- Serious like some woman.
Okay, let's say that the guy is like a black guy,
and the woman is blonde, and she will ask,
"Oh, why are you not with
a woman from Caribbean?" - Oh, yeah.
So, it's like, okay,
don't put that in the first statement of the date.
No, no, no, no.
- Oh my God, do you get that a lot?
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So, today I'm here with Jean again
and Jean will reintroduce himself.
- Hello, I'm Jean, interviewing to Greta,
I have a mindset woman group, special group,
and I'm here today to give you some tips
about relationships, how to get positive attitude
when you're out on a date, when you're out
with someone in a relationship,
for him and for you as well.
- Yes, so Jean will share three things
that he finds really attractive in a woman.
So, let's start with the first one.
- The first one that is attractive
for the kind of guys that ladies here want to get
it's high value, high value mindset of self worth woman.
It's very important for a guy.
It's a natural instinct of a man is to get towards price.
So, the higher value you have,
the more attractive you will be for the man.
And therefore, the way you get self worth value,
is to get a high positive self image.
There is no woman with negative self image
that will attract a high value guy.
It's impossible, it's counter instinctual.
- You need to love yourself.
And ladies, I actually have a video
how does loving yourself will make him love you even more
and you can find it just be following the link right here.
And I'll drop it down in the description box, also.
So, the tip number two, not a tip.
I always say the tip, it's the thing. (laughs)
Number two that turns you on. (laughs)
- It's the attractive point number two.
- There you go.
- Which is very, very important.
It's a very important point, is feminine, sexy, confidence.
So, it's something which is very, very prominent in
the instinct of man to react to,
is like feminine confidence.
Not any type of confidence,
it's real, feminine energy-based confidence.
And it will attract man like magnets.
- So, what else can you give us an example?
- It's like when a woman is assured of herself,
she's confident, she know her value and her worth,
she basically exude a certain type of energy.
She is not too bothered by things around, et cetera.
She know her worth so she's able to smile
when she's on a date.
She's confident, she have confidence.
So you see it in her eyes, in her attitude,
everything is fine.
She's not too nervous, she doesn't go too cold or too warm.
She know her worth and it shows.
- So no asking insecure questions, basically.
- Absolutely.
- No insecure.
- It's like insecure question.
For example, there is some woman.
Let's say that a guy is a black guy
and the woman is blonde.
And she will ask, "Oh, why are you not
"with a woman from Caribbean?"
It's like, okay, don't put that
in the first thing on the date.
No, no, no, no.
- Oh my God, do you get that a lot?
- Yeah, kind of a lot.
- (laughs) Wow.
That's very insecure, and actually,
let me just add something.
What happens a lot is,
when a man starts losing interest in a woman,
and a woman feels that,
and let's say she is blonde and the guy let's say is black,
a woman will start to copy Caribbean woman
because she will assume that this is what he likes
and this is why he starts losing interest.
So when she starts acting actually not white,
and changing herself for a guy.
So ladies, it's really important to be secure and confident.
And if he's coming for you, he is into that.
- Absolutely, it is into you.
It's like you have to understand that everyone is different
and everyone have his or her charm,
but the reason why a man is with you is
because you have this particular charm,
this particular magnetism that he love.
- Don't lose yourself, ladies.
- Don't lose yourself.
And often guys lose interest,
not because you don't do anything,
you don't have to do something different,
but because you don't do anymore what you used to do.
- Yes, when you change for the guy in order to please him,
or assuming that he would like that,
and you lose yourself. (laughs)
- Every change need to be organic.
He's not there for a change,
for a certain change is a natural evolution
and it's what you need to get to.
- Growth, yeah.
- Growth.
- If it's growth, it's yeah.
But if you're changing your personality for the guy,
it's not gonna work.
- Growth is something harmonic.
It's something that resonate
and go in proportion with all the energies inside of you.
And this is very important for you to get growth,
to get harmony, and not to get dis-aspiration
and dis-harmony, and discordance.
- Okay, perfect. (laughs)
I loved that.
So, now the third thing
that you find really attractive in a woman.
- The third thing that I find really attractive,
is like what Greta would call as self positive,
mixed signal, and kind of positive attitude.
Some kind of playfulness where there is-
- He likes a tease. (laughs)
- Yeah, it's like to tease, but in a positive way.
- In a fun way, yeah, feel fun.
- In a fun way.
Yeah, dating and be with each other is supposed to be fun.
And when the guys feels
that you're fun in his presence, he like it.
It's like when people-
- Because you have fun, yeah.
- Because you are fun, absolutely.
Because when people take things too seriously,
it's like there was a coldness inside.
And it's like disrupts the flow of energy,
and what man love in a woman is to feel that she have fun.
- Yeah, you don't connect.
If you guys not having fun,
a lot actually of woman go on the date
and you go like, "Oh, I really like him,
"but he's not calling me."
and they usually say, well,
it could be that he was just not that in to you
because you didn't really connect.
And when you don't really connect he will feel it
and you will feel it.
Guys always get in touch if there is a connection.
If you really had fun and he felt it
and you felt it, like 99% of the time
you're gonna have that second date.
But if it was just kinda official and nice,
well, it's boring.
- It's boring because it feel like a protocol
rather than to feel like an adventure.
And man, his masculine energy love to be free.
So the masculine energy loves a sense of adventure.
It's like you have something to conquer,
something to affirm.
Not in a negative way, not in a manipulative way,
but real fun which is sharing of energy
And is what you need to do.
- And also ladies, if you're the type of woman
who is not very teasy, that doesn't tease,
or is not very playful, the goal is just be yourself.
Just don't be scared to be yourself
because whichever your true self is,
is gonna be unique and is gonna be attractive.
It's better to really be yourself and just to be bland.
Even if you're not as playful,
it's still gonna be much more charming
when you're yourself.
- Absolutely, the thing is authenticity
because a fun come from to discover
the authentic way of the person.
- Don't be bland and boring.
- Yeah, because it's like a lot of things.
It's too cold, so it's like the guy feels nearly robotic.
Men don't need a robot,
they need a woman.
They need someone who provide a certain type of energy
and the reason why often ladies,
they don't have fun on the date is
because they are insecure in themselves.
So, we talk about that in previous videos.
- Exactly, we insecure and we scared to
what he will think if I will say this,
or if I will do that.
And when you think like that,
if fear happens you're just basically failing right there.
- Absolutely because it becomes paralysis by analysis.
You'll think too much about something
and then for you it become rigid and it's like this man-
- The other person feels it, as well.
- Absolutely, there is no flow anymore.
And everything about seduction is about flow.
So when you begin to master your own flow,
when you begin to be secure in yourself
the flow with other person will be facilitated, as well.
- Exactly, so thank you so much, Jean.
I loved the tips.
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