a day on Pornhub with your hands in your pants practicing!!!
So yeah, long story short.
Don’t make the girl feel like you’re judging her, otherwise, she’ll immediately go into
defense mode, and more importantly, it’s a douchey and illogical thing to do.
#3 Escalating too quickly
A lot of guys make this mistake.
You open the set and the girl is receptive early on and seems into it.
This is a good thing, it means you’re doing your job right.
But this can sometimes make guys overconfident and results in the guy escalating way too
fast by doing something drastically uncalibrated like grabbing the girl’s ass 2 minutes into
the interaction, or trying to attack her face with your tongue too quickly.
Escalating too quickly, shows that you’re desparate and needy as fuck which is why it’s
a huge turn off.
But the other big issue with escalating too fast is that it shows her that you don’t
get other girls because if you did, you wouldn’t be rushing to score a hole in one if you know
what I mean.
Also, since it’s too fast, it puts her in immediate defense mode and ruins your chances
of getting her right there on the spot.
Think about it.
What kind of overzealous, non-pussy getting, needy motherfucker would try going in so aggressively
from the start?
It shows that you’re socially stupid and must be some recluse who probably kidnaps
children in the woods!
Now this shouldn’t be an excuse to not escalate, but you have to escalate the interaction verbally,
before physically, and you should do it in a way that’s natural and organic, so she
not only feels comfortable, but turned ON.
#4 Bad fitting clothing.
If you walk around with super baggy or super tight clothing, the girl is gonna think you’re
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And now, a bonus speed round of turn offs… you ready?
#5 Texting the girl too much #6 Responding to text messages way too fast
#7 Approaching with a low voice and shitty tonality
#8 Lack of eye contact #9 Asking too many questions and treating
the interaction like an interview #10 Dressing like a little kid
#11 Approaching with timid body language #12 Not injecting sexual tension into the
conversation
Now… back to the final turnoff.
#5 or wait…
#13… ah fuck it I don’t remember that speed round threw me off..
Whatever… onto the next tip..
Neediness.
Especially early on in the relationship.
I used to talk about how bad neediness is back when I first started my channel, but
here’s a refresher on the WHY behind what makes neediness such an unattractive personality
trait because it’s an incredibly important distinction to make...
Think about it, if you’re needy and constantly vying for the girl’s attention and affection,
it shows that you’re heavily invested in the girl before you have a reason to be needy.
If you approach and are acting needy from the beginning, it subconsciously communicates
to the girl that you’re a low value guy and that you DON’T get girls often because
if you did, you wouldn’t be acting needy as fuck with the girls you just met… you’d
be playing it much calmer, cool, and collected because you know that you have an abundance
of girls to choose from in your life.
How can you stop neediness then?
This is one of my most asked questions, the best way to stop neediness is stop needing
the validation from any one particular girl… so how do you stop being dependent on her
validation?
Easy… have multiple girls that you’re dating or talking to at any one time, have
other important shit going on in your life that you care about, this way you’re not
so heartbroken if a girl you like immediately rejects you on the approach.
Having a productive and interesting life outside of dating KILLS neediness because you’re
no longer dependent on the outcome with any one girl for your happiness.
And this is powerful, once you can do this, it subconsciously shows to the girl and this
is the secret sauce behind what makes guys “high value.”
And that’s it
IN summar, here are the turnoffs in no particular order:
Neediness Escalating too quickly
Bad fitting clothing Judging the girl
And the inability to take control of the situation
Be sure to keep these in mind in your future interactions and be sure to AVOID doing them
at all costs.
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Zeus out!