- The only person who should contact your ex
is a medical provider
if you accidentally leave them as your emergency contact
and you better be literally dying.
- I thank you for triggering me
by reminding me that I don't have health insurance
in this country.
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- I strongly believe that texting an ex is a mistake.
Texting an ex will only lead to hurt
and opening up old wounds
for either you or the person that you're trying to text.
- Texting an ex is so important.
We as a generation have such a stigma
around online communication.
So, let's re socialize ourselves
and start with the most painful part of communication,
texting an ex.
- I would say that most people end relationships
because of something that happened.
So, texting an ex is just gonna bring up
that old stuff again.
- Sometimes relationships finish too soon
and then, you're not able to really get
to the heart of what the problem is.
And instead of bottling it up and ultimately exploding,
you should text your ex and just check in and be like,
"Hey, what the (bleep) happened?"
- But even if you want to get back into contact with them,
texting is not the way to do it.
Texting is always read poorly.
Give 'em a call, tell 'em you wanna meet up
and talk about it in person
- Texting has only just entered the atmosphere
and we think it means so much,
where it's just like exposure therapy.
If we just text someone one, two, a hundred times in a row,
that's what dating me is like,
then, you know what happens, you lose the stress
and then, whenever someone does or doesn't reply,
you're okay with it, as opposed to this nonsense.
- Are you okay with it? - Never.
- I think if you text an ex it just shows that your weak,
that you're ready to be the one to, like, end the silence.
It's just putting you at harm because you're the one
that's opening yourself up to that hurt again.
You give them all the deciding power,
which isn't healthy for you,
isn't healthy for a relationship.
- Everyone is so obsessed with power
and who is more important
but maybe if we just leveled the playing field
then, we won't need as much therapy as you do,
five times a week.
And so, maybe it is important that we text someone,
text an ex and just let them know, "Hey, hope you're well."
Absence makes the heart grow fonder
but the issue is that when you break up with someone
and you don't stay in contact with them,
you romanticize what you had and think,
"Maybe we should get back together,"
when the reality is you shouldn't.
- So, you shouldn't text your ex is what your saying.
- No, you're missing the point.
Let's say you and your partner break up
because they were bad at communicating,
and then, you send them a text,
and then, they reply intermittently
and it's very wishy-washy,
what are you reminded of?
The fact that they're a bad communicator,
so, you know not to get back.
Let's say you don't text them
and then, you see a couple of photos on Instagram
of them looking hot because you're horny,
and then, you're like, "Huh, we should (bleep) again."
A trap!
You know, people say, "Go cold turkey."
But cold turkey is bad, you know.
If you're gonna go from a full blown relationship
to absolutely no contact, you're a psycho.
- Instead of eating cold turkey, you can have ham,
(gavel bangs)
which is equivalent to (bleep) someone else, so.
Also, I quit smoking cold turkey.
(applause) Never felt better.
My lungs, free.
- Must be nice to be the 1%.
Learning to be alone is important.
When you text an ex and they don't reply,
then, you're forced to feel that loneliness.
And then, you can confront the issues
the same way if you didn't text them.
So, if the outcome is the same, why not do what I'm saying?
- Use that loneliness to go on some dates,
find a hobby, get a (bleep) life.
- Texting your ex is really important.
And I know that we might have focused
on the idea of the current relationship
but when we text more, we care less,
and that is my hashtag.
So, if you wanna move on and not give a (bleep)
about texting someone on Bumble
or texting some random person, then text your ex
because it's really just lowering your desire
to care so much.
- Texting your ex just shows
that you're not ready to move on.
It shows that you're weak,
that they have the power in the situation,
that you're just willing to give it to them
by being lonely or whatever you're feeling.
But there's always a different scenario,
you could not text them,
you could find a friend to hang out with,
you could go on a date,
you could try so many different things
but just don't go down that route
because you will get hurt, again.
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(laughs) - Didn't see you there.
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which is obviously gonna be mine
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- You don't think the other person is going to contact you
- If you're as confused by that poin as I am, leave a comment.
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- Let me explain further...
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- Either person in the relationship
can do the texting of the ex.
- If that point was as muddled to you as is it
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