Abraham Hicks Parenting New
Abraham Hicks Parenting New part part of our way about the source if you don't get in the way their inner
being and then we'll be friends forever more
in other words just don't just don't do that thing that parents sometimes do
that keep their children from knowing their power and their clarity they don't
show them how often they are wrong
yeah let them know how often they are right but we have talks that name my son
and I was very cerebral and so he processes everything anything about
everything and try and teach them about that feeling is gonna go to the system
and I just want to make sure I just think it's so look at my mom did that my
mom my parents are amazing they did a great job but if I have that I feel like
my path would have been slightly different I know I'm really happy with
the way so what is it you want your children to know I wanted to know how
powerful there I want to know that they can they can now so do you want them to
you want them to know how are you ever in a position where they have behaved in
a way that you find inappropriate I mean sure so and so involve moments when you
found them inappropriate are you wanting them to know that they are wrong and you
are right
well in a constructive way I would like them to know
blah blah blah blah blah what you're saying some time you want them to listen
to you rather than to their own guidance system and if you get too carried away
with that in time they will forget about their guidance system and they will look
to you and others like you and which is what brought you to the question how can
I what can I do in order to help them to know who they are and we don't take on
that responsibility let their inner being is right there with them if you
will if you will speak in loving support of their guide that is the most
significant thing that you could ever do for anyone so what words could you
choose in a situation where you had an opportunity to have a conversation give
us an example of and I talked about you know whatever comes up we would save you
if you're in the middle of a prayer or or beginning of prayer we if we were
standing in your physical shoes we would say you know the prayers that are the
best our prayers of appreciation because when we are appreciating we are we are
tuned to all of that good stuff and then we are in the receptive mode of being
hit with all of the wonderful answers to prayers that are being offered but if we
are in a place that really needing something and we're praying like begging
them whining and complaining then pleading
even though the prayer our prayers are being answered
we're not in the place to hear it that's the best prayer conversation to have
with anyone
one last thing backs manifestation but continue this question
continue this question how can you guide them toward their alignment you said
well part of our conversation Abraham Hicks Parenting New
I try and teach them mostly cuz my two-year-old is a little small to
understand but that his feelings matter really important and that they will
guide him I'm here to here to help him through them if it's hard for him to
talk about them and but the really important so for example appealing a
feeling that he is it close to you that is important he first child to hear that
action aesthetic kind of blah blah blah blah I just showed our super imposing
all of that on him in other words you haven't gets filled up with what we want
we want to hear examples of what he of living not your interpretation of what
they are and why they are there when they hear what what what what he
experienced in that you are wanting to suit just acceptance from her up himself
I think he he feels fresh and how but how does that manifest you you're you're
deciding that its acceptance of himself and maybe it is but how are you coming
to that what's happening that you're talking with him about and what he's
seen
hehe verbalize it yet he has expectation of others and how they should be and if
it doesn't go that way he feels in charge of it like he has so so so he is
already at that early age living conditional law he wants what he wants
he he believed that if they do it the way he wants them to do it that he will
feel better but he can't control them so he doesn't feel good so so so his
discomfort is he needs he thinks that in order to feel good you have to do
something that he can't do so he holds himself in that sound familiar to
anybody
and he's for his almost interesting though isn't it
so what would you like him to understand what what do you wish that you knew then
that has taken you a while to what what don't you want him to know that he's
like oh of course of course you want that but we're talking about this
specific situation where he where there's somebody doing something that he
doesn't like and he's upset about it because he's not he's in charge you're
in charge of you is that you are in charge of you you listen to your heart
and your feeling so you know you're in charge of you but what it what else do
you want him to know don't you want him to know that that there will always be
someone doing something that will make him unhappy and he's just gotta decide
that he can walk around be unhappy about all the things you can't control or he
can he can look at things that make him feel good and not keep himself helped by
bracingly acted them things you can't control don't you don't you want to know
that yourself and when you like the little guys to start off and so so what
happens when is so weird don't teach so what happens when he doesn't do
something that you expected him to do what does he have responsibilities and
chores does he do anything that he does on a sort of regular basis that you're
trying to train him to do differently Abraham Hicks Parenting New
ya global grounds off on the floor if you do you know if he's in a certain
mood I'll just like he's not hurting his feelings he's just on the floors host
mom I'm feeling very so and what happens to you when he does I just get down to
his level and I look at him and his or anything I can help you with harry looks
like you have something you need to say well what we would demonstrate because
because what you're what you're demonstrating with that be
figure is your happiness matters to me I feel that you're not happy so we need to
work this out
you and I need to control this condition so that you can feel better so that I
can feel better that way that's translating and really whether you admit
it or not that's what's happening you're trying to get him to feel better about
his whatever is happening for him I want to hear what happened but here's why
would you want to validate abrasion that isn't working for him why would you want
that that's what that's what cause that's what makes you call them core
that's what why people call them or rather than just active so what we're
saying is if you really wanted to teach the clarity of your example when he's
experiencing something and therefore he's a condition in your life that isn't
the way you want it to be as you want him to be happy and he isn't that when
you get right down there
into his unhappiness what you demonstrate for him is that it is a
conditional world and that ended in the same way that you're down there tried to
help him through something he needs to get right in there and try to see things
and that is a pair of enormous resistance
give your attempt validate his connection and do not validate his
disconnection how do you have what would you say in that instance ability to
connect what so what is validation is validation vibration is validation
what's validation words
attention is validation if you give him attention when he is feeling bad you are
validating his disconnection if you give him attention when he is feeling good
you validate his connection so what you want to do if you wanna be the ideal
parent treat him like his inner being dog always blowing your positive
expectation but not negatively reacting if he's not there
think about it his interview is right there with him and he can't hear his
inner be so what you're saying is well I need to help him here his interview but
it doesn't help him here his inner being
it validates that he's not here in his inner being if he were getting up so you
wanna be there in every moment that candidates feeling good and sort of beef
scarce we're not saying take your eyes off of him we're saying take your word
for my eyes off of him
we're not saying take your love away from him we're taking you're in the
moment not feeling well but feeling extra something about the way from him
demonstrate what his inner being demonstrate always loving him but here's
the thing
your inner being doesn't get in there and try to manipulate your experience
your inner being just hold steady the vibration of your success so steady that
eventually you're gonna find a way to find it
you think you said I'm so happy I met you Abraham and my life has changed in
so many ways but it wasn't what we brought to you you found your way to who
you really are you see it wasn't enough
asserting our knowledge into your experience you found some vibration
frequencies that were in line with who you really are and came into alignment
with who you really are your children
are closer to their connection than any of you are and yet those who are often
nowhere near alignment are down there trying to lead them into alignment and
so and so the conditional world it's interesting because you're conditional Abraham Hicks Parenting New
world sort of works for you when you're able to stand on your head in some way
that makes someone happy but then your conditional world doesn't work so well
for you when you can't stand on your head in the different ways to make them
happy and what we want to say is stop standing on your head for others and
expect their court to float and just don't be part of the reason that they're
holding that under the water and that's enough