﻿Things Women SECRETLY Want Men To Do [0:00:00]
First up on this list, lie to her. Now, hold on, let me be clear. I’m not talking about
the big ones. Lies about your location, lies about communication, lies about finances, and
lies about how you feel. No, those aren’t good. But, the little ones, that’s where you can bend.
So, I know in my relationship, my wife, whenever she needs something, she asks me,
“Are you busy?” And I have to say nine out of ten times, I think I am, I’m doing research,
I’m reading, I’m answering an email. But, to maintain a health in my relationship,
I’ve learned unless it’s something incredibly important, I always just simply say, “No,
honey. I’m not busy at all. How can I help you?” So, when your partner asks that question,
“Do these jeans make me look fat?” “What you think of dinner? How did it taste?”
Understand, gents, these are traps. She doesn’t want your honesty. [Sound effect]
What the vast majority of women and men want is a little bit of flattery,
something to be said to make them feel better. In today’s video, gents, we’re talking about
things that women secretly want men to do. [Music]
Next up, total stereo type here, but the ladies want a man to be prepared -- and shout
out to my fellow Boy Scouts out there. Now, for me personally, this is what I
always carry in my truck, a portable battery jumpstart that I check every six months to make
sure it’s fully charged. To me, device like this should be essential in any vehicle you drive.
Without a doubt, I use this three to four times a year helping other people that have issues with
their batteries especially when the temperature changes. And, it seems like once every other year,
I’m using it on my own truck whenever I forget to turn off my lights.
Next up, I got a portable air pump, very useful for flat tires. A 10,000 lb tow strap,
very useful when someone gets stuck in a ditch and you got to pull him out. A fire extinguisher,
I never had to use it, but I still think it’s a good option to carry. A map of your local area.
Believe it or not, there are still parts of the world that do not have cell reception.
Multitools, knives, incredibly handy in a variety of situations that you can’t
predict. A first aid kit, every vehicle should have one and you need to make sure
it stays stocked. And, of course, duct tape. Next up, on our list, the ladies want you to be
smart with your finances. Now, I notice that I’m not saying that you have to be rich. No,
what I’m talking about here is being smart with your financial decisions.
I mean, from your perspective, would you want a partner that’s reckless with money? No,
of course not. All right, so if that’s the case, let me ask, what’s your credit card balance
today? How many credit cards do you actually have balances on? Do you know what all your
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All right. Next up, the ladies they want to be romanced. And maybe they’ve told you this,
you’ve heard this before, but you got to understand they’re like an oven,
they take time to warm up to a lot of things. You know, you’re like a microwave oven, you’re
ready to go within seconds, you have that popcorn done in what, in like a minute and a half? For the
ladies, it -- it just takes time to warm up. Here’s the thing though, once you get them
hot, once, it’s, you know, they’re excited about something, they actually do a pretty good job of
maintaining that heat and intensity. So, there’s a lot of benefits, but you’ve just got to understand
that they are not same as me and you. Nature made men in a certain way that, boom,
we’re ready to go. And in some cases, the ladies, you know, are like that, but most of the time,
they need to be warmed up. So, guys, it’s an old cliché, but use it to your advantage. Start in
the morning, get them excited about whatever it may be and, yeah, it will pay dividends later.
Next up, she wants you to bring back those old school manners. I’m talking about holding a
door for her. I’m talking about paying on the first date. These are things that I know it’s
a little bit controversial in today’s society -- and I would love to hear from you guys down
in the comments. Agree? Disagree? I think and from the research I’ve seen,
the women absolutely love these old school type of manner techniques. Not overdoing it, but bringing
flowers on the first date, you bet. [0:04:58]
Next up, you want to listen to her behavior and body language. Not always what she says. So,
with my wife, we’re at – and this is when we were dating. I remember walking to a store
and she saw a necklace. She really liked it, but it was way – she felt too expensive.
She would not buy this piece of jewelry for herself or even ask me to buy it. I offered
to right there, I’m like, “Hey, let’s get a souvenir.” She’s like, “No,” you know,
I don’t – it is – it’s too expensive and we moved on. But, I knew that since she looked at this,
she even thought of – we talked about a couple of outfits before we saw the price.
I knew that she would wear this. And, when she wasn’t looking, I said,
hey, I have to run to the bathroom. What I did is I ran back to that store and I purchased it.
And I didn’t tell her about it. I wait – waited until we got back home. It was like a month later,
our anniversary and guess what she got? She got that necklace and it blew her away.
She’s like, “Wait a minute. This is that necklace.” She remembered it. I knew that
she had had hopes and that she really liked that piece. My wife is not an extravagant person, but
I paid attention to the way she reacted to it. I could tell that there was something different
about this piece. She doesn’t normally look at jewelry and it was something that you know
what? I’m going to splurge a bit, I’m going to get her something. I want to be a little bit patient
and I’m going to deliver so that she will know that I think of her like that.
And that’s what the ladies love is that when you put in that extra bit of thought
that you’re listening to them, you’re hearing them whenever, you know, what they say, oh,
you know, they’re – the – it’s got like you with, yeah, that fancy toolbox that you know you wanted.
Yeah, it’s like, yeah, don’t worry about it, but you know secretly you wish people knew that you
wanted that huge toolkit or that – that brand new Ford F150. You know what I’m talking about.
Go with the Chevy, come one, be – be a Chevy guy. Point being is look at the way people react. You
can tell when somebody really wants something and you can make their day when they know that
they’re heard even when they don’t say a word. So, this next lesson took me fifteen years to
learn and I’m going to share it with you, guys. Hard-earned advice here -- and that is just listen
to her sometimes, do not offer advice. And it’s funny, you know, I do all these videos, ten steps
to do this, ten steps to do that. And so, when my wife tells me her problems, guess what? Of course,
I want to give her, well, here’s how you fix it. They don’t want a solution a lot of times. It’s
crazy, but they just want somebody to talk to, somebody to let out their emotions on. And,
magically like the solution seems to find its way there or they – it moves on,
it’s not a big deal anymore once they unload. But, if you always try to provide the solution,
if you always try to say, hey, babe, well, this is exactly what you need to do.
If you try to take action too much or get her to take action, that is the wrong course of action.
Yes, in some cases, it is what you want to do, but most of the time, they just simply
want to have a partner. Want to have somebody in their life that they can unload on and not,
yeah, not have anything negative come back to them, which they view sometimes as that whole,
yeah, the action steps, yeah, they don’t want to do that. They just simply want you to listen.
I know, it’s tough, but you can do it. Gents, quick question for you. What do you
think of today’s video? Like it? Dislike it? How about you go down there and smash
that like button or smash that dislike button. Whatever it is you want to hit,
I’d love to hear back and get feedback on whether or not I should make more videos like this.
Next up, take the bull by the horns and make the decision. You make the call, plan out what you’re
going to do. Whenever she says, “Hey, what would you like to do?” Don’t reply with, “Oh, I don’t
know, whatever you want to do.” Well, I want to do – it’s going to go back and forth. Don’t be a
limp, you know, a limp handy or a limp fish. No, you want to have a direction. Now, I’m not
saying that you need to railroad her here. What I am saying is that you need to, hey, I’ve got
a plan. Share it with her, see if she agrees, if she’s cool with that and then, go with it. But,
women appreciate a man with a plan. Again, I’m not saying that you got to
overpower her, that you got to always have it your way, you just simply are presenting because
people are busy, people are – they have a lot of things going on in their lives.
And it’s really nice, I appreciate it whenever I show up and a buddy of mine,
if he’s running an event, he’s got an itinerary, he’s got everything laid out, he’s already planned
everything because I’m like, wow, I can actually relax. I can take, you know, put
my legs up and actually enjoy this versus having to be the person to take charge of everything.
This is something a lot of women don’t want to say it because we live in a world in which, you know,
she’s got to be this, almost like the alpha dog herself. No, a lot of ladies, they understand,
hey, I appreciate it when a man puts that effort, he brings me in, gets my approval,
and then we just simply move forward with his plan. They’re cool with that. And, if
she’s not, well, it may be a red flag for you. Now, this next one is really tough because I got
a huge ego and that is admitting that I am wrong, saying I am sorry, apologizing. Here’s the thing
is that is it worth it to be right and to ruin the relationship versus saying, “You know what?
Maybe there isn’t a right solution here. Maybe I’m just not seeing it from her perspective.”
I think that this is really enabled my relationship to be stronger,
because I don’t hold a grudge very long, at least in my opinion. But, my wife,
she’ll hold that grudge for a while and she could stay angry. I’m like, wow, like
something I did in the morning, she’s still upset when I go for a run and I’m fine with that.
[0:09:58] But, she’s a different person and you’ve
got to realize that it is sometimes just simply worth apologizing, letting that person that, hey,
you know, I’m sorry that we had that, you know, disagreement like we fought and I love you,
I care about you, you are important to me. And, I just want to apologize, I’m a human being.
And I find that that right there even if they don’t forgive you at that moment even if like
they’re still a little bit frustrated, the next day or even maybe a few – maybe even a month
later, you know, I don’t know what relationship we’re talking about here with you, but it is
something that I feel better, I sleep better at night knowing that I don’t go to bed upset.
Maybe I’m a little bit upset, but, again, you know, I make that effort to apologize
to be able to let that person know that the relationship I have with them
is much more important than me being right all the time, even though I am right all the time,
which you guys know. Yeah, got to swallow the ego, guys and you got to apologize and that is going
to make your relationship so much better. All right, gents. So, what video to watch
next? How about this one right here, signs that you’re going to be successful? In this video,
I talked about the habits, I talked about the things that if you’re doing this,
you’re going to be successful and if you’re not, you need to start doing them.
What are they? Find out, gents, by watching this video, which I’ll link to as well
down in the description. [0:11:11] End of audio